Peace and Joy Sleep Consultancy

"Sleep training might help parents get more rest, but it doesn’t stop babies from waking—they just don’t always call out. Is that really a ‘success’? 🤔💭"

Let’s break this down because I see this statement floating around, and I don’t like how it makes parents feel. It plays on guilt, fear, and doubt. But here’s the truth:

💡 Babies wake up—it’s biologically normal.
💤 Sleep training isn’t about stopping wakes—it’s about giving them the skill to go back to sleep independently.
👶 They WILL still call out when they truly need you.

I’ve seen it with my own babies. I’ve seen it with my clients. And I promise you—teaching your baby to self-settle is NOT neglect. It’s a skill that helps the whole family rest better. And that, mama, is a success. ❤️

Have you sleep-trained? How did it impact your nights? Let me know in the comments! 👇

I just got glasses this week! And I'm thankful as I spend a lot of time behind a screen! I love what I do, but I've been getting headaches. So here we go - no more headaches (I hope) and getting to do what I love. Helping you lovely people get more sleep!! 💤💤💤

You can see BIG changes quickly when you've got a holistic plan that looks at everything. Little Freddie nailed it.

Why wait till they are older? Why not now?

Are you ready for a change? Book a free call in my linktree bio.

💡There is no right or wrong answer. We all have our preferences of what works for our families- the problem is when it isn't working.

🪟 For example... Your baby is on awake windows and doing great naps, you know they know how to self-settle but nights just aren't falling into place.. it could be that actually their body is ready for a schedule.

🥱 Or you follow your baby's sleep cues, but recently you find life is busy and you just keep missing the signals and then they are overtired...

🕐 Or maybe you are on a schedule but it just doesn't fit into the commitments you have in life (like the school run) and this is just affecting your little ones sleep.

There's lots to consider.

I personally LOVE awake windows for newborns and love moving towards a sleep schedule some time between 4 to 6 months and especially by the time your baby is on 2 naps a day (but it has to work for you and your family). Why? Because I often see early morning wake-ups can be harder to fix when awake windows are followed. I also love that schedules help to set the body clock AND often make it easier to make plans.

❔What do you prefer?

These little messages mean a lot!! Ive just been tidying and came across the gorgeous card one of my clients sent. It's the reason I do what I do! 😍

This is just one of the many things I hear from my clients, alongside:
- He wakes up happy
- She is so bright and joyful!
- It's like he has a new personality
- I used to think he was high maintenance, now I realise he was tired.

And it's no wonder, I'm the same when I get good sleep! We just can't escape that good sleep produces joy and energises us for the day!

Get on touch if you need support!

I just have to share this with you all! Im really proud of myself... In September it will be two years since I embarked on this journey and I probably thought it would take a year. But I hope I did it in a way which meant I honoured my own family and their needs, valued my other job and acknowledged the demands it has on me, hopefully managed to resemble some form of supportive wife and friend and didn't burn myself out.

And I've had the joy of turning a passion into something I can share more widely. ❤️

I love a lovely/comforter/cuddly... Whatever you like to call it... And here's why:

🐻 It's such a great sleep association.
🐻 It can go anywhere and stick around for as long as they want it... I know adults who still sleep with theirs.
🐻 It's a comfort in lots of settings: starting nursery, car journeys, new settings, having a friend watch your kid for the afternoon..
🐻 It's super cute!

Things to be mindful of:

💡Make sure it meets safe sleep guidelines... Generally a minimum age to have a comforter in the bed is 7 months but unhelpfully different countries have different recommendations.
💡Have a spare and use them at the same pace so they get old together... It can be really sad for your little one if you lose it.
💡 Build the association over time, including it in wind down routines, milk feeds, cuddles with you to help form the attachment.

Picture 1: kid number three taken today
Picture 2: my middle when I washed her comforter..
Picture 3: my firstborn when he was only 2

Does your little one have a comforter? 😍