Maiko Michelle - Empowerment Mentoring

14/09/2024

Amen Andrew Huberman for shining a light on this topic! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 My partner and I actually worked with Bill Eddy (the author) over a decade ago during our own co-parenting nightmare with a “high-conflict” individual….

But you know what I’ve learned now that we’ve moved beyond this challenge for many years now & after helping many clients get where we now are…

… what can actually be so wonderful about identifying when you’re dealing with the 10% who are “high-conflict” personalities….

….. is that there are specific skills you can develop to not only move beyond the particular dysfunctional dance with them….

… but these skills (and the new energy you emanate) can also be applied to ALL the relationships in your life!

Co-workers, family members, dating, marriage, friends, employees… once you “get it” and have the tools to implement the necessary changes starting with powerful inner decisions….

…. it’s like the dark clouds part for once and for all! 🌤️

It’s quite empowering.

Ultimately, you get to a place where you can actually thank these fools (inside) for helping you to clarify things about yourself you probably needed to up-level….

…. in order to become more of your True Self.

It all works together magically in the end!!
Xx 🩵💫✨

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C_3KLmqP8yE/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Navigate dealing with a HCBM, Toxic Co-Parent, High Conflict Narcissist

14/09/2024

Amen Andrew Huberman for shining a light on this topic! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 My partner and I actually worked with Bill Eddy (the author) over a decade ago during our own co-parenting nightmare with a “high-conflict” individual….

But you know what I’ve learned now that come out on the other side of this challenge on my own journey and having helped many clients get where my partner and I now are…

… what can actually be so wonderful about identifying when you’re dealing with the 10% who are “high-conflict” personalities….

….. is that there are specific skills you can develop to not only move beyond the particular dysfunctional dance with them….

… but these skills (and the new energy you emanate) can also be applied to ALL the relationships in your life!

Co-workers, family members, dating, marriage, friends, employees… once you “get it” and have the tools to implement the necessary changes…. starting within….

…. it’s like the dark clouds part for once and for all! 🌤️

It’s quite empowering.

Ultimately, you get to a place where you can actually thank these fools (inside) for helping you to clarify things about yourself you probably needed to up-level….

…. in order to become more of your True Self.

It all works together magically in the end!!
Xx 🩵💫✨

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C_3KLmqP8yE/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Navigate dealing with a HCBM, Toxic Co-Parent, High Conflict Narcissist

06/04/2024

Are you stuck in a co-parenting situation or relationship dynamic that feels like a nightmare?

Here’s a great article in Psychology Today about growth mindsets! Would you say you have a growth mindset or a fixed mindset? What about your significant other? 🤔

Embracing a growth mindset really does make all the difference in the world when dealing with a “toxic” co-parent or anyone in your life, really. Because inevitably, if we want to move beyond the dysfunctional dynamic and create the happy, peaceful lives & partnerships that we deserve, something will need to change…

… and that will most likely need to be us since narcissistic “toxic” people cannot change and WILL NOT CHANGE what they don’t acknowledge….

Which is great, because that means moving beyond unhealthy relationship dynamics relies on something we can control: OURSELVES and our own choices & actions!

How do we grow beyond this challenge? Ask people who are living how you would want to live & how they got where they are… despite having to co-parent or have a relationship with someone who is a broken soul. It doesn’t matter who it is that’s causing the negative impact — it does NOT need to stay that way!

Stop seeking advice from people who are not living the way you would want to live or have no personal experience with your specific issue. Intentionally step into “seeker mode” — it’s where our true power lies.

It IS possible to become impervious to these people and thrive again but we must intentionally harness the power of a growth mindset to do it… 🌱🌻🌱

Xx MM💚

“There are a variety of mindsets, each of which can help or hurt our well-being. A growth mindset is simply the belief that our basic abilities can be developed and improved through dedication and hard work. It’s not so much that this belief is some kind of magic. It’s just that without a growth mindset, we don’t exert the required effort and so we remain perpetually STUCK.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201904/15-ways-build-growth-mindset

08/09/2023

Quickly sharing *my own opinion* and guidance for a stepmom in my community who is suffering because her significant other has kids with an emotionally destructive woman.

I don’t have the time or energy for super curated social media posts or perfect grammar, but since my intention is to help women suffer less while facing this kind of challenge, then I’m just going to put it out there if I feel there could be some value for others who are struggling like I did because my partner didn’t have the tools and life skills (at the time) to shield us from a bio-monster co-parent who needed to be contained.

(Which is what we ultimately did together AS A TEAM once he developed healthier relationship skills by healing his own wounds — which is what I was working so hard at as well. Isn’t that what conscious partnerships are meant to help us do?)

I’m not going to worry what my social media feed looks like cuz let’s be real, life ain’t always pretty or perfect — despite what our posts & pics on social media might attempt to portray!

Why can’t we just be ourselves.

Love you all!!!!
Xx ♥️

15/07/2023

Ugh… I unknowingly made this mistake on hot sidewalks in Palm Springs with my dog Baloo and I felt horrible! I was just reminded of this today after meeting a wonderful man who is fostering a 3-legged doggie and he slowly walked her on the hot asphalt not thinking about it like I had done. I felt sooooo bad!!! I know so many of us just don’t realize it — we clearly love our fur babies and wouldn’t want them burning their paws! 🐾🐶🔥🔥🔥🔥🐶🐾

Please share this and spread the word!!

“With temperatures rising in Southern California, it's important to be mindful of our beloved pets (and their paws!) Help your dogs handle the heat by planning walks in the early morning and early evening. Before you hit the sidewalk, check to be sure the pavement will be paw-friendly. Simply place the back of your hand on the ground for at least seven seconds. If it's cool enough that you can comfortably keep your hand there, you and your pal are good to go!”

Visit sdhumane.org/staycool for more warm weather safety tips. Repost from

13/06/2022

I just don’t think life gets any better for me than enjoying fresh mid-afternoon ceviche, guacamole, crispy tortilla chips, and tequila with salt. 😋

Chris’ current birthday vista. 🐟🌊💙

Happy happy bday!!! Xoxo

02/06/2022

Do you often find yourself “keeping quiet” as a woman in the stepmom role — then realize you feel like s**t afterward? 💩

Stop it. Your nervous system is paying the price and it’s not healthy.

There were a few years not long ago when I wasn’t sure I’d ever come out the other side of what felt like a living hell.

My partner and I were on the receiving end of so much chaos coming from a woman who we were attempting to “co-parent” with…

After we were finally able to contain her ability to negatively impact our lives on any sort significant level,

I still wasn’t sure if I’d ever be able to recover from the “little t” trauma and darkness I could feel was stuck in my body.

Everywhere I went, everything I did…. I could feel it in me. It felt like a heavy energy that just wouldn’t give my soul back to me. 🧛🏼‍♂️🧛🏼‍♀️🧛🏽

I had never felt something like that before.

So many lessons, so much gathering of wisdom from specialists, sooooooo much inner work, so much healing and putting my broken spirit back together…💔

At the time, I considered it THE WORST experience of my life. Now I can look back and whisper a genuine “thank you” to the divine for sending me every ounce of that f’n nightmare.

It was the catalyst for my own growth and for a deeper understanding of my soul’s purpose here. ✨

If this is you right now — please trust me that you can:

…not only come out the other side of this s**t show, but you can USE IT to become a bigger & badder version of the woman you’re meant to be!

My inner peace has finally returned and I’ve integrated my new awareness into how I now live.

And if I can do it — you can too. Let me show you how.

Life is too short to live on the receiving end of someone else’s wounded, unconscious energy.

Please do the work to shield & protect your life.

My Freedom from Chaos virtual mentoring courses are launching soon for step/moms dealing with a highly dysfunctional co-parenting dynamic.

Nothing changes until something changes.

And keeping quiet 🙊 at the expense of your nervous system just isn’t sustainable.

Something WILL give — please don’t let it be you sister. 💛

14/05/2022

Please let me know if any restaurants in San Diego serve Yabai — esp North County — we’ll be there!!! Oiiiiiishi! And no funky after taste like some of those other bubbly drinks!! Love it! 😋

said it, not us! She’s right, though! Restauranteurs, are you losing dine in customers because you don’t offer Yabai? Could be! 🤔
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02/01/2022

Happy New Year’s Day!! These homemade sourdough chocolate scones + vino sure do taste good!!! 🤣😂🤣

This year I intend to:

….live with more balance and less all-or-nothing thinking.

….live with ease + flow, laugh at things more + try to not take this human experience so seriously. If I don’t get it right this time, I’ll figure it out next time around. ✨💛💫

…..have more compassion for myself when I do f*ck up — because if there’s one thing I know will happen, it’s that!

Xoxo, Maiko ♥️

01/01/2022

Christmas kisses in the desert. ♥️💋♥️Wishing you all the things that fill your heart with joy in 2022 — Happy New Year!!! 🥰

14/05/2021

Feedback like this means the world to me ✨