Transforming Loss

Transforming Loss Transforming loss across the Highlands and Islands of Scotland by fostering courage to face devastation. Always human.

First a children’s nurse then an academic, now a Grief Recovery Specialist, End of Life Planning Facilitator and Storyteller. I can be found at Buttercups and Clover on the Isle of Tiree where I would be delighted to introduce you to the work of Bean Nighe.

✨I just received this feedback for my new programme, ✨Thirteen Thresholds — Fragments, Memory and Meaning✨,The course is...
23/06/2026

✨I just received this feedback for my new programme, ✨Thirteen Thresholds — Fragments, Memory and Meaning✨,

The course is very profound so
I'm invested already....
It's in understandable chunks which is better for me otherwise I personally become distracted.
I like that you have to complete a task before moving on.

If you’ve ever been subject to coercion, cruelty or alienation in an intimate relationship and you want to metabolise the experience, this programme is designed for you.
Step across one threshold at a time with a simple creative task, journaling exercise, affirmation and meditation.

Much of the experience of coercion is invisible — things that look like kindness to the outside world trap, undermine and degrade in ways that are nearly impossible to understand and make meaning from. Part of the suffering that people who’ve experienced coercive control is the cognitive dissonance. How can you explain why that particular action made you feel rage, or like you were suffocating, without protracted reasoning that makes you sound petty?

This programme meets you there and supports you to bear witness to your own truth.

Priced to allow entry even after years of financial control has diminished your finances to a trickle, the threshold is accessible but the work is deep.

A 13-week creative passage through loss after abuse and coercive control. Honour what you have endured, gather the fragments, and begin making meaning in your own time.

I’m opening the doors today to ✨Thirteen Thresholds: Fragments, Memory and Meaning✨This is a 13-week creative journey fo...
23/05/2026

I’m opening the doors today to ✨Thirteen Thresholds: Fragments, Memory and Meaning✨

This is a 13-week creative journey for people moving through loss after abuse, coercive control, or the slow unravelling of a life that could not continue as it was.

Each week offers a threshold crossing with a reflection, a meditation, journal prompts, and a creative page for your own folded book of fragments, memory and meaning.

We begin with **Toil** — the exhaustion of surviving what has not yet been fully spoken.

Then we move, step by step, through confrontation, agony, reaching, accepting, longing, regret, accounting, anger, exhaustion, resting, building and becoming.

Coercive dynamics often leave us stripped of resources, so the course is priced with this in mind.

The doorway is low, but the work is deep.

**£1 a week for 13 weeks.**

The link to join is in the comments

✨ Launching! ✨Sunday 23 May💛 Thirteen Thresholds – Fragments, Memory and Meaning 💛Grief comes in many guises.For me, thi...
20/05/2026

✨ Launching! ✨

Sunday 23 May

💛 Thirteen Thresholds – Fragments, Memory and Meaning 💛

Grief comes in many guises.

For me, this work has grown out of a long and painful process of remembering, documenting, and making meaning from experiences that shaped much of my adult life.

Some journeys out of harm are not marked by one single moment of leaving. They are crossed through private thresholds: exhaustion, confrontation, agony, reaching, accepting, longing, regret, accounting, anger, collapse, rest, building, and becoming.

I do not walk this journey alone, so I bring to you this 13-week creative journey through loss after abuse and coercive control.

Thirteen Thresholds honours what you have endured, invites honest reflection, and supports you to gather the fragments of memory, truth and meaning as you begin to inhabit your own life again.

My own journey took me through the wasteland of homelessness. On this road, money is not plentiful.

So I have kept the doorway low.

The work is deep, but you can begin exactly where you are.

Thirteen Thresholds opens Sunday 23 May.

£1 per week for 13 weeks.

Come in when you are ready.

05/03/2026
Grief Recovery Method Group ✨ starting at 1pm today ✨ at the Rockfield Centre, Oban This is for you if you have experien...
27/02/2026

Grief Recovery Method Group ✨ starting at 1pm today ✨ at the Rockfield Centre, Oban

This is for you if you have experienced a loss, either very recently or a long time ago and you would like support to process your experience of grief.

Commitment: 8 weeks £35 per session

✨Starting on 27 Feb at the Rockfield Centre✨✨ If you are dealing with loss, don't carry it alone✨✨2 places on the group ...
20/02/2026

✨Starting on 27 Feb at the Rockfield Centre✨
✨ If you are dealing with loss, don't carry it alone✨

✨2 places on the group programme still available (£35 per session)✨
✨1 1-1 place still available £60 per session.✨

If you would like to participate in the Grief Recovery Method in Oban please email me [email protected]

Address

Buttercups And Clover Boutique, Scarinish
Tobermory
PA776UH

Opening Hours

Friday 11am - 5pm
Saturday 11am - 5pm

Telephone

+447360269222

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