ILS

*ETIQUETTE:*

*1.* Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;

*2.* Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers asking for it from you. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes;

*3.* Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner. If possible ask them to order their choice of food for you;

*4.* Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;

*5.* Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;

*6.* If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;

*7.* Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;

*8.* Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;

*9.* If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;

*10.* Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

*11.* Praise publicly. Criticize privately;

*12.* There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;

*13.* When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;

*14.* If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;

*15.* Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;

*16.* If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;

*17.* Never give advice until you’re asked;

*18.* When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;

*19.* Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;

*20.* Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech;

*21*. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren...or talk about your spouses around those who don't have.

*22*. Lastly, Share a post you learnt from to help others learn too.

Types of people that should always avoid

*The Gossip Goats*
We are good-for-nothing except for the baa-baa-baa we do about others all the time.

*The Rumor Rogues*.
Competing with him/her is hard, but hey! Spreading rumor about that person seems like not bad an idea.

*The Jealous Janks*
We are going to destroy you. Avoid us. Like plague.

*The Judgemental Jerk-heads*
We are poor listeners. We are poor communicators. But, muhaha! We have too much time to worry about things that are none of our businesses.

*The Manipulative Monsters*
Punch us in our faces, kick us out of your lives before we make you powerless and deaden you.

*The Criticizing Captains*
Free loser-faultfinder-critic anybody? We are available in plenty.

*The Negativity Ninjas*
You see us, you are dead. Physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, any-way-possibly.

*The Life-Sucker Leeches*
Extra straw, anyone? Just found a target. It would be do much fun to suck fun out of its life. Mmm-yumm.

*The Arrogant A-holes*
So what if we are dim-wits? Brute intimidation works!

*The Dishonest D-Bags*
We are the D-bags. We Damage, Destroy, Disfigure. What?
EVERYTHING.

*HINDUISM IS SCIENCE*

*...மரம்...TREE*
People are advised to worship Neem and Banyan tree in the morning. Inhaling the air near these trees, is good for health.

*...யோகம்...YOGA*
If you are trying to look ways for stress management, there can’t be anything other than Hindu Yoga aasan Pranayama (inhaling and exhaling air slowly using one of the nostrils).

*...கோயில்...TEMPLE*
Hindu temples are built scientifically. The place where an idol is placed in the temple is called ‘Moolasthanam’. This ‘Moolasthanam’ is where earth’s magnetic waves are found to be maximum, thus benefitting the worshipper.

*...துளசி...TULSI*
Every Hindu household has a Tulsi plant. Tulsi or Basil leaves when consumed, keeps our immune system strong to help prevent the H1N1 disease.

*...வேதம்...VEDA*
The rhythm of Vedic mantras, an ancient Hindu practice, when pronounced and heard are believed to cure so many disorders of the body like blood pressure.

*...பொட்டு...VIBHOOD*
Hindus keep the holy ash in their forehead after taking a bath, this removes excess water from your head.

*...குங்குமம்...BINDI*
Women keep kumkum bindi on their forehead that protects from being hypnotised.

*...கை....HAND*
Eating with hands might be looked down upon in the west but it connects the body, mind and soul, when it comes to food.

*...வாழையிலை...BANANA LEAF*
Hindu customs requires one to eat on a leaf plate. This is the most eco-friendly way as it does not require any chemical soap to clean it and it can be discarded without harming the environment.banana; palash leaves

*...காது குத்து... EAR PIERCING*
Piercing of baby’s ears is actually part of acupuncture treatment. The point where the ear is pierced helps in curing Asthma.

*...மஞ்சள்...TURMERIC*
Sprinkling turmeric mixed water around the house before prayers and after. Its known that turmeric has antioxidant, antibacterial and anti-inflammatory qualities.

*...பசுஞ்சாணம்...COW DUNG*
The old practice of pasting cow dung on walls and outside their house prevents various diseases/viruses as this cow dung is anti-biotic and rich in minerals.

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*...கோமியம்...COW URINE*
Hindus consider drinking cow urine to cure various illnesses. Apparently, it does balance bile, mucous and airs and a remover of heart diseases and effect of poison.

*...தோப்புகரணம்... SIT-UPS*
(SUPER BRAIN YOGA)
The age-old punishment of doing sit-ups while holding the ears actually makes the mind sharper and is helpful for those with Autism, Asperger’s Syndrome, learning difficulties and behavioural problems.

*...நெய் விளக்கு... GHEE LAMP*
Lighting ‘diyas’ or oil or ghee lamps in temples and house fills the surroundings with positivity and recharges your senses.

*...பூணூல்...STRING*
Janeu, or the string on a Brahmin’s body, is also a part of Acupressure ‘Janeu' and keeps the wearer safe from several diseases.

*...தோரணம்... TORAN*
Decorating the main door with ‘Toran’- a string of mangoes leaves;neem leaves;ashoka leaves actually purifies the atmosphere

*...ஆசிர்வாதம்... ASHIRWAD*
Touching your elder’s feet keeps your backbone in good shape.

*...சுடுகாடு... CREMATION GROUND*
Cremation or burning the dead, is one of the cleanest form of disposing off the dead body.

*..ஓம்... AUM*
Chanting the mantra ‘Om’ leads to significant reduction in heart rate which leads to a deep form of relaxation with increased alertness.

*...சங்கநாதம்...SHANK*
The ‘Shankh Dhwani’ creates the sound waves by which many harmful germs, insects are destroyed. The mosquito breeding is also affected by Shankh blowing and decreases the spread of malaria.

LIFE IS 99% Bliss , 1% Pain :
Mind is always conscious of pain, never conscious of bliss.

If you have a headache you are conscious of it. When you don't have a headache you are not conscious of the well-being of the head.

When the body hurts you are conscious of it, but when the body is perfectly healthy you are not conscious of the health.

This is the root cause of why we feel so miserable: our whole consciousness is focused on pain.

We only count the thorns -- we never look at the flowers.

Nature makes you aware of pain so that you can avoid it.

It is a built-in system. Otherwise, your hand may be burning and you may not be conscious; it will be difficult to survive.

So nature has made it very essential and inevitable that you have to be conscious of the pain.

But nature has no built-in mechanism to make you conscious of pleasure, joy, bliss. That has to be learned, that has to be worked out. That is an art.

From this moment start becoming aware of things which are not natural.

For example, your body is feeling perfectly healthy: sit silently, become conscious of it. Enjoy the well-being. Nothing is wrong -- enjoy it!

Make a deliberate effort to be conscious of it. You have eaten well and the body is satisfied, contented; become conscious of it.

When you are hungry, nature makes you conscious, but nature has no system to make you conscious of when you are satiated; that has to be grown.

Nature need not grow it because survival is all that nature wants; more than that is luxury. Bliss is luxury, the greatest luxury.

If you enjoy the satiation that comes after you have eaten, naturally you know that when you are hungry there will be a little pain... and that is good.

When you have slept a good night's sleep and in the morning you are feeling so fresh and so alive, rejuvenated, naturally if one night you cannot sleep, there will be a little agony, but that is part of the game.

My own experience is that life consists of 99% bliss and 1% pain. But peoples' lives consist of 99% pain and 1% of bliss; everything is upside-down.

குட்டி கதை !

ஒரு நகரத்திற்கு ஒரு சட்டமிருந்தது. அதன்படி யார் வேண்டுமென்றாலும் அந்த நகரத்திற்கு ராஜாவாக வரமுடியும். ஆனால், அந்தப் பதவி ஐந்தாண்டுகள் மட்டுமே!

ஐந்தாண்டு முடிந்த அடுத்த நாளே மன்னனை ஆற்றின் கரைக்கு மறுபுறம் உள்ள காட்டில் விட்டுவிடுவார்கள்.

அந்தக் காட்டில் மனிதர்கள் கிடையாது. வெறும் கொடிய விலங்குகள் மட்டுமே!

மன்னன் காட்டிற்குள் நுழைந்தால் போதும்; வனவிலங்குகள் கொன்று தீர்த்துவிடும். இந்த சட்டத்தை யாராலும் மாற்ற இயலாது. இந்த நிபந்தனைகளுக்கு ஒப்புக் கொண்டவன் மட்டுமே அரியணையில் அமரப் பொருத்தமானவன். ஆக, மன்னனாக முடிசூட்டிக் கொண்டவனின் தலையெழுத்து, ஐந்தாண்டுகளுக்குப் பின் கட்டாய மரணம்.

இந்தக் கடுமையான சட்டத்துக்கு பயந்தே யாரும் அந்தப் பதவிக்கு ஆசைபடாமலிருந்ததால் அந்த அரியணை பெரும்பாலும் காலியாகவே இருந்தது. இருப்பினும் ஒரு சிலர்'எப்படியிருந்தாலும் சாகத்தானே போகிறோம்; மன்னனாகவே மடியலாமே!' என்று பதவி ஏற்பதுண்டு. அதிலும் பாதி மன்னர்கள் இடையிலேயே மாரடைப்பால் மரணமடைவதுமுண்டு.

இப்படி ஒரு மன்னனுக்கு ஐந்து ஆண்டு ஆட்சிக்காலம் முடிந்தது. அன்று ஆற்றின் கரையைக் கடந்து காட்டிற்குச் செல்ல வேண்டும். அவனை வழியனுப்ப நாடே திரண்டிருந்தது.

மன்னன் வந்தான், அவனுடைய சிறப்பான ஆடைகளையும் நகைகளையும் அணிந்து, முடிசூடி, தங்க வாளேந்தி வைரங்கள் மின்ன மக்கள் முன் நின்றான். மக்கள் வாயைப் பிளந்தனர் ''இன்னும் அரை மணிநேரத்தில் சாகப் போகிறான்; அதற்கு இவ்வளவு அலங்காரமா!''

தான் செல்லவிருந்த படகைப் பார்த்துவிட்டு சினத்துடன் கூறினான், ''மன்னன் செல்லும் படகா இது! பெரிய படகைக் கொண்டு வாருங்கள்! நான் நின்றுகொண்டா செல்வது! சிம்மாசனத்தைக் கொண்டு வாருங்கள்!''

கட்டளைகள் பறந்தன; காரியங்கள் நடந்தன! சற்று நேரத்தில் அலங்கரிக்கப்பட்ட அழகான படகு ஆற்று நீரைத் கிழித்துக் கொண்டு மறுகரை நோக்கிப் பயணித்தது.

மக்கள் திகைத்து நிற்க, மன்னன் கையசைக்க பயணம் தொடர்ந்தது. மிகவும் அதிர்ச்சியடைந்தவன் படகோட்டியே!

காரணம், இதுவரை அவன் மறுகரைக்கு அழைத்துச் சென்ற எந்த மன்னனும் மகிழ்ச்சியாக சென்றதில்லை. அழுது புலம்பி,புரண்டு, வெம்பிச் செல்வார்கள். இவனோ, மகிழ்ச்சிக் களிப்பில் பொங்கி வழிகிறான்.

படகோட்டி பொறுத்துக்கொள்ள முடியாமல் கேட்டான் .

''மன்னா! எங்கே செல்கிறீர்கள் தெரியுமா?''

''தெரியும் மறுகரைக்குச் செல்கிறேன்!''

''அங்கே சென்றவர்கள் திரும்ப இந்த நகரத்திற்கு வந்ததில்லை தெரியுமா?''

''தெரியும். நானும் திரும்ப இந்த நகரத்திற்கு வரப் போவதில்லை!''

''பின்னே எப்படி உங்களால் இவ்வளவு மகிழ்ச்சியாக இருக்க முடிகிறது?''

''அதுவா! நான் என்ன செய்தேன் தெரியுமா? ஆட்சிக்கு வந்த ஓராண்டு முடிவில் ஆயிரம் வேட்டைக்காரர்களைக் காட்டிற்கு அனுப்பினேன்; அவர்கள் கொடிய விலங்குகளை வேட்டையாடிக் கொன்று விட்டார்கள்!

இரண்டாமாண்டு முடிவில் ஆயிரம் விவசாயிகள் சென்றார்கள்; காட்டைத் திருத்தி உழுதார்கள்; இன்று ஏராளமான தானியங்கள் காய்கறிகள் விளைந்தது விவசாயம் செழித்தது.

மூன்றாமாண்டு முடிவில் ஆயிரம் கட்டடக்கலை வல்லுநர்கள், தொழிலாளர்கள் சென்றனர். இன்று வீடு, வாசல், அரண்மனை, அந்தப்புரம், சாலைகள் எல்லாம் தயார்!

நான்காம் ஆண்டு முடிவில் ஆயிரம் அரசு அதிகாரிகள் சென்றனர். நிர்வாகம் சீரடைந்தது. இந்த 4000 பேரும் தங்கள் மனைவி, குழந்தைகளுடன் சென்று அங்கே வாழ்கின்றனர்.

இப்போது நான் காட்டிற்குப் போகவில்லை; என்னுடைய நாட்டிற்குப் போகின்றேன்!

சாகப் போகவில்லையப்பா, வாழப் போகின்றேன்! அதுவும் மன்னனாக ஆளப்போகிறேன்!

உனக்கு ஒருவேளை அரண்மனைப் படகோட்டி வேலை வேண்டுமென்றால், இந்தப் படகோடு இப்படியே வேலைக்கு சேர்ந்து விடு!'' என்றான் மன்னன்.

ஒரே ஒரு கேள்வியை மட்டும் எடுத்துக் கொள்ளலாம்.

மன்னனின் வெற்றிக்குக் காரணங்கள் யாவை?

பல காரணங்கள் இருந்தாலும் குறிப்பாக இரண்டினைக் கூறலாம்.

ஒன்று : ஐந்து ஆண்டுகளுக்குப் பின் உயிர் வாழவேண்டும்; அதுவும் மன்னனாகவே வாழவேண்டும் என்று முடிவு எடுத்தது.

இரண்டு : அந்த முடிவினை அடைவதற்காக திட்டமிட்டு உழைத்தது!

அந்த மன்னனுடைய வெற்றிக்கு மட்டுமல்ல; நாம் அனைவருமே வெற்றி பெறவேண்டுமென்றால் நமக்குத்தேவை ஒரு இலக்கை நிர்ணயித்தலும் அதற்காக திட்டமிடுதலும்,திட்டமிட்ட பின் வெற்றி பெறும்வரை கடுமையாகவும் புத்திசாலித்தனமாக உழைப்பதுமே !

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*7 SPIRITUAL LESSONS FROM THE CURRENCY INVALIDATION IN INDIA*

*1. Change is Sudden*

Everybody is concerned about the overnight action making high value currency invalid across India. Nobody saw it coming; or was prepared; or had even any idea of its happening.

But there is something else which we know will surely come, but are not sure when, where and how - that is death. And it will come even more stealthily than this!

We had 4 hours advance notice for this - but in death, there will not be 4 seconds. Are we prepared for the secrecy and suddenness in Death?

*2. Value can be Lost in a Second*

We had Lakhs of Rupees in 500 and 1,000 denomination yesterday - but today they are just pieces of paper!

Similarly, all wordly gains - money, wealth, fame, power - not just high currency - will all be worthless for us a second after death.

*3. Don't Bank upon Banks*

Like the ATMs and Banks are closed today, options to do good deeds will close with death. No further good deeds can be done / notes withdrawn by us directly.

We can enjoy the assets we purchased earlier with the 500 / 1,000 currency but can't purchase any new ones now. Similarly, only the lasting assets of good deeds we created will benefit us after death - no new goodness can then be done.

*4. Fakes Will Not Last*

One of the purposes of the action is to deal with fake currency. After this, all fake notes will be out of the system. So will it be with ourselves and our actions...

Let us test ourselves - do we have authentic notes or fakes ones - of success, relations, happiness, even good deeds? Is our life itself authentic or are we living a fake life in a fake world?

*5. Small is Big*

Big deeds run the risk of breeding pride and arrogance. The real gems are the small, quiet, hidden, good deeds that are done with sincerity when no one is looking.

The person with two 100 rupee notes is today richer that the a person with a thousand 500 rupee notes!

*6. Source Matters*

For each of your actions, you shall be questioned and your source / intention seen.

When you go to the Bank to exchange the Rs 500 / 1,000 note, you will be asked for identity / PAN / source of Income.

Similarly when you bring your deeds to the Creator, he will ask for your source / intentions / purpose. Did you do it to be called a generous person? Or to compete with someone? Or only for the will and happiness of God?

Only the last will be valid currency there!

*7. Plan Ahead*

A lot of people are busy worrying and planning what they can do with the invalidated currency now. But it may be too late.

Planning for the Hereafter needs to be start in the Now - with right intention, sincere devotion and regular action. Else it could be too late.

School Name: LIFE

Class: 45th Standard

(All students are above 40 years)

ANGER - Present sir

EGO - Present sir

STRUGGLE - Present sir

ENVY - Present sir

REGRET - Present sir

ANXIETY - Present sir

BOREDOM - Present sir

DESIRES - Present sir

KILLED DESIRES - Present sir

FRUSTRATION - Present sir

IRRITATION - Present sir

MONTHLY EMI - Present sir

OFFICE TENSION - Present sir

FUTURE TENSION - Present sir

TROUBLE - Present sir

HURDLES - Present sir

WORRIES - Present sir

PROBLEMS - Present sir

UNCERTAINTIES - Present sir

CRITICISM - Present sir

GREED - Present sir

ARROGANCE - Present sir

HALF KNOWLEDGE- Present sir

HAPPINESS - ??? ( Silence)

HAPPINESS - ???

HAPPINESS - Absent sir

PEACE OF MIND - Absent sir

CONTENTMENT - Absent sir

FULL KNOWLEDGE - Absent sir

WISDOM - On the way Sir

LOVE - Sleeping/Missing

Hope - Leaving sir

PATIENCE - Lost sir

GENEROSITY - Lost sir

HONESTY - Lost Sir

GRATITUDE - No where

TRUST - Lost sir

LOYALTY - Lost sir

Why only Negative Qualities are Present & POSITIVE ones are Absent ?

CLASS TEACHER: " Because purpose of Life remains absent for ever. Sooner it is decided, thorns on the path becomes petals of roses on the way. "

Life is very simple to live, but many make it difficult to be simple.

" TAKE IT EASY MAKE IT EASY
Have a fabulous Life.

"The Amount of Money that's in Your Bank at the Time of Death, is the Extra Work You Did Which was not necessary."

Have a Great Day 👍🏻

One truck driver was doing his usual load delivery at a mental hospital, by parking his vehicle beside an open drain. He discovered a flat tyre when he was about to return from the mental hospital.

He jacked up the truck and removed the flat tyre to fix the spare tyre.

When he was about to fix the spare tyre, he accidentally dropped all the four bolts in the open drain. As he cannot fish the bolts in the open drain, he started to panic as to what should be done?

Just then, one patient happened to walk past him and asked the driver as to why he was looking troubled. The driver thought to himself, since there is nothing much he can do or this mental joker can. Just to keep the bugging away, the truck driver informed the whole episode to the mental patient and gave a helpless look.

The patient just laughed at the truck driver and said you just cannot even fix such a simple problem? "No wonder you are destined to remain a truck driver for life".

The truck driver was astonished to hear such a compliment from a mental guy. "Here is what you can do" said the mental guy... "take one bolt from each of the remaining three tyres / wheels and fix it on to this tyre. Then drive down to the nearest workshop and replace the missing ones. Isn't it simple my friend".

The truck driver was so impressed with this quick fix answer and asked the patient "How come you are so smart and intelligent and you are here at the mental hospital?"

The patient replied "Hello friend! I stay here because I am crazy, but not stupid".

No wonder, there are some people, who behave like the truck driver, thinking that others are just stupid.

So, guys, though you all are learned and wise, but, just watch out, there could be some CRAZY guys in our professional and personal lives, who could give us lot of quick fixes and brush up our wisdom.

Moral of the story:

Just do not conclude that you know everything and do not judge people by mere looks, their attire stature or their academic background.😊

Looking for Happiness

Once a group of 500 people were attending a seminar.

Suddenly the speaker stopped and decided to do a group activity.

He started giving each person a balloon.

Each person was then asked to write their name on it using a marker pen.

Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room.

The people were then let into that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written on it within 5 minutes.

Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.

At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon.

Then, the speaker asked each person to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it.

Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.

The speaker then began,

"This is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.

Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people.

Give them their happiness; you will get your own happiness.

And this is the purpose of human life...the pursuit of happiness."

Worth a read! 😊

Many hundreds of years ago in a small Italian town, a merchant had the misfortune of owing a large sum of money to the moneylender. The moneylender, who was old and ugly, fancied the merchant’s beautiful daughter so he proposed a bargain. He said he would forgo the merchant’s debt if he could marry the daughter. Both the merchant and his daughter were horrified by the proposal.

The moneylender told them that he would put a black pebble and a white pebble into an empty bag. The girl would then have to pick one pebble from the bag.If she picked the black pebble, she would become the moneylender’s wife and her father’s debt would be forgiven. If she picked the white pebble she need not marry him and her father’s debt would still be forgiven. But if she refused to pick a pebble, her father would be thrown into jail.

They were standing on a pebble strewn path in the merchant’s garden. As they talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As he picked them up, the sharp-eyed girl noticed that he had picked up two black pebbles and put them into the bag. He then asked the girl to pick her pebble from the bag.

What would you have done if you were the girl? If you had to advise her, what would you have told her? Careful analysis would produce three possibilities:

1. The girl should refuse to take a pebble.

2. The girl should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag and expose the moneylender as a cheat.

3. The girl should pick a black pebble and sacrifice herself in order to save her father from his debt and imprisonment.

The above story is used with the hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between lateral and logical thinking.

The girl put her hand into the moneybag and drew out a pebble. Without looking at it, she fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles.

“Oh, how clumsy of me,” she said. “But never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.” Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that she had picked the white one. And since the moneylender dared not admit his dishonesty, the girl changed what seemed an impossible situation into an advantageous one.

*MORAL OF THE STORY:*
Most complex problems do have a solution, sometimes we have to think about them in a different way.

If you liked this story… please share with friends, family and children… You might spark a thought, inspire and possibly change a life forever!

Thinking "Out of Box"...

*Famous quotes by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer*

"You have a very powerful mind that can make anything happen as long as you keep yourself centered."

"Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed."

"It's never crowded along the extra mile."

"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself."

"You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with."

"I am realistic - I expect miracles."

"There is no way to prosperity, prosperity is the way."

"Simply put, you believer that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy."

"Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you."

"Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made."

"There's nothing wrong with anger provided you use it constructively."

"All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won't succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy."

"Your children will see what you're all about by what you live rather than what you say."

"It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the poser to choose either."

"I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside."

"The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind."

"Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you."

"Conflict cannot survive without your participation."

"Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday and avoiding today."

"Your reputation is in the hands of others. That's what a reputation is. You can't control that. The only thing you can control is your character."

"Anything you really want, you can attain, if you really go after it."

"Happiness is something that you are, and it comes from the way you think."

"What comes out of you when you are squeezed is what is inside of you."