Abiola

A said "well done! I like the way you handled this area but you need to improve on other areas, I know you can do better"

While B said "This is rubbish! you didn't even try at all, it's bad!"

The former is constructive while the latter is destructive.

We need to be sensitive enough while criticizing others' efforts. Some minds are not immune to destructive criticism, the moment you utter those discouraging words, they become discouraged and you end up weakening their confidence.

I'm sure almost everyone would prefer the first statement. It's subtle yet effective! It is even a quiet way of challenging the person to put in their best.

Knowing fully well that we will always come across insensitive people, we should build a wall of defense against destructive criticism and learn not to take such things to heart.

SISTER RABI

Sister Rabi👩‍🎓 is on a diet but she has been finding it difficult to stick with her weight loss food plan🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ because she couldn't just abandon an innocent-looking Pounded yam felefele🍚 and Efo riro🥗 that comprises of Ogufe,🐐 Pomo,🐏Igbin🐚🐚🐌🦀 ati beebelo, for plain Cabbage.

Now, Sister Rabi👩‍🎓 is saying the only help she can render to the Cabbage is to devour it shortly after she's through eating the Pounded yam🍚. That way, the Cabbage will suppress the weight of the Pounded yam inside her stomach.🤪🤪🤪 She will even add liquid peak milk to the Cabbage. oniranu ni sister Rabi yi🤣😂😂😂🤣😂 How come it's only the Pounded yam that is looking innocent? Why is the Cabbage looking wicked to her?😆😆😆

Funnily, she's always complaining about her Dietitian: she would say "my Dietitian no too sabi work, him food plan no dey work".🙄🙄🙄

How food plan wan take work,😏😏 when Pounded yam is always looking innocent to you, Sister Rabi?😝😝😝😝

Is Sister Rabi serious with her life laidis? 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Are you Sister Rabi?😜😜

Some people envy you, not because you are doing better than them, but because of the Grace you carry.
The answer is simple: you are probably not aware of the great potential in you and these people can see them already.

Consequently, they see you as a threat. Some of them wouldn't stop at just envying you; they might go the extra mile to quench your fire. Reasons we all need to be prayerful and careful.

On the other hand, some envy you because you're doing better than them. This set of people are insecure and tend to use others' success as a parameter to measure theirs. Some of them would turn to compete with you while some would do everything to bring you down.

Funnily, they aren't strangers. They are your friends, colleagues, neighbors, business partners, family members, e.t.c. Most times, it is you who feed them with too much information. Once you perceive envy around you, then it's time to seal your lips; stop divulging too much information about yourself.

Please, kindly be informed that there are people who are truly supporting you and will like to see you become prosperous. Such people are rare, but they are real. May God give us the spirit of discernment.

Earlier this year, I created a profile on Upwork.

I submitted a proposal for a paid six-month internship program with a Digital Marketing Firm. I was more concerned about what I would offer the organization and the knowledge I would gain from working with them. It would be an experiential learning program.

I was shortlisted for the first stage of the interview. I was so delighted.💃💃💃 Aside from the questions, my typing skills and internet speed were tested. Also, I was asked to create a Google Form, which I did.

Then, I was shortlisted for the second stage of the interview. I was optimistic! I gave it my best. My hope was lifted and I was confident I would get the job. Since I would be working remotely, I proceeded with arranging my workspace.

Just recently, I received another mail from the organization informing me that a decision was made not to take my application further for the internship. Omo, oyinbo serve me breakfast!😂🤣😂 Chai! , I lost my appetite and I was moody throughout that day. Me wey don imagine the opportunity wey I fit get after the internship but sha, we meuuvee🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️

Somehow, I wish I wasn't shortlisted for the second interview sef; dem for no raise my hope.

I'm not giving up sha!

Are you on Upwork? What has it been like?

TERMS OF ENDEARMENT

Some Customers do not feel comfortable being addressed using terms of endearment. Yes, some Customers love it but it is better to be on the safe side.

Remember, every Customer/Client is different.
Before you address your Customers as "dear", " honey" "bae" or "my love", be sure you have built a solid relationship with them and they wouldn't mind being addressed using such terms. Otherwise, it is safer to address them by their names, ma'am or sir.

I get it. To you, it's no big deal; you're only trying to be friendly but you need to understand that we all don't share the same cultural principles. People are different and that's fine.

" Hello dear" which seems harmless to most of us is what makes some business owners lose potential customers. Unbelievable right?😂

REAL-LIFE STORY

In my secondary school days, I lived in the hostel. Every Saturday night, we used to go for social gatherings. 🎉🎉🎉

I was in Junior secondary school when this particular incident occurred. I was calm and soft🙈 but I could represent my hostel block( blue house) in competitions at the social gathering and I was performing well🙏. I could face the crowd without being unstable.

Then one particular night, at the social gathering, I decided to try something unusual🤠🤠. Normally, I no too sabi dance 🙄but that night I motivated myself. I was like "Kudi, maybe you can dance, maybe it's just you that feels you can't dance. Come on, you can do it!😊😊"

Lorokan sha🤔, I joined some other girls to dance on the stage. Omo! The gbedu was brain-bursting! phiam! the spirit of dance rested upon me and I danced like I was going to be paid for it.💃💃💃🕺🕺🕺I was throwing my hands,🕺legs,💃 shaking my head. In my mind, I was like "correct!" "you're digging it baby".😜😜😜😜

Seeing my school mom and her friends laughing😂🤣 so hard in the audience, strengthened 💪me the more(omo kekere ara mi). Naso, I put more energy. I danced all the dances I had never danced. 👀👀👀

Then I saw my school mom walking 🏃 🏃 up to the stage. In my mind "wow!🙊🙊 my school mom is coming to hail me, I must be dancing well" She walked up to me, grabbed my hands, and said, "Kudi, wa lo Joko, otito" (Kudi, come and sit down, e don do) Na there I know say I bin dey dance nonsense and nonsensical since morning.🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Nobody should judge me by my past o, I sabi dance small now. I can milegbelegbe🙄🙄🙄🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️