Circles of Safety

We did not grow up learning boundaries.
We grew up learning adjustment.

Most of these phrases don’t come from harm.
They come from habit. From culture. From how we were raised.

👉🏼”Be polite.”
👉🏼“Respect elders.”
👉🏼Dont make it awkward.

But in these small moments...
when a child feels uncomfortable and still complies- they learn something powerful:

🙁 My feelings come second
🙁 My discomfort doesnt matter

And over time..
they stop listening to themselves. 🙉

This is not about blaming parents.
Its about noticing what we’ve normalised.
Because awareness gives us a choice.

✨ And we can choose differently.

👂🏼Which of these did you hear growing up?

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Acknowledgements: Images taken from following movies and platforms: Vivah, Tare Zameen Par, Thappad, Secret Superstar, Cocktail, Dil Dhadakne Do, Dangal, Dear Zindagi.

The attitude came out of nowhere.
Eye rolls. Snapping. Over something tiny.

My instinct? Correct. React. Escalate.

But this time, I didn’t.

I paused.
Set a boundary.
“I’m stepping out. We’ll talk later.”

When I came back… this was on my desk. ❤️

A hand-drawn ‘puberty control panel.’
A note taking responsibility.
An attempt to regulate, reflect, repair.

And I realised something important:

✨ Our children don’t just learn from what we say.
They learn from what we don’t do.

Right now, she’s navigating puberty.
Big feelings. Fast reactions. Still learning control.

And me?
I’m navigating my own shifts too.
(hello, hormones 👋🏽)

Two nervous systems.
Both overwhelmed sometimes.
Both learning to pause.

This wasn’t about “fixing behaviour.”
It was about creating space for self-awareness.

And she showed me she’s learning.

👉🏼 Maybe the goal isn’t raising children who never lose control.
👉🏼Maybe it’s raising children who know how to come back.

SAVE and share with a parent of a tween/ teen!

The award was special. The women were unforgettable.

In that room, I met —
Purpose. Passion. Perseverance. Courage. Focus. Legacy.

Women who continue to rise… despite.

Grateful to be recognised alongside these incredible changemakers at the World of Women Awards 2026 by The Hindu Group.

When women rise, they expand what’s possible for all of us.

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Tag a woman who embodies one of these qualities.
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We don’t do this work for recognition.
But when it comes, it tells us something important — people are listening.

This recognition by The Hindu Group belongs to every child, parent, and educator choosing to have conversations that were once silenced.

Silence protects abuse. Conversation prevents it.

We’re just getting started.
Follow us to make body safety conversations a normal part of growing up.

This question came from a Grade 7 student during one of our workshops, and here are a few strategies that might help you have this conversation as a parent/guardian.
Let us know if you find it helpful!

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