Broken English

Confidence is a skill and this skill can be developed easily. It's not by birth. You have to work on that. Confidence is a state of mind. Confidence is your thought process. Confidence is believe in yourself. Confidence is believe that even something go wrong but no problem.

Confidence is built using three factors. Number one, psychological factors. Which means the thought process to your belief system. Number two, your actions like practicals, practice, repetition and number three is the right body language.

What is psychological factors? Those who are confident speakers they are not required to be fluent but they have a different thought process. They have different belief system. What is that? If my English is not good this does not mean I am not good. They have this belief. Therefore even when they make some grammatical mistake they speak confidently without any nervousness. without any guilt they speak up because they know that they are good enough. and only English is not going to decide there greatness or success or ability. They also believe that someone else English very fluent this does not mean that, that person is great or successful or intelligent. It only mean that he is good in only English. Therefore when they speak to a fluent speaker they don't get nervous because through they don't rate that person very high. They give him the appropriate value. They do not believe that their English is bad. They accept whatever their English is and they go ahead. This makes them feel confident. They never compare their English with anyone else. They know that everyone else's is different so there is no point to comparing their English with anyone else.

Naw the number two is action. If you want to build confidence then speak up. Confidence comes by repetitions and if you don't know repetition deliberate practice it is called as go and read the book.

Number three, when your body language is confident you become more confident and you feel more confident. When you are speaking to someone sit straight and have a nice eye contact. Don't avoid eye contact and high picture voice. And smile which will make your mind more confident. When your body is reflecting confident then your mind will be more confident.

Going to get mistake and feel nervousness it's a part of a game and it's a very common things. Don't give up. keep on working on yourself. Slowly developed your confidence. Go step by step and try to speak with people. Don't think that how long it will take to build confidence. It's a lifetime process. Practicing more and more and more...

I am sure that a lot of students will having concerns about improving their communication skill. So the first thing that I want to clear is, good communication does not mean knowing the English language. Many people have misconception that if I've learn English then I can do very nice communicate. English is just a language and communication is a skill. This two are totally different things. Now the problem is, a mistake which most people make, they learn word from the dictionary and try to insert it wherever is possible. And specially when I try to impress others.

First you have to learn the rules of communication and the short of things are making eye contact, body language, voice tonality and being proactive. And side by side if you want to improve your English keep a small notebook, in which you are putting down different words. Train your brains on multiple fronts. Are you reading? Do you write on a daily basis? Are you watching something? Are you listening to audios? So brain has so many ways to receive information, use all of them to improve your communication skill. Communication work for those, those who work at it. If you will work at communication, you will get better.

I am gonna introduce you to a law, which not only in communication but in every field this law is applicable. It's called the law of paying the price. Which simply stated means is, if you want something you must pay the price. Which means you need more and more efforts to develop the communication. There is no such kind of shortcut to achieve it. It will take time and it will take hard work and you need good role models. Role model means, like whom do you wish to learn to communicate? Choose the right books, choose the right audios and videos to improve your communication skill. For good communication you focus on your body language, body posture, your voice of tone, visual, auditory and so many things there on combining together.

Nobody is born a good communicator. Just you gonna work for it and you can. Like a muscle, the more you use, the better it gets. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will get. And that's the only way, there is no shortcuts around it. But if you stay in your comfort zone and do whatever I was doing always, you won't learn anything new.

Lord has not changed the circumstances of a person, who is not concerned to change his/her own circumstances.

Imagine you are sitting there in the audience on the desk. Suddenly the announcer there says that now we need somebody to come and talk. You are there and suddenly the person calls you. "Hello Mr xyz please come on the desk and say few words". Now this situation happens many times. And what happens at that moment is people go blank because they had no plan.

So in any situation when you are called without any preparation to speak and you do not even have a topic to speak. At that moment what happened if people are not experienced and not easy with public speaking they can stuck or they get frightened. I have seen so many experience people getting really a cold feet when they are suddenly called to speak without any knowledge of it.

When you are speaking without preparation the people are not expecting from you a scholarly speech but they expecting some decent speech. Using a simple technique you can manage it very easily. Which is called PPIT technique. Using this technique you will able to to speak if the issue is not given to you.

1. People (P)- Where suddenly if you are called to tell something first remember P and you can talk something about the people present there. You can fast start by greetings (good evening, good morning or namaskar to all) and then you can say that thank you so much for giving me this opportunity to speak. Then say few something about the people present on the desk aur people present in the audience. In general you will always be able to make few comments about the people. No matter what is the situation. It maybe a club function or it may be a wedding ceremony or it may be other kind of office ceremony or something.

2. Place (P)- the second P is place. Talk about that organisation and that location where you are. So you can say whenever I come to this campus I really have a feeling like I'm coming to my home. Aur you can say I really like the ambiance of this place. Aur I love the greenery here. Aur I love the infrastructure or building here. Something always you can comment about the place.

3. Issue (I)- If you are talking on the desk of a college or School and no issue has been given to you. only they are just told you to say few words. So let say about your feeling related that organization. Because principal is there or sitting people on the desk and they are really concerned that you say something good about them. That's also etiquettes. So you can say I really like the friendliness of teachers here or Create some good issue for some good points if they have not given your topic.

4. Time (T)- time here means past, present and future. So after speaking three points also you have some more couple of minutes to fill then think about past. You can say that earlier remember when I was younger and I used to go by this place and I used to look at this building. Now you are talking about the past. Say one line aur tuo line about the future. In future you can talk about future of that audience. You can talking about future of that organisation.

It really doesn't matter what is the topic. Really doesn't matter what is the audience or what is the location. If you are always keep this technique if your mind is PPIT you will always be able to speak fluently and confidently at least for 5 minutes. Since you have spoken extempore people will love that. Because we're not expecting the big speech from you. They are just called you and still your speech will look very very well organised speech.

Now our students study English from nursery class and they will forget their mother tongue. I have seen some uneducated people telling their children don't call me "maa" or don't call me "baba" call "Mom" or "Dad". What I think is terrible English. Which makes you the word is anglicisted. Anglicist means to become falsely English. English is useful for us and we learn it but our mother tongue is our mother and we don't forget our mother.

Our young students are brilliant and they are very intelligent but they are not willing to practice. We love to be lazy. We don't like to be practice.

The language there is two things one is fluency and another one is accuracy. Fluency means are you able to think and speak at the same time.

Practice conversation everyday at least 10 to 15 minutes. Is doesn't matter if everybody laugh it us. We have to practice anywhere anytime for our own improvement.

Suppose you love movies so after watching come back and write down in English about the movie. You can practice like this whatever interests you have.

Whenever you're hear anything which is spoken your own language try to understand it in English. That will be a wonderful practice.

If you think that your poor English communication is due to grammar then you are wrong. There are many people who know all the grammar rules. They are perfect in grammar. But they can't speak confidently. On the other side there are some people who don't know much grammar but they have very confident speaker.

I am not saying that grammar is useless. To develop the English grammar is important. But if you keep on studying grammar or if you keep on by hurting all the rules you will be more confused. If you want to speak practically which is called street English then that grammar is not going to help you. Without English grammar you can develop your speaking English very fluently and confidently by practicing.

When you are new then very powerful habit for you is listening. You can listen to your favorite audio on YouTube or any audio book on your mobile. Gradually you will be able to master the correct grammar and which helps you to learn new words, make sentences and correct pronunciations.

You cannot improve English just by sitting in room. However well you speak you must remember that you can improve. However badly you can speak you must remember you become excellent. When you start practicing your speaking will be improve automatically and you can easily make yourself excellent.

When you are introducing yourself please say "I am Mukul" or "my name is Mukul" (your name) not say "myself Mukul". That is not correct. You go into the interview room or you go into your boss's room to make presentation if you say "myself" then you making a mistake.

If you want to understand a person's behavior or If you want to choose a person as your life partner then you must first know how he treats his parents. You have to see how much he loves his family and how much he respects the people around him.
If the man who can't keep his parents and family happy will never be able to keep you happy.
If the man does not respect the people around him, he will never be able to respect you and your family.

Read everyday one paragraph repeatedly or Listen everyday same audio repeatedly. If we can adopt these two methods everyday then we built up a store house of English knowledge in our memory. Once we have knowledge of correct English then we don't make mistakes. Otherwise we make mistakes even if we study vocabulary, pronunciation, grammar, punctuation, spelling etc.

Everybody has one questions and that is how can we improve our speaking? We know grammar but still we cannot speak. We know how to write but still we cannot speak. if you listen you cannot learn to speak. Although these all things has improved but you will never learn to speak unless you speak yourself.

The speaking English power is already with in you. But how will you do? By going on practicing you will bring out that power.

A children learn to speak through the natural way of learning. If you teach them a new word they go on repeating that word again and again. You get bored but the child does not get bored. Because the repetition we learning it correctly. And that reputation what all of you need to do. Unless you are able to do this your English does not improved.

You might attained 100 of courses. You might join spoken English classes for 6 months or 1 year but no improvement comes because in a class you only getting some ideas. But without practice you cannot improve. Speak with them always if you find somebody who speaks better than you. They might laugh at your mistake but doesn't matter. Speak to that person also, if you find somebody who speaks less than you. Because looking at somebody's mistake you can get more confidence and learn better English.