Parent and child counsellor

The mission of parents should be to love care and guide ;which are the real rights of children.
But the fact is that we hqve instead neglected and indeed forgotten . Parents, may be unconsciously,have tormented and broken down their children . Have failed to recognise his power ,his value ,his essential nature .
In today's age , one must learn to be a parent before he actually becomes one.

The child's parents are not his makers or owners but his guardians. They must protect and care for him , in the deepest sense as a sacred mission that goes far beyond the interests and ideas of external life .

Telling a child she shouldn't feel the way she does is similar to telling water it shouldn't be wet or grass it shouldn't be green.
Each feeling is real, liked by others or not , understood by others or not ,
They are still real.
So a good tip is ....
To first accept the feeling of the child and then adress the behaviour.

Getting aware of our emotions will build our EQ to a higher level which is the only thing that will separate us from cold n lifeless computers n robots.

Each one of desires that children in our charge should bloom into their fragrant best. Every parent dreams that their children become "Winners": Every parent desires to develop their children into well-rounded personalities.
But they forget that in raising holistic children,parents have to focus on not just their kid's IQ but also their emotional skills(EQ).
Goleman, with his research , has proven that success in life can be attributed only 20% to IQ but 80% to other factors like EQ. In fact there are people who may not do really well on IQ tests , and may not be very skillful at their jobs , but who are very happy and contend with life.
So if your ultimate goal as a parent is to your child 'Happy' , help them develop their emotional intelligence.
And Yes , EI is learnable.
Happy parenting😊

Children Learn What they live

If a child lives with criticism,he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with praise,he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with ridicule,he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with security ,he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,he learns to find love in the world.
If a child lives with approval,he learns to be like himself.

So be careful of the life and environment you give to your child. Because your child will be what the parents make of him.
Happy parenting😊

COPING ABILITY
Anyone who thinks he has an excellent coping ability to confront problems may actually be heading towards a breakdown. It is accepted by psychologists that stress can have a cumulative effect. A person who feels proud of the fact that he has been facing one problem after another, and not feeling distressed in any way, may in fact be accumulating the stress. One day he may find himself breaking down at a very trivial problem.

This will not happen if the person were to accept his limitations and share his feelings with others. The coping ability of a person who gives in to his emotions in the form of crying, anger, or talking out, is far better than that of the person who bottles it up within himself.

There is always a chance to change as a parent,but do you take time off to change!

Very impressive poem by Markus Natten

When did my childhood go?
Was it the day I ceased to be eleven,
Was it the time I realised that Hell and Heaven,
Could not be found in Geography,
And therefore could not be,
Was that the day!

When did my childhood go?
Was it the time I realised that adults were not
all they seemed to be,
They talked of love and preached of love,
But did not act so lovingly,
Was that the day!

When did my childhood go?
Was it when I found my mind was really mine,
To use whichever way I choose,
Producing thoughts that we're not those of other people
But my own, and mine alone
Was that the day!

Where did my childhood go?
It went to some forgotten place,
That's hidden in an infant's face,
That's all I know.

One very effective way to enhance self- esteem in children or anyone is to ask them to write -
The ten things I like about Me.
This helps them know their strengths. Do take a chance to remind them these when they feel low.
Happy parenting. 😄

Irrational beliefs and thoughts lead to undesirable consequences. If we can substitute our irrational thinking to rational,we can change our undesirable results to the desired ones.

According to a well known cognitive theorist - Albert Ellis

It is important for individuals to acknowledge the fact that they live in a social world with people who think and feel differently from us.