The Mindset Architect

Where's Your Focus?

It's really useful to give ourselves the opportunity to reflect on WHERE we focus, and HOW we function - to give us the knowledge to shift our habits to improve our performance.

It's funny how it generally works —
👉 Weak people get stuck in their own insecurities.
👉 Arrogant ones love pointing out others’ flaws.
👉 And the strong? They just focus on what they’re good at and keep building.

Focus is powerful, And we can either give away our power, or absorb it and refuel with it!

What you pay attention TO, shapes your mindset, your actions, and ultimately, your results. So, are you using your focus to GROW, to JUDGE, or just to DISTRACT yourself?

I would love to hear your thoughts! Happy Thursday!

Went to a wonderful networking event this evening with Southsea girls, my first time, and it was absolutely wonderful. Met some really great ladies and learnt so much!

Bright day!

On a little break in Istanbul with family, relaxing, reading the thinking of an Adlerian Philosopher with a kitten on my lap 🐈‍⬛ and loved ones. A clear and welcoming mind to read and connect. I reflect, how utterly fascinating in sessions, when the truth of the base point of our emotional drama within our life is revealed. It takes true courage to take ownership of how you function when the opportunity of change lies with you and only you. We often step into positions that ooze with excuses, where even if you were offered to remove your dark glasses to see your world clearly, you would still choose to not look directly at your world, pretending it is not what it truly is. When we hold our courage and realise that standing still often damages, we create the landscape of dynamic freshness that will breath into your life and drive you to where you truly can be. What stands in the way? Routine, status quo, fear, and May I be frank? Excuses. What change are you shying away from? How long has this been for? When is the time to place more value on movement? On the power of choice? And what is the reward? One thing I can tell you is this - change that is instigated from the self, is most often enlightening, captivating and utterly joyful with significant positive experiences. Life can be SO much sweeter…. Step forth your courageous self. Embrace those behaviours that will champion you. Step away from those that no longer serve you. Recognise them. Deal with them. Let’s begin. ♥️🔥🙏

Sometimes…. You make big decisions in life. To move forward into the unknown. With bravery comes reward. With change there is challenge, but the outcomes can be as sweet as nectar. Sat here, absorbing the beauty of the shoreline, the sounds, with company that reminds me, that life can be so so right.
If you have a big decision to make, be more fearful of not stepping towards it, for on the other side, well, it can be rather delightful.

As we step into 2023… remember your gut instinct will always, always inform you… and tell you what you should do.
Let it be, that you take the easy route and tune into that incredible instinct that we do often ignore. As humans, we hesitate, we have fears, it is natural. But if you don’t listen to the “knowing” you will spend far, far longer in the pain. Listen, and take the oath this coming year that is right for you! Happy new year, to my beautiful clients, both past and present. You, matter. X

Wishing all of my friends, a beautiful, joyous new year….let us learn from the year with all its lessons…. And move forward into 2023 with fizziness and a list for life within our hearts! ♥️🙏🔥
The lessons we learn each day, offer us such a depth of knowing…. It’s about what we do with it…. Create your magic in 2023…. You, deserve it! ♥️♥️♥️

It is Christmas Eve, a time to rejoice for all we have that brings happiness to our hearts. I wish my clients, both last and present, who k have had the honour to work with, and hope each of you have a Christmas filled with love. Joy and merriment!
Happiness, is not bought, and is not “delivered” to us… it comes from within - from our acceptance of self, from the stretch and growth we gift ourselves.
Remember to honour yourself, and appreciate the gift you are - we, make the difference. Merry Christmas! ♥️

It’s so important to invest in your own joy. The simple action of cooking, of the scent of brunch waking your senses… appreciating what you have, not what you have not.
Appreciation of a beautiful morning….. noticing the small things that we don’t tune into… matters.

Life. It is full of joy, stretch, challenge. The importance, is always around how we drink in the information…. HOW we absorb the events unfolding in front of us. If we attach story telling behaviours from the past, or play the victim “oh this WOULD happen to me again wouldn’t it!” - then the outcome is unlikely to be positive.
A growth mindset, facing things with curiosity, ownership and a sense of “what is this” rather than a negative framework… well, the chances are you are more likely to find your own solution, and come out of it more aligned, anchored and successful.
If you are rattling around in a bit of a negative landscape, get in touch. I am pretty sure that the thinking space within coaching will shift your perspective and create the outcomes you desire. So, if your internal judge, cynic, critic or perfectionist is playing up with you and creating noise that doesn’t serve, let’s chat. You matter. ♥️