25/07/2026
Do you ever actually give yourself space to contemplate what role you are playing in your children’s lives? And how it will shape the way they see the world?
I love to self-asses, to get to the nitty gritty of why and how I show up in my life and Saturday night musings went deep.
Am I showing up as a victim, as someone who puts their needs after everyone else’s. Am I giving to my kids with a sense of ‘it’s ok I’ll go without for you’. Am I giving and then wanting them to see me in a ‘my mum sacrificed everyone for us’ light. Or am I role modelling that I’m important, that I’m worthy, that I have desires.
How is my language and the way I show up for myself shaping the humans they are growing into. One day mothers, fathers, or families they will one day hold.
If I zoomed out and got radically honest with myself I would say that I edge in the ‘sacrifice for you’ space. Look at what I do for you. Look how amazing your life is but also see where I go without so that you can have.
There’s not right of wrong here. Just an awareness that I’m willing to explore.
The duality of life is also present when we are willing to look. I can teach gratitude whilst asap having an ego seeking a quiet validation for my sacrifice.
The deepest parts of me know that by modelling an abundant, self-loving life I’ll give my family the best chance at doing the same. But my wounds, the human parts of me that seek belonging will have me twist this at times and lead from my ego, not from the woman I know I want to be.
The gift in awareness is that you get to see yourself with love and compassion and not from the guilt of sometimes being a human.
This beauty, this humanness that’s within all of us is wanting to be met with wide open arms. Not judgment, not avoidance, but compassion.
When we are in compassion we get to choose again. When we are in judgment we stay stuck in the same cycles.
I can honestly say this work is the greatest journey I’ve ever embarked on. M parenting, business, my lover, my health… it’s the emotional freedom that most people only ever dream of experiencing.
This is why the work is everything. Don’t be afraid