Suruchi’s Inner Space Counselling Centre

Can we force anyone to love us ? Can anyone force us to love them? And whatever relationship gets formed out of this force, will anyone of us be happy? No, never! So just take few steps back. Don’t force, don’t try to prove your worth all the time. If they love you, they will themselves create space for you. Just let it be.

The process of wondering and trying to guess what someone is thinking is a rapid route to feeling of insecurity and stress in a relationship. Please stop trying to read minds.
If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they don’t say anything don’t assume their silence has some negative connotation. Likewise, don’t make people in your life read your mind, say what you mean. When you stop reading others mind, you respect their privacy and show trust in relationship with them. Let go of the need to listen to what’s not being said 🙂

Sometimes people don’t notice the things we do for them until we stop doing them. And sometimes the more chances you give, the more respect you lose. Enough is enough. Never let a person get comfortable with disrespecting YOU. When someone rejects or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them their own insecurities, limitations and needs. You deserve to be with someone who doesn’t take you for granted and holds you in high respect.

You are enough right now!
You don’t need a standing ovation or million dollars in bank or a page of appreciation. You have nothing to prove. You are enough right now.
Stop thinking and caring about what you are to others, rather focus on who you are to yourself. You will have fewer disappointments and regrets, the moment you stop seeking validation from others. The only person whose validation you should be looking up to is ~ yourself!
No matter how carefully you choose your words and mannerisms, there’s always a good chance they will be misinterpreted and twisted by someone. You can’t make everyone happy! What matters is how you see yourself.
Stop existing, start living. You are enough right now!

We waste our time and energy trying to make everyone like us. We go out of our way to make everyone say “she is good, she is so nice.” But someone somewhere will always say “no she is fake, no one can be so good:)” so whatever you do or not do will attract judgement. There will always be many who will not like you, whatever you do.
So relax, be yourself. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to get everybody like you. The reality is “you also don’t like everyone :)” so it’s okay to be not liked by everyone, it is not possible and it doesn’t matter.

Let’s stop judging others. We judge people based on what we hear about them from others. We judge them because they do not meet our standards of right and wrong. We think we understand them, but have we heard them and their side of story!!!
Just be more compassionate and stop putting people under your radar of judgment. Live and let them live.
Even if you need to judge them, please do not judge on other people’s opinion and thoughts.

We all sometime or other want to be liked by others. We want people to appreciate us and applause us. May be it gives some of us adrenaline rush. But in doing so we start giving people power over our thoughts, decisions and feelings. We become people pleaser and start looking for validation.
When you start giving in so much power to people over you, they start treating you like option. They know you would be always around because you want their approval. This is where we lose our power and give it to them. We become an option. Keep yourself at priority and do not ever give so much, that you start getting treated as option.

Rule 5. There is a beauty beyond words in imperfection. What makes you is your imperfect self with all your virtues and vices. Let go the need to be perfect all times and finding fault with oneself. There are a lot of people around to do the same for you! You accept and love yourself for what you are. Your beauty lies in your imperfections.
For once let the need to be perfect, right and see how beautiful life is with this imperfectly perfect you!
5 enjoy the imperfectly perfect You!

rule 4 says stop overthinking. We all always want to assume and read others minds. We want to know what is other person thinking or trying to mean. We try to read in between lines and hear what’s not being said. 4 says just let it go. Whenever we assume things it is 90% negative, pls don’t do for your own sanity. Right away, right now just let this thing go. If you have any doubts and you need to clarify, please ask but do not assume and overthink it.
Generally people are busy with themselves and their problems rather than thinking about us. And even if they are, how does it matter to us. So relax and stop assuming, start asking
4 stop assuming what others are thinking or meaning. If in doubt, please ask.

3 for a happy life! We all want validations, and half of our lives are spent looking for peoples approval. So a very important rule is to start giving ourselves all the approval, all the pats and praises that we want from others.
The day we stop looking for validations, stop being people pleasers we will automatically be very happy!!! So if we approve of ourselves, we wouldn’t need anyone else approval and life would be so better. Let’s be our own biggest fan!!
3 - start giving yourself all the approval that you are looking from outside.