18/08/2026
๐ง ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ ๐ด๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป ๐ฒ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐?
In a thought-provoking Irish Examiner article, child and adolescent psychotherapist Dr Colman Noctor asks whether young people are really less mature than previous generations โ or whether they simply have fewer opportunities to manage things for themselves.
Link: https://www.irishexaminer.com/lifestyle/parenting/arid-41890225.html
The article argues that responsibility is not learned through reminders or lectures. It develops through experience: making decisions, solving manageable problems, getting things wrong and learning how to recover.
Modern family life can make it tempting to step in:
๐ Packing the school bag
โฐ Managing alarms and schedules
๐ง Contacting teachers or employers
๐ฝ๏ธ Ordering for a teenager in a cafรฉ
๐ Solving every transport or logistical problem
๐ฑ Using technology to track, remind and organise
These supports often come from care and time pressure. However, the article suggests that constantly removing difficulties may also remove valuable opportunities for young people to develop confidence and the belief that they can cope.
Dr Noctor suggests creating manageable opportunities for responsibility, such as:
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Organising their own belongings
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Managing their own alarm clock
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Ordering their own food
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Travelling independently when appropriate
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Taking on meaningful jobs at home
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Earning towards things they want
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Experiencing the natural consequences of occasionally forgetting something
This does not mean leaving children unsupported. It means giving them space to try, make mistakes and build independence while knowing that guidance is still available.
The article also raises an interesting question about technology and AI: when tools constantly remind, organise, explain and solve, are young people getting enough opportunities to think, persevere and work things out for themselves?
๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ?
Is it becoming harder for parents to step back and allow young people to practise responsibility โ even when stepping in would be quicker and easier?
Read the full article by Dr Colman Noctor in the Irish Examiner using the link provided. https://www.irishexaminer.com/lifestyle/parenting/arid-41890225.html