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🙏An informative post, every parent should consider sharing, to make everyone aware of this condition, to enable them to teach their children to be kind to people with autism and other similar "abilities", so that children like Rajul (Shourjo) shouldn't have to go too soon in the future. I copied and pasted it from the post of the page Project Nightfall, and it is to be reminded that due credit should be given to the page for the post🙏

She finished elementary school at 5, middle school at 6, and high school at 8! By the time she was 12, she had earned engineering degrees and a master’s in mechanical engineering, becoming Mexico’s youngest to do so.

Adhara Pérez Sánchez was once bullied at school for being different. Teachers thought she was disengaged. In reality, she was a child genius struggling in the wrong environment. Diagnosed with autism, Adhara later tested with an IQ of 162, higher than the commonly cited estimates for Albert Einstein and Stephen Hawking.

Once given the right support, everything changed. Today, Adhara dreams of becoming a NASA astronaut, studies astrophysics, writes books, and works on inventions to help other autistic children navigate the world.

Her story is not about being gifted. It is about being understood.

The whole mall was watching the drama of that 4 year old boy to play in the mall worth Rs 3000... 🤯

He was hitting hands and legs, screaming.
His dad was wet by sweat. The fear was not of the boy, the fear was "What will four people say? " Of this!

That Awkward quietly, the father took the card out of his pocket and bought the toy and handed it to his son.
The boy became quiet in a second! Parents breathed a sigh of relief.

You might have thought, "Come on, the topic is over! "
Not. This is where we as parents fall in love.

That day, the father did not buy a toy worth Rs 3000, but unknowingly strengthened the child's 'stubbornness'.

As a pediatrician says:
Your child is not stubborn by birth. Conditioning is what makes him stubborn.

A child's math is simple:
"Once I cry, mom says 'no'.
When I cry twice my father screams.
But... If I scream out loud and 'drama' at four people, these people would buy me that stuff to shut up! "

When you cry for 10 minutes after "Okay dad, take and shut up! "So when he gives it, the brain of a child takes the lesson:
"Anything in the world is achieved when you break the rules and make a drama. "

This stubborn wants 3000’s play today.
Tomorrow he will be 18. Then he won't roll on the floor...
So he'll 'emotional blackmail' you saying "I want a bullet worth 2 lakh, otherwise I won't eat/won't come home".
What will you do then?
Because he has no habit of digesting 'no'.

Then what exactly should parents do? (3 Scientific Rules) ✅

1. 'No' means 'No'! (Be a Wall)
Once you say 'no', the subject is over. Then let him take the mall on head or fast. If you change the decision on a stubbornness, you lose.

2. 'Cautious' ignorance (Active Ignoring) - This is the real medicine!
When the child is stubborn for no reason, ignore him silently.
Don't look at people. People will watch for 5 minutes and forget. But if you bow your neck to the fear of people, the child will get used to it.
Remember, stubbornness requires 'audience'. When there are no audience, the show automatically stops.
(Note: Don't worry unless he hurts himself).

3. Don't buy peace (No Bribing)
"If you don't cry, I'll give you chocolate... "This sentence is a bribe.
Temporary peace will be found, but in future peace will be disturbed.

Parents,
Afford the tears in his eyes today, but he doesn't want the tears of the ruined future life.
To develop a strong personality, parents also have to become a little 'like a stone'!

Has this happened in your home or mall? What did you do then?

Honestly say below. Others will learn from it too. 👇

Dr. Sujit Bharat Patil
Pediatrician, Pune.

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