06/12/2023
I personally don’t like or appreciate the term challenging behaviour. This is purely because I’m a firm believer that there is a driving force behind a child that is ‘acting out’. An idea that was then reinforced by the wonderful . The child is not acting out for no reason, there could be a number of reasons.
⭐️ They may be struggling to express themselves verbally or communicate their needs and wants.
⭐️They may be struggling to make friends and feel lonely or isolated.
⭐️They may not understand sharing as they have never had to. Sharing and turn taking is a learned skill.
⭐️They may be experiencing levels of loss or grief due to a death, separation or divorce.
⭐️ They could be learning to cope with separation anxiety from parents or there could be a new baby in the house.
⭐️ Or sometimes, as people tend to forget, sometimes they are just having a very bad day, just like us adults can have.
What can we do as practitioners to support children exhibiting these behaviours?
⭐️ Develop strong parental partnerships. Parents are the most important people in a child’s life and know their child best. They can let you know if there have been changes in the child’s life which can help you support them when they come into the classroom.
⭐️ Sensory areas such as the tent with flashlights and the cosy corner can help the child to self regulate and soothe themselves when things get too much.
⭐️ Never engage in timeouts. Timeout is an outdated practice that essentially tells the child that their feelings are not valid. Whilst I absolutely agree that some behaviours are not acceptable such as hitting and punching, silencing the child to a corner is going to do absolutely nothing for you as teacher and more importantly will do more damage to the child. Get to the child’s level, don’t tower over them. See them as your equal and explain using simple concise language why this behaviour is not ok.
Rachel✨