09/03/2026
We all love winners!
The fastest, brightest, biggest, strongest are celebrated.
We ignore that winners have also been losers at some point in the past and will be again in the future.
We forget that the adrenaline from a good match, a play well done, or a test cracked open is as fleeting as a whisper.
The one who shows up time and again, who tries untiringly even when winning is a distant dream, is often left with no accolades.
This morning we walked into class fresh from the exuberance of India’s T20 World Cup win, and our conversation naturally turned to the awesome skill, endurance, and grit displayed last evening.
Quite as naturally, our conversation turned to how we view failures — our own and those of others.
Ask a six- or eight-year-old about errors and losing, and you will be immersed in a dialogue worthy of a sage — a dialogue of growth, learning, and empathy.
The older children, however, were more cerebral in their responses. While they gave trite, politically correct answers, they were visibly uncomfortable sharing their own experiences of losing and missing the goalpost.
Though all the children have experienced a non-performative, non-competitive school environment, the older ones had already absorbed society’s love for winning and our quiet shame around losing.
This conversation was beautiful — one for philosophers.
Kindness for ourselves, our ability for growth and empathy for others shone through.
Our children remind us what truly matters.