14/10/2019
Fighting depression: a battle against the need for attention
Many children today are battling with depression. Clinical depression is on the rise, and it seems to be crippling the productivity of the newer generations. However, the reason behind it may be simpler than you think.
Children these days have been brought up while receiving appreciation for their accomplishments, so much so that itās been wired into their neurology to be overwhelmed with praise when they achieve something. These pathways, once formed, begin to form a pattern and dependence. The children begin to seek appreciation for even the smallest of their achievements.
What happens when they donāt receive any acknowledgement?
A lack of acknowledgement, or even the absence of it, can make these children feel dejected. Initially, they will start to feel low as they begin to receive less acknowledgement for carrying out more āevery-dayā tasks, this state of dejection can be considered to be the first rung on the ladder towards depression.
To compensate for the dejection and to allow the release of chemicals (hormones) that induce happiness, these children will start performing chores that they believe will receive praise. As this behaviour progresses, they may even forget the intended objective of the tasks they need to perform. They will act solely to be the focus of peopleās attention.
Achieving higher grades, performing well in sports, looking good and dressing well, all of these actions become subsets of their need for acknowledgement. Theyāll believe that these actions will get them the attention that they desire. What might have started as praise for the extraordinary, like when a child takes its first steps, will eventually culminate into an ecosystem that revolves around seeking acknowledgement.
Eventually, the brain will start enabling actions by default to attract attention and acknowledgement. However, things will soon start to become challenging when these individuals do not receive the acknowledgement they desire, which can eventually lead to conflict with siblings, spouses, co-workers, employers and so on.
To avoid this massive pitfall, it is crucial to create a neutral ecosystem right from early childhood. Parents must give their children the space to grow. If children fall and cry, as long as they arenāt in any danger, itās okay to stay back and let the emotion subside. If children achieve something, let the satisfaction come from within first instead of through claps, cheers, awards and celebrations. Children know neurologically when they have achieved something. By celebrating every small victory, weāre leading them to believe that external appreciation is the only means to validate their achievements.
Do we really want our children to be dependent on external validation?
Happiness and content should come from within. Our actions, even though they come from the right place, have unintended consequences. Failing to curb this attention-seeking behaviour could eventually lead our children down a path of depression and aggression later in life. As they grow, children need to learn to be happy with themselves. They should not feel low or bored after get-togethers and festivals, just because they are alone.
Sonal Ahuja
02/10/2019
https://www.bonobology.com/situations-when-we-ask-our-children-to-take-sides/
5 Situations When We Ask Our Children to Take Sides but We Shouldnāt...
Negative bribing, proving superiority, blaming each other...are you doing this? Here are 5 situations when we as our children to take sides and should never do.
27/09/2019
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27/09/2019
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Psychiatry and Psychology / psychotherapy are different subjects and use completely different tools.
Psychiatry is a medical field for diagnosis & giving treatment and medicines for mental ailments. Done by medical Doctors.
It has not much connection with Psychotherapy/ psychology & psychotherapy uses many tools which are unconnected with psychiatry.
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20/09/2019
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09/06/2019
https://www.adam-mila.com/brain-development-children-0-6-years/ -an-enriched-environment
Brain Development of Children from 0-6 years - Facts every parent should know
This comprehensive guide to the brain development of children from 0 to 6 years is packed with insightful tips and important facts every parent should know.