Ayelet N Elnecave

22/02/2023

Light of the Infinite Festival: Chumash Like a Boss!

22/05/2022

Surprise!

Speaking tonight in London for great cause! Come out, enjoy a great evening and say Hi!!

8:00pm! See you soon!

25/08/2021

This is Daniel.

Daniel is my super cool husband.

He learns Torah and his kollel is raising money right now. I can tell you, personally, the Torah and Chesed they do is amazing.

Elul is a great time to support Torah and any amount helps.

The link is in my profile or dm me and I’ll send it. There are only a few hours left.

Also check out my stories (push on my picture which has a blue circle around it - click till almost the end) for one more reason to donate….Taylor would approve….🤣

25/02/2021

24/09/2020

Yom Kippur is this coming Sunday night....

How are you preparing?

✅Give tzeddaka (charitable donations). Better yet, set up a monthly donation for the next year to be drawn from your account!

✅Focus on Teshuva - scroll back in the archive and through your photos over the past year. It’s been a tough year, be kind to yourself, but also be honest as the memories flow. Where could you use improvement? What mistakes were there?

✅Prepare for Tefilla - get out your machzor right now (I’ll wait). Read through the Amida in English - glancing through the Hebrew if you can. Make tabs to mark different parts - write notes if you want. Especially the Vidduy (confession) - you might say it up to 10 times between Sunday and Monday!!

✅ Click this link to YouTube, and watch a shiur (class) about Yom Kippur. They are all around 20 minutes https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuIQZeUtBlSzYQz01SMfLTIy_ZN2wHxQv

The Elul class explains how Teshuva works and why it’s not scary.

The Yom Kippur: the Happiest Day of the Year can give you a new perspective and the story at the end can change how you sees this day forever.

The Vidduy class will help you prepare for the central prayer.

Y Ahora en Español!!!! Hay también una clase cortita con un cuento que cambiaría tu manera de ver Yom Kippur para siempre!

If I can be of any help in your preparations, let me know!

Shabbat Shalom!

24/09/2020

A Time Lapse Story before Yom Kippur...⁣
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I was feeling pretty unmotivated last night to get up and do the evening clean up and dinner rush. ⁣
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So I have this trick I picked up from a while ago. I put my phone up on the shelf and turn on the time lapse on my camera and hit record.⁣
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Suddenly, it becomes like a game! I keep moving because I’m like “this is gonna look so cool on the video”. I stay calm because I don’t want to see me freaking out at triple speed! I do just a bit more and a bit faster. And I just keep thinking - this video is going to be awesome. I can’t wait to see it!⁣
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So, yesterday, I turned on time lapse and off I went. I booked it and did all the things! And then I went to check the camera.⁣
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And my phone had died.⁣
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I was so disappointed. I worked so hard and now I had nothing to show for it! I just wanted to watch what I did!⁣
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And then I had a thought. There’s a part of the Yom Kippur (at the end) where we ask Hashem forgiveness for “for those (acts) of which we are aware and those of which we are not aware...for those we are not aware of, before You (Hashem) they are revealed and known”.⁣
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Really, friends, there is always Someone watching.⁣
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There is always a record being taken of every evening and every moment, whether we see it or not. We need to remember how important our days and our choices are. ⁣
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And also we must know that even when we make mistakes and the record shows our worst moments - there is forgiveness and a new start available. We can erase the tape and start a better one. That’s what this time period is - time to review the mistakes, to make amends, to start a new video and to choose better going forward.⁣
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And, surprise! My phone saved the video in the end! ⁣Enjoy! There’s a lot of hilarious - look for a pink puppy towel, a cat, and how many times I walk across the kitchen!
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21/09/2020

Let’s talk about growth...stop right now and look at the time stamp on that first frame. ⁣
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That’s right - over a year ago. ⁣
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It took me over a YEAR to clean out my closet and my guest room, also the rest of my house. I live in a three bedroom, 89 square meter apartment. ⁣
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Why am I sharing this? ⁣
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Becuase today is the third of Tishrei, the third of the 10 Days of Teshuva and I want to share something so important about growth and change.⁣
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It takes time.⁣
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We are so accustomed today to see instant makeovers - 30 minutes, one hour and or or depending how intense, will turn your house and life around. But that’s not what it’s really like - it takes a long, long time.⁣
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Mussar talks about this concept - changing our Middot (character) and our habits is a matter of small consistent changes over time. Chazal says it simply - Tafasta maruba lo tafasta, if you grab too much, you will end up with nothing at all.” ⁣
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Of course I have cleaned my closet and my guest room over the past year - but that was cosmetic. I stuffed things away and hid the crazy in another room (or in a laundry basket in the bathtub). But really changing to be a more organized person, took me a whole year of de-cluttering and organizing and changing my habits. And I’m still working in it. ⁣
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So don’t think that you have to do a huge overhaul in the next ten days. Rather, set your sights on the goal. Then start the journey and keep going on. It will take time. But step by step you can actually change your “before” into “after”.

30/07/2020

It's Tisha B'Av. How can we ever connect to the lack of the Beit HaMikdash (Temple in Jerusalem)?

We want to mourn. We understand the need to mourn but it’s so hard to feel the pain and the loss.

Mourning is missing - what are we missing?

Let's talk about missing the Beit HaMikdash like missing a person and the actual experience that is missing from our lives. And maybe we can cry and mourn and merit to see its rebuilding.

(Warning: Audio only and not amazing quality - but still worth the listen).

We struggle with missing something we have never known: how can we ever connect to the lack of the Beit HaMikdash (Temple in Jerusalem). We want to mourn. We...

30/07/2020

Tisha Be Av, el nueve de Av, ayunamos y lloramos la destrucción de los dos Templos y el exilio de la presencia divina. Pero aun asi, enlutarnos por lo que no conocimos, es casi imposible, sentir emocionalmente y espiritualmente la perdida del Templo. ¿Si nunca estuvimos allí y no lo conocimos, cómo podemos llorar y sentir tristeza?

Tisha Be Av, el nueve de Av, es el día de luto nacional del pueblo judio. En este día conmemoramos la destrucción de los dos templos y la perdida de la prese...

08/07/2020

What do you do when the music stops?⁣
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Tonight is the 17th of Tammuz which means tomorrow morning there is a sunrise to sunset fast. ⁣
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The 17th of Tammuz also marks the beginning of the 3 weeks - a period of national Jewish mourning which cumulates on Tisha B’Av (the 9th of Av) the date of destruction for both Temples. During these weeks, we reduce our joy by not having celebrations, not cutting our hair and not listening to music.⁣
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And honestly, this year going into this time period is just a bit more bitter for me. Usually, this time of year is the busiest for Neve. We are packed with special groups, summer visitors, the energy is through the roof. ⁣
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And this year, it is silent. ⁣
The hallways are mostly empty. ⁣
The books alone on the shelves. ⁣
The building is here but the energy isn’t. ⁣
The music of Neve has stopped.⁣
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Perek 137 of Tehillim was written by David HaMelech in prophecy describing the feeling of Am Israel as they were exiled to Babylon. ⁣
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As it the chapter open, the children of Israel are sitting on the banks of river in Babylon and are told to sing...and their question is so painful ⁣
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“How shall we sing the song of Hashem on foreign soil?"⁣
If I forget you, O Jerusalem, may my right hand forget [its skill].”⁣
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That’s what we are meant to be feeling during these weeks - the loss of what once was. Connect to the longing for Jerusalem, the longing for the return. ⁣
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But also, these weeks are about holding onto to hope. ⁣
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Ladies, Hashem never left us. His presence went with us to Babylon and He is with us now too. We found a way to sing even in exile. We found a connection until Hashem brought us home. And so with where we are now. Yes, the building of Neve sits silent but the song of Neve is still being sung (on zoom, social media, WhatsApp). ⁣
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I know Hashem will bring us back. We haven’t forgotten Jerusalem and hopefully soon, Hashem will let us all come back. ⁣
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Neve will again be filled with the song of Torah learning and maybe, please G-d, if we merit it - the song of the FINAL redemption as well.⁣
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May your fast be easy and meaningful.

01/07/2020

Happy TEN YEAR Anniversary to this awesome guy!

This picture pretty well sums up our relationship.
We're a little different.

When the Talmud talks about marriage (check out Sanhedrin 76b) it talks about the key to a peaceful is valuing each other and respecting one another. Not being the same, but being one.

Mostly it's about the man's requirement to respect his wife - even more than himself and to know she is the source of bracha for his home.

So yeah, my husband may have to "bend down to whisper in my ear" (Bava Metzia 59b and also I am actually only 5'2") but a truly peaceful home comes from respect going BOTH ways.

For truly listening to each other and learning from your differences.

Respecting each other for who they are and appreciating the incredible gift of your similarities and differences - makes marriage incredible.

Love you just the way you are.