16/09/2026
This is going to sound like a proud grandad bragging about his grandson. I am proud but that's not the point of this post. Indulge me.
Recently my grandson Lewis text me to , among other things, thank me for his training in karate.
Lewis is a paramedic in the RAF. Has a young family and has always been a bit of an over-achiever. He came to me aged around 6 and said " grandad, I want to get my black belt".
I explained to him that it was very difficult but that if he did exactly what I said, I believed he could achieve it.
We set up a 12ft by 8ft shed in his back garden and equipped it with an exercise bike, light weights, pull up bars and a heavy bag.
The agreement was that not only would he attend class 3 times a week but we would do 3 sessions of an hour in the shed.
Like all kids, initial enthusiasm dulled to " oh this is a bit hard, repetitive, boring". We had temper tantrums, tears, frustration and threats to quit. But that was one thing that wasn't allowed . He could get upset, he could take a night off but quitting was not an option.
He got over it. He also achieved his black belt. Went to win tournaments, acieve 3rd dan etc. But crucially, that's not what he was thanking me for. He thanked for instilling into him an aptitude for hard work, resilience in the face of adversity and self-belief...an understanding of just what he could achieve if he put his mind to it.
Letting kids quit just because they have a bad week or they hit a plateau just teaches them to quit when life gets a bit uncomfortable. I was no martinet but I did push him. Now he recognises the value.