07/10/2026
So you’re feeling scared about birth, before you add another thing to your birth-prep list, ask yourself: what part am I actually scared of?
Is it the pain?
Not knowing what will happen?
Or worrying that you won’t be listened to?
These are different worries, and you deserve support that speaks to yours.
So write down:
1. “I’m worried that…” Choose the worry taking up the most space in your mind.
2. “What I’d like to know is…” Turn that worry into one specific question.
3. “Someone I can talk to about this is…” Bring it to your midwife or doctor or doula, or share it with your birth partner.
An example would be:
“I’m scared I won’t cope with the pain” turns into “What pain-relief options are available, and how can I ask for them?”
Are you ready to take action:
Open the notes app on your phone and finish this sentence: ‘The part of birth that scares me the most is…… Then turn it into one question to bring to your next appointment.
You don’t have to figure it all out yourself.🤍