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Results To Last A Lifetime. We teach, not only for students to achieve their academic goals, but al So why is it that they procrastinate? Trust us, we know.

The truth is, most students who walk through our doors already have everything they need to excel in their examinations. Why canโ€™t they achieve the grades they want in school? A second truth: sometimes, all they need is that extra helping hand, that little bit more of confidence and direction. Sometimes, they need determined and tireless teachers who know their stuff inside out to push them in the

27/12/2021

Your Child is struggling. She refuses to wake up for school. When forced to attend, she stares out the window despite the Teacher yelling ๐Ÿ˜ก at her to pay attention. At home, she tries doing her homework, but in truth, the difficulty is far above her level. She gives up and watches videos instead.

You look at her most recent exam paper. A big red โญ•๏ธ is written on it. When confronted, your Child's eyes become red with tears and she stares silently at the floor.

You have no idea what to do, and in your heart you know it'll get worse ๐Ÿ˜ซ.

This is a story we hear too often. Fortunately, our Students do not suffer like this.

At Annie and Me Tution Centre, our seasoned Teachers excel in teaching the IGCSE syllabus, as well as the local government syllabus (UPSR, PT3, SPM). They are skilled at teaching both online and offline, and are masters at keeping their Students engaged and motivated throughout the class ๐Ÿคฉ.

Currently, our Students are being taught online via Zoom!

Help your Child THRIVE ๐Ÿ† in 2022. Don't let your child suffer and struggle alone, when a Master Teacher can make a HUGE DIFFERENCE. Read the testimonials from our satisfied Students and Parents, and sign up now for our classes with confidence!

20/12/2021

I want to tell a story about the ๐—ฆ๐—˜๐—–๐—ข๐—ก๐—— biggest bane to success - ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† (or, being wishy washy and settling for being average)

A friend consulted me, in despair, "Kean, one year ago, I lost RM320,000 (~USD80k) in a scam. The thought of losing a decade's savings still kills me every day, even one year later. I just want to be productive and happy again."

After helping him feel better, he nodded his head and said,

"Yes. RM320,000 is not a life changing amount. I don't need to be rich. I just need enough to survive."

Ah, this is the point where I slapped him (not literally haha!), and I will slap any of you who says the same.

Pardon my language, but screw that. Our past failures are painful, but they should be lessons, NOT an excuse for us to settle for MEDIOCRITY.

Before we say things like, "I don't need that much money..." or "I can be happy alone," be ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฌ๐Ÿฌ% ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜ and ask yourself if that's what you really want, or if you're trying to give yourself a backdoor to escape from future heartbreak.

Don't say, "I just need enough to survive." Instead, say, "I want to be filthy rich, and I will get the knowledge / skills to get there."

Don't say, "RM320,000 is not a life changing amount." Instead, say, "I lost RM320,000, it was really painful, but I've learnt to be stronger."

Don't say, "I don't need a companion, I can be happy alone." Instead, say, "I deserve a loving partner and I'm becoming someone I love, too."

Don't say things if we don't mean them, just to avoid future pain. We'll become sick from contradictions.

No matter what mistakes we've made, no matter who we've hurt, no matter how much we've lost, we mustn't "comfort" ourselves by settling for being average.

State what you want, hold that image in your mind, and get the skills or mastery to get there.

Don't worry. I'll slap you if you stray.

14/12/2021

Ah everyone is talking about chopsticks in Malaysia. Well, I have an inspiring story to tell about language and leadership.

Some weeks back, I was asked by a repeat client to design and deliver a Bahasa Melayu course on Leadership.

As a former lawyer, I was confident. Although some technical terms were headscratchers (flash quiz: what's the BM word for "Alignment"?), my (mostly Malay) participants enjoyed translating together.

I thought I did a swell job until their boss, a wheelchaired young Chinese man, thanked me at the end of the session, stood up on crutches, and delivered a speech in PERFECT Bahasa Baku, swapping seamlessly to informal Northern BM for heavy doses of humor.

Needless to say, the crowd was thrilled and enraptured, myself included.

I later found out that he was struck by a mysterious bacterial infection last year. The disease ate away most of his lungs and had even reached his heart / brains. At the time, doctors told him that he would never walk again.

And yet, here he was, standing on his crutches (struggling and ignoring the pain), telling BM jokes to us amidst a compromised immune system.

Later, I asked him why he took the risk of contracting Covid by coming to see us physically. He replied, simply,

"I'm their leader. How can I ask them to serve, when I'm hiding at home behind a Zoom screen? Well anyway this hotel serves pretty good lunch."

Sir, heroes like you are what makes Malaysia great. Leaders like you make it easy for me to say,

"Saya sayangi Malaysia, dan Malaysia sayangi saya."
โ€œๆˆ‘็ˆฑ้ฉฌๆฅ่ฅฟไบš๏ผŒ่€Œ้ฉฌๆฅ่ฅฟไบšไนŸ็ˆฑๆˆ‘โ€
I love Malaysia, and Malaysia loves me.

A few days later, I had to deliver the same course, but in ๅŽ่ฏญ, and you can bet that it was inspired, and enriched, by that brave, young wheelchaired leader who spoke to us in seamless BM.

23/11/2021

Yesterday, I got some news which served as a wake up call. It broke my heart, too.

My son, Shearn (6) is graduating from kindergarten. Soon, he'll have to put on his adorable kindy uniform for his graduation photos.

A uniform he hasn't worn for around 20 months now, due to the pandemic.

** Why am I sentimental about this? Well, I want to tell you a story. A story which changed the life of my older son, Kye.

When Kye was younger (4), he was a bit sullen and stubborn in kindergarten. His teacher was concerned. I asked, sincerely, if we could do anything.

She said, simply, "Bring him to school 30 minutes earlier so he can play and jostle with his friends in the playground."

And that made a huge difference in Kye's temperament and personality. Those daily 30 minutes made him kinder, more vibrant, and friendlier. What a huge difference a bit of physical play-time makes in our lives!

This experience also made a profound impact on me, and shortly thereafter I started my journey as an educator.

** While it's awesome that Shearn has picked up awesome coding and video editing skills at home, I can't wait for the pandemic to be over so all young children can play together in school again.

In the meantime, here's my gentle plea to you: Please spend time and PHYSICALLY play with your children at the playground whenever you can. Let's put our phones down for just a second, and build with them a childhood worth remembering amidst these challenging times!

05/11/2021

"Do I need to take care of my health?" Well, to be honest, a couple of months ago, I told myself, "Nah!" (Not you Aly Alias Stephen Nah teehee)

Yes, I talk a ton about self-love, but never about physical health.

That was until I had to pull an all-nighter for work. Well, for 2 whole weeks, my eyes were deep red (which really affected my training sessions), and I felt terrible all the time. A simple all-nighter impacted me so badly!

Well, that was a wake up call for me to start a food therapy regimen. Yesterday (Happy Deepavali!) I completed the regimen, I felt GREAT, and I truly understood how a healthy body gave me the freedom to:

๐Ÿ™Œ ๐——๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ฝ ๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—•๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—™๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€: I met up with the fantastic Marilyn Yim and I was so touched to receive a copy of her wonderful book, "The Little Black Heart" as well as other amazing gifts!

๐Ÿฅง ๐—˜๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ (๐—ช๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐— ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป): I met up with dear friend Andy Cheah Chor Min and we ate the most mouthwatering PIES! Thank you for sharing your experience my friend, I enjoyed every second!

๐Ÿ’ช ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฃ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—›๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ: If I had to spend a public holiday working, I can't imagine better mates than you guys, Cynthia Chiam, Charlene, Yuriah Chong and Kimmy, or for a more worthy project than the !

๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿซ ๐—š๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—š๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ง๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—”๐—น๐—น ๐— ๐˜† ๐—›๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฆ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น: Thank you to the lovely Emily Cha for organizing an training session with the team: OyMoon Ng, Gyen, Shen, Joyce Gan and Chee Meng. You guys are amazing!

Yes, we often focus on sharpening our minds, and nurturing our souls, but we can't get there and help more people if our vehicle is broken and tattered.

Do get in touch with these amazing coaches like Coach ken, Shen Choo or Jessie G Chan, or you can pm me directly for more details on the food therapy session I went through (highly recommended!)

04/11/2021

"๐—›๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐—œ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฝ ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—บ๐˜†๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜€?" asked the Hare. You see, when the Hare lost that fateful foot race to the Tortoise precisely one year ago, his life collapsed.

He was devastated, of course, and the ridicule and harassments came.

"You deserved to lose, you braggart!"
"Go sleep at home instead of on the race track, you loser!"

The Owl raised his eyebrows. Unlike the other animals, the Owl was wiser, and slower to judge. Over the year, he had seen the Hare become kinder and practicing hard.

Now, the day of the re-match had come, and the Hare stood trembling in front of him, haunted by memories of past failures and embarrassments.

The Owl asked, "If you could go back to one year ago, knowing what you know now, would you have lost the race?"

The Hare thought carefully, and said, "No. I know what went wrong back then."

"So stop punishing yourself over things which won't happen TODAY," grumbled the Owl.

So the Hare went, and did his best, and won his revenge match, and felt really silly for ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—บ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ป'๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜†.

The end.

29/10/2021

โ€œ๐—œ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ด๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—น๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฒ, ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐˜† ๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ด๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ต๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜...โ€
If your inner voice says that sometimes, take heart. Join me tonight (Friday, 29 October at 8pm (GMT+8) as I run a free Parenting Workshop during the Global Empowerment Summit!

I'll cheer you up, laugh with you, and give you these immediate actionable tips so you can get right back to being a positive, radiant influence for your Children:

โœ… Understanding Self-Love and Regulating Our Own Emotions
โœ… Creating Boundaries for Ourselves / Our Loved Ones
โœ… Healthy Communication with Our Loved Ones / Colleagues

Join us by clicking on my link at 8pm here: https://www.whatwomenwantworkshops.com/general-7

Of course, there are countless other topics for discussion when it comes to Parenting, such as:

โœ… How to help my Child overcome gadget addiction
โœ… How do I help my Child to be honest and stop lying
โœ… How do I motivate my Child, who is lost and directionless

So, if you want to explore these issues and help your Child get right back to being that cheerful angel, my weekend in-depth workshop is for you!

๐—ง๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ž๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป'๐˜€ ๐—œ๐—ป ๐——๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฃ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฝ
Date: Saturday and Sunday, 30 and 31 October 2021
Time: 10AM - 1PM per day (3 hours per day)
Price: Use code MERDEKA30 for a discount to ๐—ฅ๐— ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿด๐Ÿด ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—น๐˜†
Register here: https://teacherkean.com/workshop/paid/

I'm really excited to talk to you in both workshops, so I'll see you soon!

28/10/2021

๐—ฆ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—จ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด? ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐— ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—˜๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ?
Yesterday, I was helping my 6yo with his Mandarin exam. As it was not his cup of tea, he put up a lot of resistance.

While he was rolling on the sofa complaining ๐Ÿ˜ญ (so cute!), I ventured, "How would you feel if you can't answer a single question during the exam?"

Well, he paused, little brain ๐Ÿง  struggling mightily to comprehend the ramifications of getting a zero 0๏ธโƒฃ in the exam... then continued rolling and complaining.

So, I had a deeper thought about his dreams. He wanted to be a teacher, too, so I said, "Can you imagine your students praising and asking you how to be great at Mandarin ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿซ?"

Immediately, he got up and went to work. When he correctly recited a sentence, I said, "Wow, do remember how so you can help your future students!" That really kept him going!

In the end, he got 60% on the exam, but I was mighty proud of his hard work.

๐Ÿ“ข When we want people to get something done, there are two ways to do it: Tell them the consequences if they don't, or sell them a vision of a pleasant outcome.

The research is pretty clear on this. ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ.

That's not to say consequences and punishment have no place in our Parenting toolbox. There will be times where our kids need to be deterred from harmful (or hurtful) behaviors and actions.

โ˜บ This weekend, I'll be talking about reinforcement and consequences in my Parenting Workshop, where I'll also be addressing pressing issues including:

โœ… How to help my Child overcome gadget addiction
โœ… How do I help my Child to be honest and stop lying
โœ… How do I motivate my Child, who is lost and directionless
โœ… How to finally love myself, as a Parent and person

๐—ง๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ž๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป'๐˜€ ๐—œ๐—ป ๐——๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฃ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฝ
Date: Saturday and Sunday, 30 and 31 October 2021
Time: 10AM - 1PM per day (3 hours per day)
Price: Use code MERDEKA30 for a discount to ๐—ฅ๐— ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿด๐Ÿด ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—น๐˜†
Register here: https://teacherkean.com/workshop/paid/

I'm eternally grateful for the chance to serve Parents, their Children (and generations to come), so I am infinitely excited to see you this weekend!

25/10/2021

๐—œ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ต, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—น๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—–๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป, ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐˜† ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€.
I want to share with you a little lesson I learnt this month, when I conducted Parenting workshops on procrastination, and talking to kids who have given up on us.

After compiling all the research, I began to structure my workshops. Try as I might, I realized there was no way to teach the topics without first talking about self-love and self-awareness.

๐Ÿš€ Recently, I spoke about changing people. I believe that it's impossible for us to change anyone else, and this extends to our Children as well.

Instead, we have the amazing ability to INFLUENCE people. The most beautiful definition I've read about "influence" goes like this,

"Influence is the impact we have on others' behavior, by first changing or adjusting our own attitudes and behavior."

โ˜บ This weekend, I'm so appreciative to be hosting an in-depth Parenting Workshop, where I'll be addressing pressing issues including:

โœ… How to help my Child overcome gadget addiction
โœ… How do I help my Child to be honest and stop lying
โœ… How do I motivate my Child, who is lost and directionless
โœ… How to finally love myself, as a Parent and person

๐—ง๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ž๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป'๐˜€ ๐—œ๐—ป ๐——๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฃ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฝ
Date: Saturday and Sunday, 30 and 31 October 2021
Time: 10AM - 1PM per day (3 hours per day)
Price: Use code MERDEKA30 for a discount to ๐—ฅ๐— ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿด๐Ÿด ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—น๐˜†
Register here: https://teacherkean.com/workshop/paid/

Don't sit on this! I've seen so many families fall into horrible states, when early guidance could help both Parents and Children so much healthier, happier and successful.

I'm eternally grateful for the chance to serve Parents, their Children (and generations to come), so I am infinitely excited to see you this weekend!

22/10/2021

Have you ever met a person who has already made up their mind about you? No matter what you say, they are determined to find faults in your speech and see the worst in you ๐Ÿ˜ก.

Let's not be too harsh on ourselves. A lot of the time, when people dislike us, or have an unfavourable opinion of us, it has nothing to do with US.

Often, they're projecting their own insecurities or past pain ๐Ÿ˜ซ onto us.

๐—›๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ?

Fortunately, most of us are mature enough to walk away and forget that person. After all, in truth, there are tons of people who admire and love us. These people are determined to see the best in us. Why not spend our time and effort on appreciative people instead?

But this line of action is not always available. It might be your boss, your spouse, your partner or your Child who is suspicious or resentful of you. Sometimes, your Child is so reluctant to talk to you that they would rather LIE to you, or suffer alone in silence.

These are not bonds which are easily broken.

Fortunately, science has given us a clue or two about bringing people around. It has a lot to do with our own mental and emotional states, and being compassionate to the other person's needs.

I want to talk to you about this, tomorrow, at my free Parenting Workshop:

๐—™๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฝ: ๐—›๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ง๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ž๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐˜€ (๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐—š๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—จ๐—ฝ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚)
Date: Saturday, 23 October 2021
Time: 1PM - 2PM
Register here: https://lnkd.in/gFzNmz9i for Zoom details

In the meantime, I want to hear your stories. Have you ever successfully changed someone's (bad) opinion of you? How did you do it?

21/10/2021

"๐—œ๐˜'๐˜€ ๐—ข๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—–๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ณ ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐—”๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ฆ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—จ๐˜€ ๐—”๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฟ๐˜†"
How do we teach a child this concept? What's the best way for them to learn that we are in charge of the way we feel?

Even as adults, we struggle to practice this. So when our kids scream, "HE STARTED IT! It's not my faaaauuuulllttttt!!!", how can we guide them?

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐Ÿฌ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—”๐—น๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐—š๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—–๐—ฎ๐—น๐—บ
Let's not leave them to "cry it out" or say "It's a small deal, stop crying." We can do more, like deep breathing, distracting them, and teaching them to appreciate the things that went right! With practice, they'll grow to be resilient and grateful.

After they're a bit steadier, invite them to talk about their feelings and be a great listener.

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐Ÿฎ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐——๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐——๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐—ธ ๐˜ƒ๐˜€ ๐—š๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ณ๐˜†
This is my favorite technique! Mickey, Donald and Goofy. Ask your Child, "When the trio get into trouble, how do each of them respond?"

Do you want to be with someone like ๐——๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ฑ, lashing out at everyone, or would you rather be with someone like ๐—š๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ณ๐˜†, optimistic and relaxed?

Explain they each deal with bad news differently, and it's our choice to view setbacks as catastrophes, or as growing opportunities. Praise them, not for results, but for standing up again!

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐Ÿฏ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—”๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—™๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€
Do emphasize that their feelings are valid, and that WE get angry too. The question is, how long? When we accept that being angry is a CHOICE, we have the wonderful freedom of moving on instead of punishing ourselves.

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐Ÿฐ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ ๐—š๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ฑ ๐—ฅ๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐— ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—น
Ultimately, if we're always blaming others for how we feel, then our Children will learn the same.

If we can smile, and search for opportunities in the face of adversity, can you imagine how strong and loving our Children will be!

20/10/2021

"๐—œ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ป'๐˜ ๐—ธ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜†๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ. ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—บ. ๐—œ๐˜'๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†. ๐Ÿ˜ก"

Your Child had a bad day. He doesn't want to talk about it. Your spouse tried reaching out, but as usual, both of them ended up angry and arguing.

๐Ÿ”ช Hurtful things were said.

"Fine, if you don't even want to listen to me, you're going to have a tough time in the real world."

"If you don't tell me what's going on right now, you're sleeping outside the house."

๐Ÿคซ ๐—”๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฃ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜„๐—ต๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—น๐˜†๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ...

If you, or someone you know, are in this situation, I think it's really risky to let it continue. In my experience as an Educator, I've seen many Children GIVE UP on their Parents and develop very harmful habits ๐Ÿ’€, when a little understanding and language skills could have made a huge difference.

Of course, as Parents, we have our own skills, experience and perspective, but how can we share them with our Children / correct them without getting into a cold war each time?

As usual, Teacher Kean will share insights, proven methods and researched backed methods to help you start having deep conversations with your Child again (while having fun!)

๐—™๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐—ช๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฝ: ๐—›๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ง๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ž๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐˜€ (๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐—š๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—จ๐—ฝ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚)
Date: Saturday, 23 October 2021
Time: 1PM - 2PM
Venue: Register here: https://teacherkean.com/workshop/free/ for Zoom details

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