Jodie Christine Hardcastle

Simple step by step guide on how to get started 👆🏽✨

“But is it really that simple?” 🤯 I hear you say…

Yep, it really is THAT simple✌🏽

So this is 29✨

The first birthday as a mummy and I couldn’t have asked for more.

….Spent outdoors in the pi***ng rain and freezing cold ontop of a big hill with my favourite people in the whole wide world. PERFECT 😂✌️

Gone are the birthdays spent rat arsed searching for my purpose.

In December I definitely found it. I thought I knew before this but turns out I REALLY didn’t.

She is reason for everything. My WHY.

To the point where I didn’t even process it was my birthday this year until a few days before.. it’s ALL about her💕

She is singlehandedly the reason I do absolutely everything I do now.

To give her a better life. The life I wish I’d had.

Not to give her what I didn’t have… but to TEACH the things I never learnt and had to learn myself.

Finally, at 29 years old, I know I am exactly where I am supposed to be, doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing.

It’s taken me this long to finally be proud of the person I am and the things I stand for.

In the past year, I’ve done so much work on myself and it’s finally starting to pay off…

THE LAST BIRTHDAY IN MY 20s and I couldn’t be more excited to welcome being 30.

Here’s to finding who you were always supposed to be in your 20s so you can smash the s**t out of life in your 30s.

Ps. Lilo did not get shut in the bathroom 🤣

THANK YOU for all the love everyone has shown me. My heart is full💕

All in all? A recipe for disaster😂

The saddest part for me though is how I was so oblivious to how all these things were contributing to my depression.

I wish now I’d had the knowledge I do now.

I wish now that I’d have spoken to myself a little kinder.

But most of all, I wish nobody else falls into the same traps I did.

I’ve been at rock bottom and trust me, it’s sh*t. REALLY s**t.

Until you decide to take responsibility and love yourself enough to counteract these things.

It’s not easy, it’s taken YEARS of reworking my brain and it’s still very much work in progress but the game changer?

Being aware of it. Being able to be really honest with yourself and reflect!

Because once you realise that these simple things are the backbone of not only your mental health but your life in general, that’s when you become truly happy.

That’s when you become FREE.

It’s about time we realised the POWER of our language!

When we change our language, we change our experiences - I know.. it sounds “woo woo” but bare with.

But it’s that simple AND it bloody works!

I have always been massively negative to myself. Going through the mindset training in my business paired with CBT, I’ve come to learn it’s as a result of ‘chronic low self esteem’ which in turn goes back to my core beliefs.

You’d never guess it on here would you? 😂 anyway, that’s besides the point and a conversation/growth conversation for another day.

ANYWAY, it all sounds very doom and gloom - I’ll go into core beliefs another day and the significance of these (we ALL have aspects of low self esteem within us, no matter how successful we are) BUT for the time being let’s just say it excited me…

Why? Because it’s given me a starting point and so therefore it’s given me a direction to go in to improve.

Language has been a key in this.

The language we use can literally override our fears, override our doubts and increase our self esteem.

Just like anything, the more you repeat something the easier it becomes to recite pathologically.

I bet you can reel off your times tables with no problem?… why? Because you repeated them again and again and again.

It’s the same concept with retraining your brain and it’s as simple as changing the language you use.

Above are some that I consciously swap out now.

I invite you this week to become aware of the language you’re using. Note it down, be conscious of it.

Then, make mindful swaps when you can so you’re constantly feeding your subconscious with nourishing, encouraging thoughts that will catapult your self worth, belief in yourself and ability to attract the abundance you deserve may just not have access to yet!

Let me know. What swap are you making this week?

The reality of my first 6 weeks postpartum…

Motherhood’s already been BY FAR the hardest thing I have ever been through.

It’s also been BY FAR the absolute best, most magical thing I have ever experienced.

Just in the first few weeks so far…
- I’ve had about 10 MAJOR breakdowns.
- I’ve COMPLETELY lost myself on numerous occasions.
- I’ve had to dig deep, finding parts of me I never knew existed.
- I’ve learnt to function on very little (if any) sleep. (Something I was really worried about)
- I’ve had to learn that what is best for Lilli, isn’t necessary what I want & it’s right to choose something based on her NEEDS, not my ‘wants’.
- I’ve regressed massively at times & at my worst, I felt like if I left the house I would self combust.
- I’ve made mistakes & fought the ‘I’m a rubbish mum’ narrative.
- I’ve realised how deeply my own insecurities & lack of self worth goes. Since I’ve become a mum, it’s exploded.
- I had to come to terms with the fact my breast feeding journey wasn’t what I thought it was going to be & deal with the guilt that comes with that.

BUT,

Here’s the beauty of it. All of these challenges…

I’ve been aware of them. I’ve sat & reflected on how I can approach each one in order to overcome them. I’ve tackled them head on, one by one, step by step, little by little & just these first few weeks have taught me SO much.

- Instead of feeling guilty for taking time out, I’m so grateful I actually took the time to be TRULY present with my baby for this experience I’ve waited for all my life.

- You can’t have the good without the bad. They literally go hand in hand & the two can happen so simultaneously you’re left with whiplash.

- The harder you fall, the bigger the lesson & the stronger you’ll be when you rise again. This chapter’s both ruined me AND given me FIRE.

- I’ve felt confident in knowing that I’m filling myself with the best water in the world.

- I simply could NOT have been this insightful & in tune with myself if it hadn’t been for my business & the things I’ve learnt about mindset, mental resilience & how to tackle low mood.

I 🤍 my life. I 🤍 my business✨

Hey, you!

Welcome to a whistle-stop tour to who the heck this small town girl doing BIG things is✨

…I’m Jodie!☺️

* Mumma to Lillianne and Lilo 🪷🐶
* Ex Full time Teacher to truly LIVING 👩🏽‍🏫➡️🌄
* Childhood trauma advocate 👧🏽
* Free thinker & LOUD speaker 😂🗣️
* Trapped in my own brain to converted conspiracy theorist⛓️‍💥👀

I became aware from a very young age that I never really fitted in anywhere…

I always felt my emotions WAY more than others did. (I was a ‘drama queen’ you see).
I had different beliefs to the others.
I didn’t enjoy the same things others.
I didn’t talk like the others.
I didn’t act like others…

And it made me a very lonely, isolated little girl that believed she was ‘too much’ whilst simultaneously feeling like she wasn’t good enough. I craved that feeling of acceptance…

Enter the unhealthy habits I developed over the years to try & curb the emptiness of not really belonging anywhere…All the modern self medicating distractions or ‘coping mechanisms’ that instead of making the problem go away, just paused everything, sending me spiralling further…

The drugs, the alcohol, the obsessive behaviours, the incessant people pleasing, the constant barrage of limiting beliefs and depressing thoughts..

THEY ALL TOOK OVER. For a very long time.

Until I decided enough was enough! Nobody was going to come & save me - I wanted more from life & I wasn’t going to stand in my own way any longer.

So I saved myself… I invested in an online business that encourages me to be the best version of myself possible & has helped me more than the NHS did in 6 years.

I started looking after myself, I started thinking for myself & I started asking the questions I’d taught myself not to.

I started to find myself again! Now I help others on the journey forwards & back to themselves.

My page consists of me retracing my past to address the trauma that was hindering mine & my daughter’s future.

It’s messy, it’s raw, it’s sometimes controversial but most of all, it’s real & it’s me.

I’m so thrilled to have you here! Fancy getting involved? Head to the link in my bio to learn about the opportunity that I owe my life✨

Story Time - **STRESS edition**

Despite all this, the one thing I’m most incredibly grateful for? Is the fact that I whole heartedly know this will not be my life for much longer.

I’m sure most people understand this situation more than I appreciate and actually alot of people are in a worse off boat than I am but this will only ever be my worst case scenario thanks to my phenomenal business.

Things are tighter now than ever, but THIS is what happens when major shifts are going on. You are tested JUST as equally if not more.

That’s how I know this will be the worst pickle we will be in from now on. Things are genuinely looking up…

How do I know? I’m choosing to see it that way and the rest will follow.

Unpopular opinion - Recycling is a scam 🙅🏽‍♀️

Households in the United Kingdom are estimated to throw away 66 items of plastic packaging per week on average. This means that 1.85 billion plastic packaging items are thrown away each week across all UK households, equating to almost 100 billion items a year.

In 2021, 2.5 million metric tons of plastic packaging waste were generated in the UK.

The worst part? We do MINIMAL amounts of recycling in this country. A huge chunk of our recycling gets shipped abroad. In 2022, 17% was recycled in the UK, followed by waste exports (14%) and landfill (11%)…

SO, all those videos you see of far off countries being littered from coast to coast with single use plastics, whilst feeling detached thinking it’s nothing to do with you, chances are it’s a DIRECT import from the UK, who knows?? Might even be yours 😉

The picture on the first slide was prior to starting my business..this was my car before my regular declutter that I would do every couple of weeks, if that. I drank SO much bottled water because I was so manic about not drinking tap water. It would get to the point I’d have copious amounts of bottles with dregs here and there to make sure I always had some on hand.. looking at that photo genuinely makes me cringe that it was genuinely my reality.

The picture on the second slide is my now reality 😍
No more single use plastic!!!!🙌🏽🥳

What’s better?

No more tap water either 🤪🚱

And better than that?

No more single use plastic from household cleaning products because FYI this incredible machine does all that for me too😍

I’m MADE up that I’m no longer a huge consumer of single use plastics…

Were you aware that the copious amounts of recycling you may do at home ISNT actually recycled?
Do you agree that more needs to be done about single use plastics in this country and around the world?

Just a thought 🤷🏽‍♀️😉

Home sweet home 🏠🫶🏽

Shedding my skin and it feels f*cking amazing 🐍🐍🐍🐍🐍🐍

Want some of what’s happening to me?

I see you 👀

I WAS you🫶🏽

I’m here now.

AND I can HELP show you the way to shedding that old skin of yours too.

Get in my DMs 💌📬📩 You know my inbox is always open❤️

I’m getting really darn proud of myself… and it’s growing daily.

This business and self development journey so far has been 4 months and I’ve already noticed that…

I’VE STOPPED LETTING MYSELF DOWN.

Dont get me wrong I’m not saying I’m a guru and have smashed everything the whole journey but 4 months of consistent action in myself and I’m sitting here looking back this morning, genuinely knowing and starting to believe I am REALLY growing as my highest self.

It’s so empowering.

I used to heavily procrastinate.

I used to let my negative thought processes overwhelm me and determine my mood instead of being logical and not allowing myself to be overwhelmed by emotions. I remember my emotions are not me. They are slithers of past experiences that are triggered when a wound is opened. And I MANAGE them, they do not manage me. I would make constant excuses to myself about why I can’t do something or why it’s okay that something isn’t going to get done.
I would sit in a victim mentality and feel sorry for myself.

Well not anymore! 4 months and I can already see such a profound change in who I’m becoming.

I’m finally proud of myself. I’m finally holding myself to account… whilst also being my biggest fan. I’m not letting excuses get in the way of the rest of my life… and neither should you!! We’re worth so much more. I also woke up BEFORE my alarm today.

I could all too easily have gone back to bed and waited but I haven’t. I made the choice.

To get one step ahead.
To start my morning right.
To secure my mindset.
To ground and not let anything that is going on get on top of me.

These are promises I made to myself this morning that I fulfilled today before having THE best day out.

If I can do it, so can you. You can do it all.

People talk about ‘grounding’ as a concept and generalise the term so much that sometimes it can be unclear as to what it actually is…

And that’s just it, grounding looks completely different to every single one of us!

This is what me grounding myself looks like the majority of the time… Number 3 has to be favourite🥰

How I changed from clinically depressed, to optimistic AF🤪

Ps. I was about the caption this and the first phrase that came to mind was ‘my favourite out of these two is’ only to sit and realise they are both equally important to me when I really think about the main things that have helped me.

What do you think? Are they equal or not, let me know in the comments…

My Top favourite quotes of the MANY that helped me see the bigger picture through depression and in turn, COMPLETELY change my perspective!

I’ve been journaling a lot recently and I’ve been really focusing on healthy habits and choices. It made me think of how different my perspective is on life now.

A lot is down to me, of course but sometimes it just takes something small to offset the way you think, open your eyes and give you some perspective.

Quotes did this for me back in my early days of attempting to heal on my own and not having much direction. I would find solace in quotes.

Turns out I’d also learn an awful lot from them too. People used to mock me for sharing quotes but turns out they can be really rather effective in supporting the healing process.

Funny thing is it was one of the very few things I didn’t care about then, and I still don’t care now😂

My association with quotes with the direction I was going in and the fact that I felt so strongly towards the impact they were having on me meant that it completely dwarfed any other background noise.

Find your ‘above the background noise’

Do you have a favourite quote?

Trauma’s a b*tch but you best believe I’m doing ALL the work that’s required to come out on top, no matter how long it takes or how hard the journey may be.

You heard it here first💪🏽