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Welcome back to your school Riyaz Kathjoo .

One of the best teacher during my school days.

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Do you know the Prophet's ﷺ daughter, Zaynab fell off a camel and suffered a miscarriage because of a man named Habbar who was trying to prevent her from migrating. Many years later, he came to Rasulallah ﷺ and guess what? the Prophet forgave him and he accepted Islam. 'Utba married the Prophet's daughter, Ruqayyah and divorced her out of spite. He came to Rasulallah ﷺ years later. Guess what? The Prophet ﷺ forgave him and he accepted Islam. The son of Abu Jahl waged war against him for two decades. Guess what? He came years later and Rasulallah ﷺ forgave him and he accepted Islam. Wahshi killed the Prophet's uncle Hamza. He came years later and guess what? Rasulallah ﷺ forgave him and he accepted Islam. Uthman ibn Talha would prevent him for entering the Ka'bah. Rasulallah ﷺ conquered Makkah and guess what? The Prophet ﷺ forgave him and gave him and his family the keys for the Ka'bah until the end of time; and he accepted Islam. Fadala came to assassinate Rasulallah ﷺ whilst he was making Tawaf and guess what? He placed his hand on his chest, forgave him, and he accepted Islam.

Brothers and sisters, people have wronged you? Mocked you? Done bad to you? Cut you off? Learn from Rasulallah ﷺ. Their crimes were great but his mercy was greater.

“The Boy Who Spoke Before Listening: A Reflection on Gen Alpha Minds”

When I saw that clip of the 10-year-old boy Ish*t on Kaun Banega Crorepati boldly saying, “I know the rules, so please don’t start explaining them,” I didn’t feel shock or anger — I felt concern.
Not for the boy, but for what he represents — a mirror reflecting how our children are growing up in this fast-forward world.

The Fast Brain, The Slow Mind

Children born after 2010 belong to what we now call Gen Alpha — digital natives raised on instant answers, instant validation, and instant entertainment.
Every app, every notification, every “skip ad” button has wired their brain for speed, not patience. Hi

Neurologically, their frontal lobe — the region that helps with impulse control, empathy, and reflection — develops with practice. But if every delay is bypassed and every emotion is instantly discharged, that region doesn’t get enough “exercise.”
The result? Quick logic, quick reactions, and slow regulation.

What Looks Like Arrogance Is Often Dysregulation

When a child cuts in while others speak, argues with adults, or refuses correction, it’s easy to label them as “spoiled.”
But often what we’re witnessing is emotional dysregulation — the inability to pause between feeling and reacting.

In clinical terms, such behaviours may resemble ADHD (impulsive type) or Oppositional traits, but many times, they are simply outcomes of an untrained emotional brain living in an overstimulated environment.

Beneath Confidence Lies Fear

What appeared as overconfidence in that child — the commanding tone, the self-assurance — may actually be performance anxiety wearing confidence as a mask.
His words, “If I don’t win at least ₹12 lakh, I can’t take a photo with you,” revealed the invisible pressure of conditional approval.
That’s not arrogance. That’s fear — fear of not being enough unless one performs.

How Adults Shape This Pattern

We reward brilliance but rarely acknowledge calmness.
We praise intelligence but seldom model humility.
And when children see adults losing temper online, shouting at staff, or arguing with strangers, what lesson do they really learn?

Children don’t imitate instructions; they imitate energy.
If we live with impatience, they will too.

The Bigger Picture

Schools emphasize competition, parents emphasize success, and society celebrates speed.
But somewhere in this chase, we are forgetting to teach children slowness — to wait, to listen, to reflect.
Ironically, the same adults who criticize a 10-year-old for “talking too much” are often the ones venting aggression in the comments section.

What We Need Now

Instead of judging today’s children, we must coach their calmness.
Teach them that slowing down is strength, not weakness.
Replace “Be smart” with “Be kind.”
And most importantly, show them — through our behaviour — how a regulated adult looks and feels.

Because behind every “over-smart” child is not a problem to fix, but a potential to guide.
If we nurture patience with the same passion as performance, perhaps the next generation will not just know the answers — they’ll also learn when to pause before giving one.

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Dr. Santosh Yadav
Md Paediatric