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10 Reasons Why This
Generation Is Losing The
Ability To Be In Love
Ever wonder what our generation will
be known for in the decades to come?
I ponder the question regularly.
There are so many great things we
could be remembered for, but if
history has taught us anything, it’s the
negative that tends to last the test of
time, not the positive.
My greatest worry is our generation
will be looked at as the generation
that gave up on love. We date for the
sake of dating. The generation that
forgot how to love — which is
ridiculous. Most people have never
had a good understanding of love, just
a poor interpretation of it.
Generation-Y seems to be the first
generation moving away from
conventional takes on romantic, loving
relationships.
The only question that remains is
whether we’ll be remembered for
being the first generation to accept a
more logical and rational take on love
or the generation that gave up on it
altogether.
I guess you’ll be the one to decide.
1. We care more about instant
gratification than we do anything
else.
The most common trend amongst
Generation-Yers is our need for
instant gratification. We grew up and
continue to thrive in a culture that
allows us instant access to just about
anything.
If we want food, we have it delivered
with the click of a few buttons or we
walk a block or two and grab dinner.
If we are bored, we have endless
distractions in the form of phone
apps. If we need directions or a
question answered, it only takes us a
couple of seconds.
Such convenience is entirely a
modern-day perk — previous
generations never experienced
anything even remotely close to it.
The problem is instant gratification is
addicting and often becomes a habit, a
habit that tends to seep into our love
lives.
Love isn’t meant to be experienced in
an instance, but in a lifetime.
2. We’ve built a culture driven by
drugs and booze.
This goes hand in hand with our
culture’s need for instant gratification.
Drugs and booze are the most
common form of self-medication.
When we feel sad or unhappy, we go
out for drinks. When we’re stressed or
unable to handle our lives, we may
turn to more intense substances. Of
course, not everyone drinks alcohol
and/or does drugs, but it is a trend
among our generation.
Drugs and alcohol often end up being
love’s worst enemy. These substances
give us the illusion of an alternate
reality — a reality in which our
emotions are heightened, and the love
we experience becomes exponentially
intense.
Unfortunately, all this does is confuse
us, making us believe love is little
more than the feelings we experience.
Nothing could be further from the
truth.
3. We sleep around — a lot.
Some less than others, but most
individuals have multiple partners
every year. Don’t get me wrong, I like
s*x just as much as the next guy, but
sleeping around ends up leaving us
feeling empty.
It starts out feeling exciting and
gratifying, but ends up making us feel
even more alone. Worse yet, it makes
finding someone to love infinitely
more difficult. You’re wasting your
time with people who mean nothing to
you and, to top it all off, you are
likely to turn s*x into a sport.
When that becomes the case, good
luck trying to make love. Good luck
enjoying s*x when s*x is no longer a
special or unique experience, but just
another trivial evening.
4. We’re becoming even more
egocentric.
Every individual in the world is
egocentric; we all think about our
needs and ourselves first and
foremost. Whether this is good or bad
doesn’t really matter; the world is the
way it is. It’s part of human nature.
The problem arises when our
egocentricity overtakes our ability to
feel empathy. As human beings, we
have no choice but to live and
function within society, within
communities of different sizes.
Relationships are really nothing more
than granular communities. When we
focus on only ourselves, our needs,
our wants and desires, the needs of
the others in our community get
overlooked. When this happens in a
relationship, it all begins to fall apart.
5. We date for the sake of dating.
It’s become a sport — a favorite
pastime among Millennials. We date
because we believe we’re supposed to
date. We’re supposed to find someone
to fall in love with and spend our lives
with, and we are under the impression
that the best way to go about it is to
date as often as possible.
This backwards logic brings about
countless horrible relationships that
never ought to have been in the first
place. Every time you date someone
who isn’t right for you, you’re giving
up your chance to meet someone who
is. Same goes for the rest of the
world.
6. We aren’t fans of making
compromises.
We like to have things our way,
always. Why wouldn’t we? If we can
have it our way, why would we settle
for anything less?
This logic makes sense until we find
ourselves in a relationship. When
we’re a part of a relationship, we are
only a piece of a greater whole. What
we want and need is not nearly as
important as what the relationship
needs.
And what the relationship often needs
is for you to compromise. So you’re
left with a dilemma, which is fine, as
long as you accept that compromises
need to be made. Once we no longer
accept that as a necessity, we will lose
the ability to create a loving
relationship.
7. We believe in fairytale endings.
What was our favorite thing to watch
growing up? Most people our age will
say Disney. We grew up on Disney
movies and learned all about love
through the stories they told — or at
least I did.
The problem is such movies are
incredibly inaccurate and often end up
doing more harm than good. They
create impossible expectations —
expectations that always leave us
disappointed in the end, not to
mention confused.
How could you not question your love
for someone when your story doesn’t
line up with what you believe defines a
happily ever after?
8. We’ve been fooled into believing
perfection is attainable.
It’s not. Never has been, never will
be, and yet, we are all looking for that
perfect individual. We are all looking
to become that perfect individual.
Sadly, we’re all going to fail, and it’s
going to suck.
No matter how unrealistic our
expectations are, the disappointment
we feel when they aren’t achieved is
very real.
The grass always seems greener on the
other side. But who the hell told you
to look for greener grass?
9. We’re goal driven, but often
forget to include our partners in
the mix.
I love the fact that our generation is
really the first generation to put the
focus on the individual, allowing for
personal growth and development. I’m
proud our generation is the first
generation that believes working for
ourselves is better than working for
someone else.
Having dreams and setting goals are
both incredibly important; however,
what’s more important is setting the
right goals. We need to understand
the difference between the things and
individuals in our life who hold value
and those that do not.
Sadly, this is an area in which our
generation is greatly lacking. Most of
us put off finding someone to love
until after we get the rest of our life
together. Not sure why no one realizes
finding a partner is the most
important piece of the puzzle.
10. Most of us are really bad at
loving.
Love is confusing. It has layers and is
mutable, changing over time and
changing with each new partner we let
into our lives. Love is so incredibly
complex that most people simply
haven’t been able to get a grasp of it.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of, but it is
reason to worry. The real question is:
Are we getting better or worse at
loving? That’s a question I’m not able
to answer, but I fear it maybe the
latter.
Of course, each individual is different
in his or her understanding, but most
people seem to be incredibly lost. The
issue is if we don’t come to
understand love better — its
purpose, its boundaries and its
shortcomings — we will never be
happy.
That’s nothing short of fact.

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