02/08/2021
Confidence is a skill and this skill can be developed easily. It's not by birth. You have to work on that. Confidence is a state of mind. Confidence is your thought process. Confidence is believe in yourself. Confidence is believe that even something go wrong but no problem.
Confidence is built using three factors. Number one, psychological factors. Which means the thought process to your belief system. Number two, your actions like practicals, practice, repetition and number three is the right body language.
What is psychological factors? Those who are confident speakers they are not required to be fluent but they have a different thought process. They have different belief system. What is that? If my English is not good this does not mean I am not good. They have this belief. Therefore even when they make some grammatical mistake they speak confidently without any nervousness. without any guilt they speak up because they know that they are good enough. and only English is not going to decide there greatness or success or ability. They also believe that someone else English very fluent this does not mean that, that person is great or successful or intelligent. It only mean that he is good in only English. Therefore when they speak to a fluent speaker they don't get nervous because through they don't rate that person very high. They give him the appropriate value. They do not believe that their English is bad. They accept whatever their English is and they go ahead. This makes them feel confident. They never compare their English with anyone else. They know that everyone else's is different so there is no point to comparing their English with anyone else.
Naw the number two is action. If you want to build confidence then speak up. Confidence comes by repetitions and if you don't know repetition deliberate practice it is called as go and read the book.
Number three, when your body language is confident you become more confident and you feel more confident. When you are speaking to someone sit straight and have a nice eye contact. Don't avoid eye contact and high picture voice. And smile which will make your mind more confident. When your body is reflecting confident then your mind will be more confident.
Going to get mistake and feel nervousness it's a part of a game and it's a very common things. Don't give up. keep on working on yourself. Slowly developed your confidence. Go step by step and try to speak with people. Don't think that how long it will take to build confidence. It's a lifetime process. Practicing more and more and more...