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Fatherhood Academy, Abuja (2026)

25/09/2026

Understanding the subject of fatherhood and headship is a very vital one.

It is important because while we all agree that fathers are the heads of families, we have not fully grasped the extent of that leadership. That is why when fathers fail in one area like provision, we discard them and call them 'useless', 'irresponsible', etc.

Our lack of understanding of this has resulted in the emergence of acephalic, leaderless (lacking a chief, director or guiding authority) and rudderless ( lacking direction or control) entities called families.

People who come from homes like these become burdens on society.

Using the analogy of the human head, we will enlighten fathers on what their roles are.

Join us at our monthly program tagged Fathers Interactive on Sunday September 27, 2026 as we explore the topic: UNDERSTANDING THE HEADSHIP OF FATHERS. See attached flier for further details.

Invite every father you know.
.. raising super fathers establishing families!

19/09/2026

This is the age of technology and that goes without saying.

While our children are very much at home with the innovations that technology brings, a good number of parents are struggling to cope with the trend.

Technology has its advantages and disadvantages and our children need guidance so they don't become victims of the down sides of technology.

Social media which is a by product of technology is like a wild life park and every child needs to be guided accordingly by the parents.

Fatherhood presence goes a long way in determining how our children engage the world including social media, a place where many children spend their time and engage.

At the Value Added Fatherhood Academy (VAFA), we are committed to raising super fathers.
.. raising super fathers establishing families!

See YouTube link below to watch the full interview.

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17/09/2026

Value Added Fatherhood Academy (VAFA) is inviting you to her scheduled monthly prayer meeting.

Alliance of Praying Fathers
Date: Saturday, 19th September 2026
Time: 8pm
Venue: Telegram

It is a prayer meeting for fathers where we pray solely for our families.

Join us and invite every father you know.

At Value Added Fatherhood Academy (VAFA), we are committed to raising super fathers.

Join us using this link:

https://t.me/+RBOj1rqtErlmZGQ8

12/09/2026

Story telling is the art of telling stories.

It was Rudyard Kipling who said, 'If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten"

Embedded in stories are lessons which are difficult to forget.

It is easy to remember stories and that comes with quick reminders of the lessons embedded in them.

Among many advantages, stories are told in informal settings and that in itself facilitates the learning process.

In addition, the teller connects with his audience at a deeper level as life experiences are shared which has a way of connecting people.

As stories are told, the listeners can draw lessons far beyond the tellers scope because stories appeal to us at different levels.

It is difficult to forget stories.

During story telling, listeners can ask questions and this in itself is an icebreaker that enhances connection and relationships.

As fathers, if you haven't explored the amazing world of story telling, please consider it as it is a very effective way of teaching and guiding children.

At Value Added Fatherhood Academy (VAFA), we are committed to raising super fathers.

09/09/2026

HIGH PRIEST LOW FATHER

Eli needs no introduction, much of what we know about him are things that cast a very dark shadow i.e. the gross misconduct of his two sons; Hophni and Phinehas whom scriptures called sons of belial (iniquity) (a). Ironically, while people called them sons of Eli the high priest, scriptures called them otherwise. Such contradiction! The big question is; ‘what does God call my children?’

It is heart rending that the important role Eli played in midwifing Samuel spiritually which saw the emergence of Israel’s first two Kings is dwarfed by who he was as a parent. That is attributable to the lax manner he handled his son’s misbehavior (b).

Eli was not the only father in scriptures whose children died as result of disobedience but he is one father who suffered much for doing nothing concerning his children’s sins. Much as we see Eli rebuke his sons, as far as God was concerned, he failed to discipline them. Nadab and Abihu the two sons of Aaron the high priest in the days of Moses died for offering a strange fire before God, God killed Er and Onan, two sons of Judah for their wickedness.

So, why was Eli’s case different? Aside been a father to rebellious sons, he was also the high priest and his sons were priests under him whose sins had a negative effect on the spiritual lives of the people (c). The effect of Eli’s non disciplinary stance had a ripple effect. Even when confronted with the looming judgment, Eli simply said; ‘It is the Lord’s will…let Him do what He thinks best’ (d).

Apparently, Eli’s sons grew up unchecked because Eli was old when he heard of all they were doing which suggests a history of misbehaviour (e) which required drastic action. God said, he (Eli) was; ‘honoring his sons above Him’ (f). ,…’I have warned him that judgment is coming upon his family forever, because his sons are blaspheming me and he hasn’t disciplined them…, the sins of Eli and his sons will never be forgiven…’ (g). this completely diminishes Eli’s feeble correction in 1 Samuel 2:23-25.

Scriptures teach that; ‘the lips of a priest should preserve knowledge, and men should seek instruction from his mouth; for he is the messenger of the Lord of hosts (h).

Believably, Eli knew what to do concerning his son’s misconduct but for unknown reasons, he did nothing. God judged his family as he and his sons died same day and the family lost the priesthood, eventually (i).

Eli was a HIGH Priest but LOW father and there are many Elis today; busy and highly applauded in spiritual circles but failures at home. Ironically, while the instructions of fathers like Jonadab were echoing through generations, Eli failed to discipline his sons.

Scriptures prescribe a very harsh remedy for handling rebellious children; parents were to bring such sons to the elders for ex*****on (j). Though there is no record in scripture to show where this was practiced, it showed that rebellion and disobedience were not to be condoned. While that cannot be practiced in contemporary times, the underlying principles and lessons are still very valid; rebellion must not be condoned in children and parents should seek help when overwhelmed.

Long ago, parents sent their ‘stubborn’ children to live with teachers for training. That was one way of acknowledging their helplessness and seeking help and it largely worked.

Many of today’s parents cover children’s misbehaviour and shield them from discipline forgetting that ‘he who covers his sins shall not prosper’. Some even go to the embarrassing extent of harassing teachers who attempt to set their children straight.

Parents must understand that a poorly behaved child does not necessarily mean parental failure. Even when a child’s misbehaviour is due to the negligence of parents, such parents can seek help in straightening the erring child and also turn new leaves themselves.

We must be sensitive enough to know when and where to seek necessary help concerning a child’s behaviour.

Be careful so that the child you refuse to discipline today does not destroy all you have laboured for.

In Eli, we see a troubling occurrence where a father suffered for the misconduct of his children. That is a far cry from the more familiar scenarios where children suffer for the misconduct of parents

Proper child upbringing is primarily the responsibility of parents.

Scriptural References: (a. 1 Samuel 2:12, b. 1Samuel 3:13, c. 1 Kings 2:13-22, d. 1 Samuel 3:18, e. 1 Samuel 2:22, f. 1 Samuel 2:28b, g. 1 Samuel 3:13-14, h. Malachi 2:7NASB, i. 1 Samuel 2:27-36, 1 Kings 2:26, j. Deuteronomy 21:18-21).

02/09/2026

A MOTHER’S GIFT TO THE WORLD
Eunice’ anonymous husband was Greek (which calls to question the kind of father she had) but her mother Lois was Jewish and had a reputation for godliness as attested to by Paul the Apostle. Scriptures only mention a son named Timothy.

Lois was a very good Disciple of Christ and she transferred her faith to her daughter Eunice who in turn groomed her son Timothy. (Acts 16:1-3, 2 Timothy 1:5)

That is exceptional because Christianity is not hereditary; everyone must have a personal encounter and relationship with Christ irrespective of spiritual heritage. Eunice deserves our commendation because undoubtedly, she guided Timothy on the path of godliness.

Timothy was well spoken of by everyone in his community (Acts 16:2), that is hugely significant because sometimes, as Christians, there is no correlation between the faith we profess and our character/lifestyle. The Spirit of God produces good character.

On their second missionary journey, Paul and his team came across Timothy and desired to take him along with them (Acts 16:1-4) However, there was a setback; he was not circumcised possibly because his father was Greek. Though that did not matter in the new birth, it had the potential to negatively affect their work. Timothy agreed to be circumcised and that is praiseworthy as he desired to see things work.

We do not know his age at this time but considering the pain associated with circumcision, we salute his sacrifice! Mind you, he did not have to work with Paul, after all it was the Apostle who desired to take him along not the reverse and he could also have opted to serve God in less painful ways but he submitted to this process.

He could have given reasons even citing relevant scriptures why he did not have to be circumcised and that would be justified but he did not. Many times, so much time is wasted bickering over issues that valuable time and opportunities for ministry and service are lost.

Undoubtedly, his upbringing, mother’s encouragement and support cannot be exempted from his nobility.

Timothy’s companionship and ministry was of great benefit to the apostle, and by extension the body of Christ. The bible books which bear his name were letters written to him by Paul and have brought tremendous comfort and encouragement to multitudes over the years and the lessons therefrom are ageless.

Paul refers to him as a ‘true son in the faith’ (1 Timothy 1:2), ‘my beloved son’ (2 Timothy 1:2), and says; ‘I have no one else like Timothy, who genuinely cares about your welfare. All the others care only for themselves and not for what matters to Jesus Christ. But you know how Timothy has proved himself. Like a son with his father, he has served with me in preaching the Good News’ (Philippians 2:20-22).

Timothy was one of the most outstanding companions of the Apostle; fine Christian gentleman, faithful soldier and trusted servant of God.

Bible history tells us that he was Bishop of the church at Ephesus at a very tender age (1 Timothy 4:12). That assignment was very daunting considering the dangerous teaching which was threatening the Ephesian Church (2 Timothy 1:3-4), but he faced it with grit, encouragement from the Apostle, the might and grace of God and succeeded.

He is a shining example for Christian youths today.
Whatever Timothy became, we can confidently trace to his mother Eunice. In him, her labours are glaring and only eternity can estimate her invaluable contribution to the kingdom through her investment in her son. He remains HER GIFT TO THE WORLD and the blessedness of that gift will ring through time.

Remarkably, the Bible is silent about Timothy’s father and no reason is adduced for this. Eunice stood her ground as a mother and nurtured Timothy. I can only imagine what she had to contend with; married to a non-Jew and following Christ in her time. Present day mothers have a lot to learn from her.

We pray that God will help parents awaken to their responsibilities and nurture our children so they will become gifts to our world.
Lord, give us mothers like EUNICE.

29/08/2026

At the Value Added Fatherhood Academy (VAFA), we believe that the more fathers engage and learn about effective fatherhood, the better fathers they become.

We become what we consistently see and hear.

That is the reason for the Fathers Interactive which is a monthly program where fathers and prospective fathers come to learn, unlearn and relearn.

The August edition of the Fathers Interactive is coming up tomorrow August 30, 2026 at 5:30 pm. Venue is HOKF Garden Wuye District Abuja. (See attached flier)

It is going to be an informal and physical meeting.

Tell every father you know because it will be a time of refreshing and enlightenment.

At the Value Added Fatherhood Academy (VAFA), we are committed to raising super fathers.
.. raising super fathers establishing families!

27/08/2026

A FATHER'S UNPLEASANT LEGACY
David ‘made a name for himself’ when he slaughtered 18,000 Edomites in the valley of salt. He also put garrisons there and all the Edomites became his servants (2 Samuel 8:13-14).

In furtherance of that campaign, Joab the commander of his army stayed in Edom for 6 months and eliminated every male (1 Kings 11:15-16).Such a devilish strategy to wipe out a people! And not just a people but their brothers. How could our dear David be associated with such a heinous act?

David was applauded by the Israelites for this action because they hated the Edomites. However, the campaign was an unfortunate one because it was disobedience to God’s law who forbade the Israelites from making trouble with the Edomites because they descended from the same father Isaac. Remember that Esau was Edom, brother to Jacob who later became Israel (Deut. 23:7-8)

In addition to the fact that David’s victory was disobedience to God’s command, it further increased the gulf between the 2 nations and sowed seeds of bitterness for his children. Sorely, the Israelites didn’t see it that way but interpreted it as 'victory'.

The unseen trouble was that though Joab did his best to eliminate every male in Edom, a little boy named Hadad escaped with some of his father’s servants to Egypt where he found favour with Pharaoh who gave him a house, food and land. Pharaoh also gave him his wife’s (Queen Tahpenes) sister as wife and they bore a son named Genubath who grew up in the palace of Pharaoh (1 Kings 11:17-21)

When Hadad heard that King David and Joab the commander of his army had died, he sought permission from Pharaoh and returned to Israel and became an adversary to Solomon (1 Kings 11:21,25b). That was despite the fact that Solomon and Hadad never met or had any dealings.

All these would have been avoided if David obeyed God’s word to Israel not to harm the Edomites but he didn’t, so aside the good things which Solomon inherited from him, he also unknowingly inherited trouble.

If David foreknew the consequences of his genocide campaign against the Edomites, he would have thought and acted differently. But he didn’t even need to know the consequences of his actions, all that was necessary was obedience to God’s command. Saul also paid dearly with the lives of his 7 sons when he tried to wipe out the Gibeonites in disobedience to a subsisting covenant (1 Samuel 21)

Obedience to God's word is a safety net and for fathers, that safety extends to our offspring.

Sometimes in life, the basis on which we ‘make names for ourselves’ and are celebrated by others is abominable to God just as David ‘made a name’ for himself when he actually disobeyed God by killing the Edomites. While that may have been the result of ignorance, present day Kings (fathers) cannot afford to be ignorant but need to be mindful and deliberate about their actions.

Fathers need to be cautious so as not to sow trouble for their children. While we may have the power to destroy the ‘Edomites’ like David did, the question is; ‘Will our children have our kind of strength/power to destroy the offspring of the Edomites?’ Solomon could not destroy Hadad and scriptures say that he was his adversary (1 Kings 11:25). Solomon made matters worse by not following God fully (1 Kings 11:9, 14).

One way fathers can prepare the future for their children is to refrain from evil, actively pursue peace and do good . They need to understand that power is nothing without control, hence the need to live today conscious of our tomorrows.

We pray that any father who has transgressed and is unknowingly storing up wrath for his children will find mercy from God and such wrath averted.

May God help our fathers to leave beautiful legacies for our children in Jesus name.

23/08/2026

Isaiah 37:31 says 'they shall take root downward and bear fruit upward'

Those were the words of prophet Isaiah to King Hezekiah as a promise of restoration after a season of gloom and darkness.

Taking root downward signifies foundations which are always hidden, invisible, private and sometimes, uncelebrated.

Bearing fruit upward' on the other hand signifies visible results, outward effects which we see after proper foundations have been put in place.

Truth is foundations must be in place in order to see good results.

Parenting is that foundation and when it is well laid out children go out to be good ambassadors and additions to the society.

And fathers as heads of families must take their place in the process of raising great children.

Come Wednesday, August 26, 2026, I shall be speaking on the topic: THE PRESENT FATHER ADVANTAGE. In it we shall look at why fathers need to be present and how they can be present actively in families in order to raise super children. See flier for details

It is virtual and registration is free. Every father and prospective father is invited.
.. raising super fathers establishing families!

19/08/2026

RIPPLE EFFECT OF KINDNESS
Scriptures refer to her as a notable woman and her path crossed Elisha’s when the prophet paid repeated visits to Shunem where she lived with her aged husband. Her kind nature manifested generously as she provided food for Elisha as often as he visited the town. Sensing that Elisha was a man of God, she appealed to her husband on the need to up their concern for him by building a small upper room on the wall furnished with a bed, table, chair and lamp stand.

The husband agreed and Elisha stayed there whenever he was in Shunem. It was an intervention Elisha did not ask for but it was what he needed (2 Kings 4:8-11).

Overwhelmed by her kindness, during one of his visits, Elisha asked her; ‘do you want me to speak on your behalf to the king or to the commander of the army?’ That was a once in a life time opportunity that many would scamper after but she completely disarmed us when she replied; ’Nothing, I am secure and satisfied in my family’. That was contentment at its finest which meant she was doing all that for Elisha with no hope of reward.

It took Gehazi’s intervention for Elisha to know that she was childless. But how come she never mentioned that to Elisha when he asked? Had she given up on that area of her life? Perhaps, she had passed the age of child bearing and closed that chapter in her mind. Believably, she accepted what life served her in good fate.

Like Sarai who laughed when the angels told her of her impending conception, this woman disbelieved Elisha’s word that she would conceive. However, she conceived and bore a son at the appointed time as the prophet had said and that rejuvenated her waning years (2 Kings 4:12-17)

One day, the boy took ill, things happened very quickly and before long, he died. The woman laid him on Elisha’s bed and frantically went in search of the prophet who prayed and the boy came back to life, again rekindling her fading smile. Like a stage play, the curtains were drawn on her and her family in what was only a scene in a beautiful drama (2 Kings 4:18-36)

Her family came under the spotlight again after some years when history was repeated as it happened in the days of Elijah as God called for a famine in the land for seven years. However, this time, because of her earlier kindness, she was spared the agony when Elisha informed her of the approaching famine and told her, ‘Arise and go, you and your household, and stay wherever you can; for the Lord has called for a famine, and furthermore, it will come upon the land for seven years’ (2 Kings 8:1).

‘So the woman arose and did according to the saying of the man of God; went with her household and dwelt in the land of the Philistines for seven years; an action which exemplified complete faith. After embracing a son following Elisha’s first prophecy, it was easier for her to believe him again. She contrasts deeply with Lot who though warned by angels hesitated to leave S***m and Gomorrah. Though he eventually left, he lost his wife in the process.

On her return after seven years, she met that her house and land had been taken over, so she appealed to the king. Fortunately, she arrived the king’s presence at the same time Gehazi was briefing him on the mighty deeds of Elisha and mentioned her case. Just then Gehazi saw her and showed her to the king. Her property was promptly restored to her (2 Kings 8:2-6).

One act of kindness gave her a son, preserved the son, saved her from famine and restored all she lost during the famine. In this increasingly selfish world, this woman teaches us to be kind just as scriptures enjoin us.

Kindness which is the quality of been friendly, generous and considerate is a fruit of the Spirit which every child of God possesses and should manifest. Imagine how beautiful our world will be if we all exhibit that wonderful fruit.

While the rewards of kindness may not always be this spectacular, we are blessed for doing God’s will.

As we walk in kindness, let us equally trust in the guidance of the Holy Spirit so no one will take advantage of us.

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