Antonia The Life Coach

One thing motherhood has done is hold up a mirror.

Some of the things I’ve learned about myself have surprised me.

Some have challenged me.

And some have helped me understand myself better than ever before.

As a mum of two and through the women I work with, I think motherhood often becomes one of the biggest periods of self-discovery in a woman’s life.

Not because we suddenly change overnight.

But because motherhood has a way of exposing our strengths, insecurities, values and needs all at once.

For me, one of the biggest lessons was realising how little confidence I carried when I was younger.

And how much of that I don’t want my children to inherit.

What has motherhood taught you about yourself?

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And if you’re ready to reconnect with who you are beyond the mental load, my Mental Load Reset Workbook goes much deeper.

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Do you actually want honest feedback?

This article started as a thought about feedback and somehow became an exploration of trust, honesty and what real relationships require.

I think the strongest relationships are the ones that can survive the truth.

Full article on my Substack below 🤍

https://open.substack.com/pub/littlethoughtsandthings/p/real-relationships-should-be-able?r=69qzsj&utm_medium=ios

I think modern motherhood has become very good at selling women solutions.

A better routine.
A better planner.
A better system.
A better parenting strategy.
A better morning.
A better version of ourselves.

I’ve also seen recently a lot of conversations suggesting mothers are struggling because they have the wrong mindset.

That women are choosing to be ‘miserable mums’.

That they’re focusing on the negative.
That they need more gratitude.
More positivity.
More perspective.

And whilst mindset absolutely matters, I think that view can sometimes miss something important.

Because many women aren’t struggling because they’re thinking about motherhood incorrectly.

They’re struggling because they’re tired.
Because they’re carrying a huge mental load.
Because they’re overstimulated.
Because they lack support.
Because they’re struggling financially.
Because they’re trying to meet impossible expectations.

Or maybe they’re just struggling with their mental health.

You can’t always mindset-shift your way out of an unsustainable situation.

Sometimes what women need isn’t a new perspective.
It’s more support, more rest, more partnership and more understanding.

I think many women need more softness and less pressure.

What would you add to the list?

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