Dr R A Y

Don't forget everyone who's been special. And thank you for giving that special person a treat

1. Take small steps
2. Focus on self-love and self-care
3. Ask yourself why you are afraid and be honest with your answer
4. Don’t judge the other person by what has happened to you before
5. Understand that everyone is different and treat them like a new book
6. Understand it is normal to be scared, but make peace with the hope of bliss
7. Be patient with yourself and be open to loving and being loved.

1. Take small steps
2. Focus on self-love and self-care
3. Ask yourself why you are afraid and be honest with your answer
4. Don’t judge the other person by what has happened to you before
5. Understand that everyone is different and treat them like a new book
6. Understand it is normal to be scared, but make peace with the hope of bliss
7. Be patient with yourself and be open to loving and being loved.









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Honestly, it is hard to just put an answer out there as there are too many tales that defend the case one way or the other, so lets have your thoughts first.












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It's the holidays and what better moment to have some time of the hustle and bustle of the work days and have some fun moments to remind and rebuild the love between you and your spouse.

Maximize this moment and see the results therein.

Have fun, have love and give love. This season.

Dr. Ray.









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Have you asked yourself why the last relationship broke down?
Or maybe your current relationship is spiraling down?
What if you didn’t love enough, or you were taking someone’s love for granted?
In retrospect, love expects love in return and if it doesn’t get it back it goes.

Look inward and Love right.
Dr. Ray

Signs you are in love

Love doesn’t always look the same and is very different for everyone.

It is progressive and in stages from a flicker to butterflies and full-blown love. Some signs you are feeling more than a flicker are as follows

- You are curious about them
- You want to share your world with them
- They are always in your thought
- You are wondering to know if they love you too
- You feel like a teenager again
- You crave them
- You even find their quirks attractive
- You pick some of their traits
- You start to envision a future with them in it
- You feel safe with them
- Life gets more interesting
- Your goals seem clearer

There are more peculiarities to everyone, add yours let’s hear it.

Making an Impact with Intimacy

I was having a chat with someone, she said her spouse doesn’t see her. And it occurred to me that we all want to be seen for who we are, what we can do, and what we have to offer. It’s one of the many reasons we look forward to Christmas and our birthday. Or to do things on social media and wait for the comments and number of likes.

Just to be seen and loved.

So also, our spouses want us to see them. So, how can we show our spouse – our BEST friend – that we appreciate them?

It is by making an impact with intimacy:
• Spend some quality time with your spouse. It shows them they come first.
• Tell your spouse how much you admire them. It’ll boost their confidence.
• Do the chores your spouse knows you don’t enjoy. It speaks volumes about how much you love them.
• Bring home a surprise gift or make a handcrafted card. It shows you were thinking of them.
• Hold hands, rub their shoulder, or just lean gently on your spouse. It says to them “You’re mine.”

In this month of May, as we surge through the feelings and emotions of our activities and work, may the concept of love light the spark of hope through us.

When you first start dating someone, there might be a slight air of tension as you secretly wonder if your relationship is on the right track. Are you bonding? Will you stick together? Will there come a day when everything just stops? Don’t wait, with love you either give it your all or you give it nothing.

1 he feels comfortable around you – so long as he feels welcomed in your presence he would want to stay there longer.

2 he seeks out your company – a sign of a long term

3 he is looking to introduce you to his family and friends – it means he can trust his future with you. – signs of a long term

4 - He easily tells you his future plans and goals and puts you in these pictures – signs of a long term

5 – he might be a shy type or not a PDA type but still takes you out – a sign of a long term

6- if you notice communications are breaking out and high and lows – signs of a short term

7 – intimacy – intimacy doesn’t always mean s*x, if he likes to be intimate with you – a sign of a long term

8 – if he is always Aggressive or confrontational – sign of a short term

9 – if he is willing to teach you things he wants for the future –sign of a long term

10- if he is talking about God to you- sign of a long term.