22/09/2026
Explaining your pain often takes more energy than living with it.
And behind a composed smile is usually a story you don't have the strength to tell.
Today in a meeting, we were asked to share how things were really going - the good, the bad, and the challenges.
While waiting for my turn, I started running through the list in my head.:
My prosthetic socket broke recently, and the replacement feels completely alien; inches off, heavy, and uncomfortable. I have bruises that feel like I’m stepping on a pin with every stride, and the heat builds up so fast I constantly fear the liner will slip.
Every time I walk, the ghost of that moment when it broke flashes through my mind, leaving me terrified of falling.
On the outside? I looked calm, composed, and completely in control.
When the leader accidentally skipped my turn, I felt a wave of relief. Because the truth is, saying "I'm fine" is often easier than analyzing, explaining, and laying out the heavy reality of what you're surviving. It takes energy to explain pain.
It made me sit back and reflect on everyone else in that room. If I was carrying all of that behind a composed face, what invisible storms were they quietly navigating too?
Be gentle with yourself today. And remember that just because someone looks like they’re carrying it well doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy.
Have you ever defaulted to "I'm fine" just because the truth was too exhausting to explain? Drop a "🕊️" in the comments if you know that feeling all too well.