17/08/2026
Have you a child starting Secondary school this September?
Starting secondary school is a major step in a young teen’s life, it involves a change to their identity and status. Settling in is a process, and it can take time to settle into the new environment. Here are some practical tips to support your teen (and yourself!) through this transition.
Communication:
Make sure they know that they can talk to you and that you are there to listen. Whether they are excited, worried, or anxious - it’s OK to feel all these emotions.
Independence:
This is a time for giving more independence. Try to step back and let your child take greater responsibility for themselves and their learning.
Routine:
Establishing a morning routine and getting out to school on time can make their lives much easier. Encourage them to get bags, lunches, and extra-curricular stuff ready the night before.
Homework:
Encourage them to devise a method to spread out the homework. Try not to leave ‘weekly’ homework till the last minute!
Friendships:
Encourage them to both make new friends and keep in touch with old ones. Make opportunities for them to have their friends over to your house.
Try not to worry:
It is very common to take some time to settle – reassure them that this is completely normal for such a big transition. Try to remind them about their strengths and achievements. Be a calm presence in their lives.
Keep Some Perspective:
It is not all about academics! Their mental health is more important, so focus on their wellbeing and self-esteem. Remember we aim for Connection NOT Perfection!
The last word goes to a teenager who took part in a survey on advice for peers who are starting secondary school: “It’s like moving up a level in a game. It’ll be challenging, but fun!”
