Bachpan godhra

30/03/2022

05/07/2012

10 Ways to Help Your Kids Succeed

Help your children become successful on and off the court.
I want my three daughters to succeed in everything from schoolwork to after school activities. I hope they'll find something they love and that they can excel at. I want them to be happy and well-adjusted.
In short, I want it all for them. How can I help them on the road to success?
1. Teach them to lose gracefully.
Kids who always win aren't going to be ready for the real world. Teach your child how to deal with disappointment. Let them see you try and fail while maintaining your composure.
2. Encourage perseverance.
Children need to learn to get back up after they fall. When you fall down, get back up and try again. Successful individuals are persistent people.
3. Be a constant presence.
Be there when your child needs help with their homework, a ride to soccer practice, or someone to talk to. The key to raising successful kids isn't an expensive present - it's your presence.
4. Cheer loudly.
Be your son or daughter's biggest cheerleader in whatever activities they choose. Don't point out their failings. Celebrate their progress, as well as their success.
5. Don't do it for them.
It can be tempting to help your child through the rough spots. Know your place. You won't help your child succeed if you do the work for them.
6. Try new things.
You'll never find your niche if you don't get out of your comfort zone and try something new. Encourage your child to try a new sport, read a new book, or get involved in a new activity. Be sure to let them see you do the same!
7. Nurture, don't shelter.
If you want to raise successful children, you'll need to walk a fine line between nurturing and supporting them and sheltering them from the real world. I wish I had some magic way of knowing which side of the line I'm treading on, but the truth is that you just have to trust your gut with this one. If you shelter your children too much, success will be so much harder to come by in life.
8. Play fair.
The old adage about cheaters rings true today. Remind your children (often) that fair play matters more than winning and losing.
9. Keep your cool.
Do you yell at the coach from the sidelines? Use obscenities to handle situations at home? Fly off the handle regularly? Keeping your cool inspires your kids to do the same.
10. Be the example.
If you want your child to succeed in life, be the example for them in all that you say and do. Children learn when we forget they're even watching. What did you teach your child today?
Content by Kelly Herdrich .

19/06/2012

Teaching Kids to Stick with It

Dad and daughter readingYour kid is the perfect age to start building grit so he won't quit.

By Hagar Scher

One minute your preschooler is drawing a portrait of the cat, when suddenly he throws his crayon to the floor, "I can't draw paws!" he tearfully explains.

Obviously, giving up rather than persevering is not something you want to encourage. "The ability to focus and finish a job is a real challenge for a preschooler because he's still learning how to stick with a task," says Susan Newman, Ph.D., a psychologist in Metuchen, New Jersey. Kids this age are just beginning to learn how to rely on themselves. Your job as a parent is to nurture the skills that will help your child transition from helpless to tenacious.

Encourage Can-Do Spirit
At this age, skills and abilities vary greatly from child to child, and your preschooler may be feeling the kiddie version of not being able to keep up with the Joneses. "Preschool can be a rude awakening," says Parents advisor Michele Borba, Ed.D., author of The Big Book of Parenting Solutions. "Suddenly, your child is seeing her friend do things that she may not be able to do yet -- like ride a tricycle or write her name. That sense of discouragement could be at the heart of a child's tendency to throw up her hands when things get challenging, so it's a good idea to say something empathetic like, 'When I was your age, I had a hard time riding a bike too, but I practiced every day and finally I just took off!'" This will help focus your child's attention on the effort everyone has to make to learn something new -- even you.

When it comes to fostering confidence and the ability to persevere, the wrong kind of kudos can hinder your cause. Praising your kid for her natural abilities -- "You're the best athlete!" -- rather than her effort -- "I see that you tried really hard and helped the other kids" -- can make your child avoid taking risks because she may feel that the only way to impress you is with perfect results. So cheer for your child's work ethic, how hard she's trying, and the fact that she's not giving up. "Your job is to gently lengthen the amount of time your child is willing to stick with a challenging task," Dr. Borba says.

Stop Swooping In
Your desire to rescue your child from frustration born from a toppled Lego masterpiece or a train track that won't connect is natural -- but totally counterproductive when it comes to teaching him tenacity. "When you avoid jumping in, you're teaching self-reliance and encouraging problem-solving," says Dr. Newman.

Obviously, if your child has already moved into five-alarm-tantrum mode, the best tactic is redirecting him from the activity and putting it aside so he can tackle it afresh. But if you catch him before he's crossed into the freak-out zone, you have a valuable teaching opportunity.

Putting words to his feelings ("I know you feel so frustrated with all those tiny little pieces") will help him feel more in control. Then give him some strategies to use when he hits a roadblock. For example, teach him to "reboot" by putting his hands in his lap and taking a slow, deep inhale and exhale before he takes another go at his project. If he's still feeling thwarted, suggest getting up for a drink of water, or doing a big reach-for-the-sky stretch to help move himself into "ready to conquer" zone.

Be a Guide
Preschoolers can be so verbal that you may be expecting your child to accomplish things beyond her maturity level. Kids this age still have a ways to travel in terms of motor and cognitive development, as well as emotional growth. It's possible that she's giving up because the task is beyond her reach. For example, unless you actually teach her how, putting on a jacket or socks can be impossible for a newly minted 3-year-old. Make sure you set aside pressure-free time to share those skills, and give her plenty of time to practice.

Your job is to model the benefits, as well as the joys, of self-reliance. If you're frustrated because you can't get your pictures uploaded to your page, get lost even though you're following the GPS directions, or once again have forgotten one of the key ingredients you need for what you're about to make for dinner, get your sense of humor on and let your child see you pull it together -- it might be just the moment to teach your kid that fabled mantra: I think I can, I think I can, I know I can.

01/03/2012

17/02/2012

Training Your Baby To Be Independent And Self Reliant
Parents play a very important role in raising their children. Often times, children are a reflection of their parents’ personality. Your upbringing reflects in everyday behavior of your baby. You can raise your baby to be dependent or independent, boisterous or calm, shy or outgoing, just as you want her to be. You can mould your baby the way you want, starting very early in life. You can start with the process of making your baby self-reliant even before the age of one.

Assisting Her In The Process Of Becoming Independent.

Helping your baby become independent mainly involves giving her ample freedom to explore, learn and appreciate. However, you must maintain that you are the person in charge to decide the extent of independence of the baby and you must teach your baby when to lead and when to follow the rules, with reason and consistency.
Let Your Baby Explore: As babies grow they start exploring things around them. Baby proof your house and give her the freedom to touch, feel and learn. But don’t forget to supervise from a distance. Help your baby relate to different things by training her, like a dining table with eating, TV with remote, garden with plants, night with stars, phone with talking etc. Within weeks, your baby is able to understand and relate things.
Let Your Baby Learn: Teach your baby different things according to her age. As she grows a little older, demonstrate how to arrange her toys and then encourage her to do so herself. Then gradually ask her to help you in picking up the toys one by one once she finishes playing. Encourage her to do so everyday after play. Slowly you can stop doing it for her. Sooner than you expect, you are going to see that your baby has learned to do it all on her own.
Let Your Baby Speak: Interact with your baby often and encourage her to speak. Teach her to ask questions about things she doesn’t know. Encourage her to become inquisitive about daily things. Let her ask when, why and how. Very soon she is going to develop independent thinking. Talk to her about her favorite cartoons or games and encourage her to share her views. Give your baby the freedom to make telephonic conversations. You can allow special time for your baby to speak to her grandparents over the phone.
Avoid Too Many Restrictions: Allow your baby to choose her favorite toys. In a grocery store, give her the freedom to pick up one or two things of her choice. Give her the liberty to do things she likes for a few hours everyday. Observe her while she plays and share your ideas about creative things with her. By giving up too much control, you are giving your baby the room to learn things on her own. If she makes an effort to take a book from a shelf on top using a chair, allow it but make sure that she remains safe. Minor tosses and turns should not worry you.
Avoid Doing Simple Chores for Your Baby: You may be a parent who is a bit over concerned about your little one. But this over concern should not overpower the independence of your baby. Let your baby do her own things, like fetching a water bottle for herself from the table or climbing up the bed. Just give suggestions or instructions if required. Standby and closely observe. Give her freedom and space as she grows.
Appreciate a Lot: Appreciate every effort your baby makes to do or learn new things. Encourage her to overcome failures by learning new things on her own. Give suggestions only when really needed and encourage her for the efforts that she makes. Praise her talents, approach and special skills. Encourage her to try out newer things and help her in exploring and enhancing her abilities. Doing so instills a confident self-image in your baby. Give her freedom of decision-making wherever appropriate and see her shine with confidence.
Avoid Giving Too Much or Too Less of Freedom: Remember "Too much or too little of anything is bad." Maintain appropriate degree of control and authority as a parent without interfering with your baby’s self-reliance. As a parent you need to channelize your baby’s independence, help your baby identify when it is time to “follow the group” and when she can let her spirits charge forward.
Some Techniques to Make Your Baby Independent.
Raising a baby to grow into an independent individual can be a challenge in itself. However, by consciously and consistently applying the following suggestions, you can accomplish this task very smoothly:
Explain the Rules Clearly: Independence does not imply that you let your baby make all the rules all the time. As a parent, you set the rules for your baby and explain them to her clearly. Stay firm on those rules and most importantly, try not to change them.
Be Consistent: Your baby must know what to expect from you. The rules, rewards and punishments should be consistent. Make sure that you stick to your words.

Don’t Resort to Threatening: Do not make empty threats about punishments. If you don’t follow through with your words, then your warnings carry no weight.

Be Firm: If you have said no to your baby, do not go back on your words under any circumstances. This makes your baby understand that you mean what you say. Don’t be harsh or blunt while saying no. Be gentle but firm. This makes your baby behave better and be less likely to question your authority. Your independent baby often tries to remake or stretch the rules, make sure you control them with consistent expectations.
Let Your Baby Make Mistakes: Let your baby make a few mistakes if the repercussions of those mistakes are not harmful to anyone. Making mistakes is a great opportunity for her to learn and helps her realize that she is not as invincible as she thinks. Let her peer group take control sometimes so that she realizes that she cannot always lead or always be correct.
Help Your Baby Take on the World On Her Own.
Independent children grow up to do great things, even when the odds are against them. They achieve monumental victories and serve as valuable role models by influencing others to make positive choices in their every day lives. Allow your baby as much appropriate independence as you can. Instill good values, courage and wisdom in your baby and see her grow into a more confident and self-sufficient adult!

17/02/2012

Top Ten Ways to Teach Values to Your Kids
by Mark Brandenburg

In a consumer-driven society that broadcasts values that don’t reflect what you believe, how can fathers teach values to their kids? Here are ten ideas to help you:

how to teach kids values

Tell them your life stories and teach through your stories
Kids love to hear stories about your childhood. Weave in some moral dilemmas and you’ve got great opportunities to teach values to them. It certainly beats lecturing your kids!

Live your own life according to your values—walk the talk.
Kids learn by imitating, especially at a young age. They are very adept at seeing if what you say and what you do are matching up. Don’t give them confusing signals; follow your own values every moment.

Expose them to your religion or faith
It seems especially important today to let them know that they’re not alone. Providing your kids with a community of faith will strengthen their values and provide parents some “leverage”

Pay attention to who else might be teaching values to your kids
Get to know your child’s teachers, coaches, relatives, etc. Anyone who spends time with your kids may be influencing them. Know their values and beliefs as well.

Ask your kids questions that will stimulate dialogue about values
Telling them what values they should have won’t always be effective, especially when your kids get older. Asking them “curious” questions will allow discussions that will eventually lead to values. “What did you think about that fight,” may be more effective than, “He shouldn’t have started that fight!”

Talk to them about values in a relaxed and easy way
Nothing will turn your kids off more than preaching values to them after they’ve screwed up! Talk to them when everyone’s relaxed, and do it in a light, conversational manner. They’ll be much more likely to be listening rather than tuning you out.

Read them fairy tales when they’re younger
Fairy tales capture the imagination of kids and can easily lead to a discussion of values. Kids will learn the most concerning values when they’re excited about the topic.

Involve your kids in art, activities, or helping others while limiting TV and video games
Kids learn values when they experience them. Allow them to experience helping others and involve them in activities that will expand their creativity.

Have frequent conversations about values in your household
This lets your kids know that it’s important and it’s not just something you talk about when they do something wrong.

Have high expectations for your kids’ value systems
Kids will tend to rise to the level of expectation you have for them. Their value system will often reflect yours if the expectations are high

17/02/2012

Don't handicap your children by making their lives easy. ~Robert A. Heinlein

17/02/2012

Most of us become parents long before we have stopped being children.

13/02/2012

ifu have any suggestion than warm wel come

13/02/2012

13/02/2012

WE ARE DOING TEACHING IN NEW WAY AND WITH NEW CONCEPT