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Curiosity

Being curious about why you are feeling a certain way or feeling triggered is a good thing. Avoidance can often feel like the best option, however it’s only hitting the pause button until the feeling or emotion pops up again.

There is a few ways to be curious about your emotions;

📒 journaling or free writing ✍️ about how you are feeling, the thoughts and emotions that are coming up for you

🧘‍♀️ meditation - sitting quietly and taking some deep breaths and allowing your thoughts to come and go with no judgement

🥶 cold water dipping - nothing will bring you more into your body than the cold! This gives your nervous system a reset button and allow some perspective and space between you and the emotion

Emotions are signals from our mind. There are no good or bad feelings, and removing the label and understanding why you are experiencing them can help bring some peace to your mind, body and soul.

Healing methods

There are so many different ways to heal and help yourself. It’s not a one size fits all type of deal, what works for me might not be your cup of tea or something that resonates with you. And that’s ok! I would of held a lot of shame around admitting this a few years ago because I would of been saying “what the hell is wrong with me doing all this and not reaching the end goal of healed” but it has come to me that holding shame around healing or hiding it is something I needed to heal, anyone who embarks on working on themselves should be commended and given a pat on the back not shy away and just figure it out on their own.

EVERYONE has mental health issues, whether it be depression, anxiety, overwhelm, social issues, fears, the list is endless.

And there is no destination healed, something will happen, or pop up and it will reveal a lovely new layer that you weren’t expecting, and that’s just life. However acknowledging this and not looking at it as a set back will help take the sting out of it.

Here is a list of things I have immersed myself in over the years:

Journaling
Meditation
Yoga
Hypnotherapy
Reiki
Angel healing
Energy healing
Shamanic healing
Talk therapy
Cold water therapy
Breathing

I am not ashamed to say I have given these all a go, because the important thing is that I did, and the only reason was to help myself and understand myself. Some of these I have trained in myself to get a better understanding of how they work and so that I could also help others when they needed. That’s the thing when you decide to heal you will be willing to try anything. Personally I love all of these and use them at different stages for myself still. It’s not a race to the finish line, it’s not a sprint. It’s a road to self discovery and finding what works for you and what doesn’t , and what you can have in your life to turn to when you feel you need it the most.

Healing is like a roller coaster, feeling the ups and downs, screaming, fear, not knowing what’s happening next and feeling out of control. But this is not all bad because there is also excitement, anticipation, laughing, understanding and relief when it’s all over 🤣

Remember healing, finding yourself and understanding yourself is not a one stop shop, it’s not a race to the finish line and above all it’s such an individual process. My hope for this is to let people know it’s ok to try different things, often unconventional methods and that’s ok. If it works for you then that’s all that matters at the end of the day!

It’s your roller coaster 🎢

Is it real?

Three very important words to ask yourself when you are feeling anxious. Anxious thoughts and feelings bring up the “what if” scenarios, it’s like your brain presents an array of possible outcomes for you often with no possible evidence.

For example, you have a job interview coming up, feeling anxious, ok let’s go worst case scenario, you go into the interview and cannot remember how to speak, or you imagine yourself starting to sweat like you are in a sauna, or you trip or fall on the way in or out, you have brain freeze and you can’t articulate a sentence. All worst case scenarios, you brain presents these to you almost like a form of defence. If you can predict what is going to happen then it makes it easier to deal with when it does happen! Sound familiar???

Anxiety is future pacing. So the feelings of worry and stress over something which may or may not happen.

When feeling anxious my first top tip is to take a deep breath and ask yourself “is this real” this questions the current train of thought and gives your brain an opportunity to assess if there is any real danger or threat to the thoughts.

Feelings are feedback.

They arise when you are in a certain situation, meet someone, hear a sound, smell, taste or feel. Your senses generate feelings. Sometimes these are lovely stored feelings that bring back memories of a good time in your life. Other times they are a trigger to something that either hasn’t been dealt with or we have been avoiding.

For example, as a child you had an experience with an adult which wasn’t particularly nice. This adult called you a particular name, now you associate this not so nice experience with this name. As you grow up every time you hear this word it brings you right back to those feelings you experienced as a child. It’s an association of feelings to a word, as an adult you can’t understand why you feel so crap when you hear a word (trigger) which leads to feelings of frustration, anger and anxiety. It’s just a word right? It’s the feelings associated with the word that cause these feelings to arise.

The word represents how you felt as a child being mistreated.

We can often understand this morning when we dive into the representation of the trigger, this can be done through journalling, hypnotherapy, meditation and trauma therapy.

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Avoidance

Sitting with the uncomfortable feeling can feel, well uncomfortable. Often when we are experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, depression or just plain feeling crap, we try and run and avoid it.

Dealing and acknowledging how we feel and allowing the feeling to be present can sound like a daunting process or “why would I want to feel anxious??”

However stay with me. Sitting with the feeling and acknowledging it allows you the opportunity to see that you are in control of it and not the other way around. And often these feelings come up when we are overwhelmed and feeling like we have no time for anything, so giving yourself permission and allowing the feeling to sit with you shows you are in control of it and not the other way around.

Sitting with anxiety, depression and overwhelm can sound counter productive but sitting with no judgment on it can often be the start of healing it

Loneliness

Do you feel lonely even in a crowd? Do you feel like you have no where to turn? No one will understand how you are feeling?

Even admitting this can be a struggle and make you feel more isolated if you don’t understand how you feel. Often loneliness is a real heavy sadness that can bring up a lot of emotions and memories.

If you are experiencing feeling lonely here is a few ideas that could help:

❤️ Take a walk in nature and do some breathing
❤️ Reach out to someone you trust and express your feelings (someone who will just listen)
❤️ Journal about how you are feeling and what you are experiencing, seeing it in black and white can help bring an understanding to why you feel so lonely or sad
❤️ Meditation - just sit with your thoughts and try not pass judgement on them. Acknowledging them and letting the inner voice be heard
❤️ Look for a club or activity to join to meet new people and bring fresh energy into your world 🌎

Sadness and loneliness can feel very isolating, remember you are not in this alone there is always a way, use your voice to say how you feel.

People will not always know if someone is struggling and often we don’t know until someone says how they are feeling and open up

Breathe

The power of our breath is so important, not only does it keep us alive it can also send important signals to our body that we are in a safe environment and induce rest and digest as opposed to run and flee.

When I am feeling stressed, anxious or overwhelmed I like to do box breathing, it’s so simple and no one needs to know you are doing it:

Breathe in for 4 ( belly breathing if it feels comfortable)
Hold for 4
Breathe out for 4
Hold for 4

This can be done anywhere, in a meeting , in the car at traffic or even when you are defusing a situation with your 5 and 7 year old (asking for a friend 🤣)

Give it a try and let me know how you feel, or if anything happens physically in your body 😮‍💨

Ps you don’t need to be sitting in an ice bath to do it 🤣🧊🥶💙

FEAR

What do you fear? I’m not just talking spiders and bees 🐝 but what are your inner fears? Not fitting in? Bring judging? Failing?

Where does this fear come from? What is the narrative that runs through your head when you think on this?

We are not born with a fear of failure, of being judged and for not succeeding in life, all of this comes from outside programming, from how we internalise and react to situations.

Something as simple as questioning yourself when you say you can’t do something will help shed some light and reframe it.

Journal about it, talk about it with someone you trust or sit with the fear and see what it tells you

We are all perfectly imperfect and that’s what makes us all individuals, we all have fears and faults but that’s what makes us human ❤️