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• Have happy, cooperative well-balanced children
• Have better relationships with your children
• learn loads of skills, techniques, tips and strategies to manage the challenges of being a parent
• Enable parents to talk and listen to our children easily
• Have calmer households where your children behave well and you respect your children whilst still being in control.
• Put fun back into the family

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06/12/2023

10 positive things to say to your child 💖

Courtesy of We Nurture Collective

30/11/2023

Does your child complain all the time? 😒

Teach them how to ✨🧱BUILD A BRIDGE🧱✨

'My son used to always look at the glass half empty. E.g., I take him to the toy shop, and rather than being happy, he's upset because he thinks the car ride will take too long.

I explained to my son:

"Your brain makes new bridges every time you do something repeatedly. The more you do it, the stronger the bridge gets. And the bridges you don't use, break and disappear...

It looks like your brain created a COMPLAINING BRIDGE. That's okay, we all complain a little. But lately, you've been using the complaining bridge a lot, making it really strong...

And the happy bridge is getting a little broken. So now your brain uses the complaining bridge more than the happy bridge. It doesn't feel good, does it?"

Now, when he complains, he tries to find something to be grateful for in the situation. E.g., if he doesn't want to go to bed, he says: "I don't want to go to bed, BUT I'm really thankful we have these cozy beds to sleep in".

By purposefully finding something good in every situation, my child rewires his brain for optimism and gratitude.'

Source: Big Life Journal

29/11/2023

Is this what they mean by truthful parenting? 🤔

Source: The New Yorker ✏️

‘You can’t send them to their room’: the tensions and challenges of parenting adult children 21/11/2023

Thanks to the cost of living crisis and spiralling rent prices, the proportion of young adults living with their parents is on a steep rise 📈🏠

The so-called "boomerang generation" come with their own unique set of parenting challenges and considerations, because after all, "You can't [exactly] send them to their room".

So what can parents who had been expecting an empty nest do?

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/nov/19/you-cant-send-them-to-their-room-the-tensions-and-challenges-of-parenting-adult-children

‘You can’t send them to their room’: the tensions and challenges of parenting adult children The proportion of young adults living with their parents is on a steep rise. What does it mean for parents who had been expecting an empty nest?

What Should You Do if Your Teenager is Rude to You? (Raising Teenagers #9) 20/11/2023

Parenting teenagers comes with its own set of challenges, especially when they're being rude to you 🙄🤬🖕

Not sure how to respond to rudeness without escalating the situation or starting a fight? WATCH THIS ⬇️

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGjb0bgbodg&ab_channel=ElizabethO%27Shea

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The Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy | TED 10/11/2023

A great TED talk to take into the weekend from clinical psychologist and parenting expert Becky Kennedy 🗣️

"There is no such thing as a perfect parent. Mistakes and struggles come with the job. But no one tells us what to do next."

Watch the video below for the single most important parenting strategy you need ⬇️

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHpPtdk9rco&ab_channel=TED

The Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy | TED Everyone loses their temper from time to time — but the stakes are dizzyingly high when the focus of your fury is your own child. Clinical psychologist and r...

Try parenting the Buddhist way – drop your expectations and go with the flow | Nadine Levy 08/11/2023

"Imagine what it might be like to parent without expectations – spontaneously responding to your child’s needs, genuinely enjoying adventures with your family, and bringing mindfulness to the day as it unfolds. Sound like a dream? Well, it is."

Check out this great column from The Guardian to learn how to parent the Buddhist way ☸️

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/nov/06/try-parenting-the-buddhist-way-drop-your-expectations-and-go-with-the-flow

Try parenting the Buddhist way – drop your expectations and go with the flow | Nadine Levy Show up for all of your child’s moments – the good, the bad and the ugly – in an undiscriminating way

The Funniest Tweets From Parents This Week 07/11/2023

"Don't judge me for my toddler eating a chicken nugget for lunch. Judge me for not knowing where the chicken nugget came from." — 🐔

It may only be Tuesday, but it's never too early for some funny parenting Tweets to help you through the week. Enjoy! ⬇️

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/funniest-parenting-tweets_l_6542ba37e4b06bc01e22d448

The Funniest Tweets From Parents This Week "I sure have a lot of opinions about cooking shows for someone who's eating a paw patrol string cheese for breakfast"

How to give your child a ‘victim mentality’ - Parent 4 Success 02/11/2023

Who do you picture when you hear the word victim? 🤔

The victim of a crime? The victim of injustice? What about your own child?

Today’s post is not about victimhood in the traditional sense, but about “victim mentality.”

Worried your little one might be developing one? Here’s eight things to avoid to make sure you aren’t encouraging them to believe they’re one of life’s victims 🌧️

Link below:

https://www.parent4success.com/2017/09/18/give-child-victim-mentality/

How to give your child a ‘victim mentality’ - Parent 4 Success To give your child a victim mentality, do everything for your child, blame others, do their homework, distract from upsets, smooth the path and rescue them.

What Can You Do If Your Child Hits Or Is Aggressive? (Raising Children #4) 25/10/2023

What can you do if your child hits or is aggressive? 👊

1. Have a rule and explain it to your child

2. Help your child find a safe way to express their anger

3. ❓

Click below for the complete video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9sWCDjRZiwo&ab_channel=ElizabethO%27Shea

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24/10/2023

Looking for an easy parenting win you can do anytime, anywhere? 💭

Say one of these positive affirmations to your child for an instant mood booster!

Image courtesy: on Instagram 🎨

19/10/2023

Oh # # # #! 🤬

Did you know children as young as 3 sometimes use swear words? Though it’s usually just harmless repetition, it can make for some pretty uncomfortable situations when at school or out in public 🙈

But thankfully, there’s plenty we can do about it. Here are my 10 top tips to stop your child from swearing! 😇

(Link in bio) ⬆️

17/10/2023

Love this from Self-Sufficient Kids 👏

Teach your teenager to say ‘no’ to peer pressure (Video Tip) 12/10/2023

Peer pressure – we’ve all been there! 😬

As adults, it’s generally easy to say no to things we don’t want to do, but can you remember how hard it was when you were an impressionable teen? 🤔

HARD. If you’re looking to help your teenager understand (and withstand) peer pressure, check out my top 10 tips:

https://www.parent4success.com/2015/09/04/can-teach-teenager-say-no-peer-pressure-video-tips-raising-teenagers-25/

Teach your teenager to say ‘no’ to peer pressure (Video Tip) Teach your teenager to say no to friends. And resist the pressure to smoke ci******es or take drugs. 10 simple effective strategies to say no and remain friends.

How Can You Deal With Your Child’s Angry Outburst? (Raising Children #16) 10/10/2023

The most common problem parents come to me for help with is managing their kids' angry outbursts 🤬

Here's what to do:

1. Stay calm and help your child feel understood 🧘‍♀️

2. Help them work out what they'll do differently 👩‍🏫

3. Find ways to help your child with self-control 💆

For a full breakdown of each step, watch this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=diJlKTtitG4&ab_channel=ElizabethO%27Shea

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How to Talk to Kids About Difficult Subjects 09/10/2023

The stories coming out of the Middle East are shocking, and as parents, our instinct can be to protect our kids from bad news 🙉🛡️

But we can't always control what they see or hear, and eventually, kids reach a stage where they're old enough to learn about the world – the good, the bad, and the ugly 🌎

So how should you talk about difficult subjects with your kids? Here's a handy guide from Common Sense Media.

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-difficult-subjects

How to Talk to Kids About Difficult Subjects In a world where even little kids learn about horrific subjects, it's important for parents to put things in perspective, field questions, and search for answers together. Advice from Common Sense Media editors.

How to stop your child being rude at home | Parent 4 Success 05/10/2023

Is your child being rude at home? 🤬

Here are three top tips to help your child remember to speak respectfully and politely:

1. Introduce a new rule about talking respectfully 🗣️

2. Agree rewards and consequences 🏅

3. Make sure you’re consistent about sticking to the rule ⏱️

For a full breakdown of each step, click the link below to read my blog:

https://www.parent4success.com/2015/05/28/stop-your-children-being-rude-at-home/

How to stop your child being rude at home | Parent 4 Success Is your child rude or disrespectful? Cheeky or full of back chat? Here are three great ways for parents to tackle rude behaviour.

04/10/2023

“One day your child will make a mistake or a bad choice and run to you instead of away from you, and in that moment you will know the immense value of peaceful, positive respectful parenting.” 👨‍👩‍👦

For a fantastic free resource on positive parenting, download this PDF from NSPCC:

https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/research-resources/leaflets/positive-parenting

Image source: mamapsychologists 🎨

The cult of Bluey: how a kids’ cartoon became a bible for modern parenting 03/10/2023

Following on from yesterday's post, here's a long read from The Guardian about what makes Bluey so wonderful 💙🐶

"Have adults been this eager to get their hands on something meant for children since the apex years of Harry Potter?"

Find out why below:

https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2022/jun/11/bluey-australian-children-cartoon-joe-brumm

The cult of Bluey: how a kids’ cartoon became a bible for modern parenting Ryan Gosling and Natalie Portman adore it, critics rave about it and a podcast dissects every episode: why does a series about a six-year-old dog and her family inspire so much devotion among grown-ups?

Sleepytime 🌙 | S2 E26 | Full Episode | Bluey | @disneyjunior @BlueyOfficialChannel ​ 02/10/2023

Are your kids watching Bluey yet? 🐶💙

This Australian kids TV series has been described by The Guardian as "Peppa Pig, with better parenting" and "a bible for modern parenting".

Ryan Gosling and Natalie Portman count themselves as fans, critics love it, and it's won the AACTA Award for Best Children's Program four years in a row 🏆

Still not convinced? Watch "Sleepytime" below and say hello to your family's favourite new show:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TxoqJ0Pmux0&ab_channel=DisneyJunior

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How Can You Do A Digital Detox With Your Teenager? (Raising Teenagers #24) 29/09/2023

Why not try a digital detox with your teenager this weekend? 📵

If you're worried that your teenager is addicted to their phone, social media, or gaming console, watch the video below for a step-by-step guide to unplug – and lead by example! 🧘 🍃

www.youtube.com/watch?v=b7x4fLnY08g&ab_channel=ElizabethO%27Shea

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Photos from Parent 4 Success's post 27/09/2023

Looking for something to watch tonight with the family? 🎥

If you have a Netflix subscription, check out The Wonderful Story of Henry Sugar – the brand new short film from Wes Anderson.

The Guardian: "Anderson’s second Dahl adaptation is a droll 40 minutes of beautifully composed nested stories, with Benedict Cumberbatch as a gambler who learns how to beat the house." ⭐

26/09/2023

Anyone relate? 🙃

All jokes aside, it's important to take time for yourself as a parent so you can adequately take care of your kids.

Not sure what "me" time looks like? Click the link below for 26 ideas! Including...

🥐 Eat breakfast in bed

🛁 Have a candle-lit bath

💐 Treat yourself to a bunch of flowers

https://www.parent4success.com/2011/11/07/parents-look-after-yourselves/

10 Fun Things Families Can Do Together On A Lazy Sunday 24/09/2023

Tomorrow's just another manic Monday, so why not make today a lazy Sunday? 💤

Here are some fun family activies courtesy of LittleThings 🔽

🌳 Explore your local outdoor parks

🪡 Go to a craft supply shop and get creative

🛍️ Hit the shops and grab a coffee/juice

🐑 Visit a petting zoo

🎬 Rent a movie and snuggle up on the sofa

👩‍🍳 Prep an elaborate meal together

For four more ideas, click the link below!

https://littlethings.com/family-and-parenting/sunday-togetherness/6-prep-an-elaborate-meal-together

10 Fun Things Families Can Do Together On A Lazy Sunday Looking for Sunday activities for the family? Here are 10 great ideas to make the best use of your time together.

Does Your Teenager Criticise or Even Hate the Way They Look? (Raising Teenagers #10) 19/09/2023

Positive body image and self-esteem don't come easy to most of us, especially during our teenage years 🪞💄🦵

But what can you do if your teenager is constantly criticising the way they look?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFdhj4FJedg&ab_channel=ElizabethO%27Shea

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5 steps to stop shouting at your children 15/09/2023

Parenting can be challenging – there’s no no two ways about it – and everyone loses their cool from time to time 🤬

But what causes you to snap?

Whether they’re talking back, arguing with siblings, or screaming in public, kids know how to push your buttons better than anyone else 🖲️

That being said, shouting or raising your voice is almost never the answer. Want to stop shouting at your kids but don’t know how?

Click the link below for my top 5 tips ⬇️

https://www.parent4success.com/2014/03/11/5-steps-to-stop-shouting-at-your-children/

5 steps to stop shouting at your children Can you really stop shouting at your child? Yes! Resolve to stay calm, Don't take it personally, walk away when you feel angry, learn to deal with problem behaviour differently and look after yourself.

Peaceful Parenting Can Be The Hardest — But Most Rewarding — Parenting Style 12/09/2023

“People think peaceful parenting doesn't work because when they say ‘no’ to their child, the child has a temper tantrum. While tantrums are annoying, they’re not bad. Remaining calm and not giving into the tantrum is actually a powerful teaching moment.” — Kiva Schuler of The Jai Institute for Parenting 👩‍👦

Click the link below to learn more about PEACEFUL PARENTING 🍃

https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/peaceful-parenting

Peaceful Parenting Can Be The Hardest — But Most Rewarding — Parenting Style Peaceful parenting requires giving up power over your kids and taking a hard look at your emotions. Parenting expert Kiva Schuler explains why it's worth it.

08/09/2023

Kids struggling to sleep in the heat? 🔥🫠

Here are some tips to keep bedrooms their bedrooms cool!

🏠 Block out sun - keeping the curtains closed should stop the room from heating up too much throughout the day.

👚 Choose cool, cotton nightwear - cotton is a breathable material that allows air to circulate around the skin.

🍃 Get out the fan - just make sure it's safe and place it out of reach of small hands!

🧊 Freeze sheets and bedding - pop their sheets and pillow cases in a bag and put them in the freezer for an hour before bedtime.

💭 Tell a cool bedtime story, literally - as strange as it may sound, telling your kids a bedtime story set in a cold location can help to trick their mind into feeling cooler.

A moment that changed me: I stopped posting funny stories about my daughter – and she began to trust me again 06/09/2023

"I recognised the sharing impulse came from feeling bored, lonely, disconnected or needing validation."

An interesting piece in The Guardian from a compulsive "sharent" – i.e. a parent who obsessively documents their child's upbringing on social media 🤳

How do you feel about posting your kids on social media?

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/aug/30/a-moment-that-changed-me-i-stopped-posting-funny-stories-about-my-daughter-and-she-began-to-trust-me-again

A moment that changed me: I stopped posting funny stories about my daughter – and she began to trust me again For seven years I was a compulsive ‘sharent’, chronicling my daughter’s life on social media. Then she told me how much she hated it …

04/09/2023

In case you haven't noticed already, the UK is entering another heatwave! 🥵

Temperatures are set to soar to 32C and won't come down until next Monday, so what can you do to keep your kids cool?

1. Close curtains in sun-facing rooms and open windows if the air outside is cooler than the air inside 🏠

2. Make sure your children stay hydrated with regular drinks – especially water, juices, and electrolyte-rich sports drinks 🧃

3. Keep your kids out of the sun from 11am to 3pm – this is when the UV rays are strongest ☀️

4. Cooling certain pulse points (e.g. wrists, back of neck, hands, feet, face and ears) can bring overall body temperature down 🌡️

5. Freeze bottles of water overnight to take out and use during the day – or place them in front of a fan to cool the air in a room! 🧊

How can you deal with an anxious child? (Video Tip) 29/08/2023

The world can be an anxious place for our youngsters 😓

… but that doesn’t mean there aren’t strategies we can use to help them deal with their fears and worries 💆‍♀️

Click the link below for my top tips!

https://www.parent4success.com/2015/08/26/can-deal-anxious-child-video-tips-raising-children-23/

How can you deal with an anxious child? (Video Tip) Do you have an anxious child? Here are three simple, effective ideas to help your child deal with anxiety, worries and stress.

How Do You Stop A Toddler Running Off? (Raising Toddlers #26) 29/08/2023

Is your toddler giving Speedy Gonzales a run for his money? 🏃💨

First of all, don't worry. Your toddler's not running away to be naughty. They are simply excited and love the freedom of running!

But what can you do to stop them running off all the time? Click the link below for an effective 3-step plan!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ndhkUOElxg&ab_channel=ElizabethO%27Shea

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All Kids Lie, But With These 3 Parenting Tricks They Lie A Lot Less 25/08/2023

All kids lie, but with these three parenting tricks they lie a lot less 🤫

1. Distinguish between fantasy and evasion 🤥

2. Take impulse control into consideration 💢

3. Praise and reward honesty 😇

For a full breakdown of each tip, click the link below:

https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/parenting-tricks-kids-lie-less

All Kids Lie, But With These 3 Parenting Tricks They Lie A Lot Less To some extent, all kids lie. But there are way to encourage children to stick to the truth more often. This is how to stop kids from lying so much.

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