01/10/2024
12 Phrases to Avoid When Speaking to Residents and Patients—And What to Say Instead
Ever notice how the words you choose can either build bridges or create barriers? In aged care, language is a powerful tool—it can either comfort and connect or alienate and upset. Choose your words wisely.
Over the years, I’ve seen how simple language tweaks can dramatically change interactions with residents. Here are 12 common phrases that might seem harmless but can unintentionally cause distress—and what to say instead to foster trust and compassion.
1. "Calm down." → "I’m here with you—what’s bothering you?"
2. "It’s not that bad." → "I understand this is hard for you."
3. "We’ve been through this before." → "Let’s go over it again together."
4. "You’re fine." → "How can I make you more comfortable?"
5. "I’m busy right now." → "I’ll be right back—I’m here to help."
6. "Why didn’t you ask sooner?" → "I’m glad you told me—let’s solve this now."
7. "You shouldn’t feel that way." → "Your feelings are valid—let’s talk about it."
8. "That’s not important right now." → "Let’s focus on what’s important to you."
9. "This is just part of getting older." → "Let’s see how we can make this easier for you."
10. "You don’t need to worry about that." → "I’m here to help you—let’s work through it together."
11. "You’ve already told me this." → "That’s an interesting story—tell me more."
12. "You should do it this way." → "Would you like some help with that?"
Small changes, big impact: These simple language tweaks can transform how you interact with residents, fostering trust, comfort, and a stronger connection.
What phrases have you found most effective in building rapport with residents? Let’s discuss in the comments! ⬇️
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