Mind Collective - Emma Brooks

When you’re constantly analysing what you’ve just said and worrying about what you might say next, it’s understandable you’re on edge.

Shattering your confidence. Making you feel you have really have to consider every word. To make sure it’s right. To say the best thing at that moment.

And what’s the best thing? – what that person wants to hear?
But how can you always predict what the other person wants to hear? It’s impossible and exhausting constantly trying.

No wonder you feel tired all the time, overwhelmed, never quite settled. Settled one to one, in a group, settled in your own skin.

Mindset coaching has helped so many people I’ve worked with to feel more at ease in themselves, comfortable in simply being - authentic and confident.

And that’s the end result. I whole heartedly believe confidence comes naturally once you know how to authentically and simply exist.

If you'd like to find out more about how Mindset Coaching can help, please send me a DM or book a free consultation following the links in my bio.

Online appointments available or in person .health Sheffield, S11

Mindset coaching starts by helping you shine a light on your inner critic.

That might sound uncomfortable - a lot of people would rather avoid it -
but it’s a crucial first step. You can’t change the narrative in your head until you’re aware of what you’ve been telling yourself, often for years.

That’s why every mindset coaching journey begins with building awareness.
A simple but powerful way to do this is by writing down the thoughts you repeatedly say to yourself - both positive and negative.

Don’t be surprised if the negative list is much longer. Everyone I've worked with experiences this, thanks to our natural negativity bias 🤯

But once you clearly see those thoughts, you can begin to question them.
Are they true?
Where did they come from?
Why do they still show up?
This is where the shifts really begin.

Through coaching, you’re introduced to tools that help you challenge and reframe these patterns. Instead of resisting or believing every critical thought, you learn to observe them without attaching meaning or identity to them.

Over time, you stop seeing them as facts or as part of who you are. And eventually, you build the ability to let those thoughts pass without draining your energy.
Then you're able to replace them with ones that are more supportive, balanced, and aligned with who you want to be.

For more information about Mindset & Life Coaching please send me a DM or book a free consultation via the link in my bio.
Online appointments available and in person in Sheffield.

Emma x

When you feel a reaction to something that feels excessive in relation to the thing that's just happened, it's because you've been triggered.

What often follows is your inner critic!

"Why am I over reacting to that"
"Stop being so silly"
"I'm too sensitive"
"Don't be ridiculous"

If that sounds way too familiar...

Mindset Coaching can help you understand that the thing that's just happened has created a feeling - the familiarity of that feeling threads back to one or probably more similar unresolved feelings. Those feelings then all compound together to create your reaction.

With Mindset Coaching you can make sense of your triggers, and with that, your emotions and nervous system can begin to feel more regulated.

If you'd like to find out more about how Mindset Coaching can help, please send me a DM or book a free consultation following the links in my bio.

Online appointments available or in person .health Sheffield, S11

That voice in your head isn't the enemy - I know it might be easy to think it is...

When it whispers you're not ready right before you speak up. It replays your mistakes at 2 a.m. And insists everyone else has it figured out except you.

Most advice tells you to silence it, fight it, shut it down. But what I've learned, both in my own journey and working with clients: that voice isn't trying to destroy you, it's trying to protect you.

It formed when you were young, absorbing every moment you felt embarrassed, rejected, or not enough. It built a case file, stored everything in your subconscious. And now, every time you're about to take a risk, it pulls out that file and says: Remember what happened last time? Let's not do that again.

The intention is safety, but unfortunately, the impact is stagnation.

The best thing to do is to stop treating it like an adversary and start treating it like an outdated alarm system. It's still doing its job, it just doesn't realise you've grown.

The next time it speaks up, try to:

✨ Notice it without merging with it - "There's that voice again" is very different from "I'm not good enough."
✨ Get curious - What's it afraid of? What does it think it's protecting you from?
✨ Thank it, then say - "I hear you. I'm going to do this anyway."

The goal isn't a silent mind. It's a mind that you understand enough to enable detachment. Then you can regain control.

Your inner critic, negative self-talk, inner dialogue, narrative, internal thoughts - there are so many names for what can often feel overwhelming and out of control.

That unkind dialogue, that berates you, keeps you playing small, stops you from doing the things you want, and most importantly results negatively in how you feel about yourself - it can be challenged.

Understanding why you believe it is key - and with support and new tools, another narrative can be introduced, that can change everything.

If you'd like to understand more about how Mindset Coaching can help, please send me a DM or book a free consultation following the links in my bio.

Online appointments available or in person .health Sheffield, S11

Some of the things you’re hardest on yourself for aren’t flaws. They’re fear, wearing different masks:

Overthinking.
Worry.
Anxiety.
People-pleasing.
Self-sabotage.
Imposter syndrome.
Avoiding conflict.
Holding yourself back.
Downplaying your value.
Not wanting to be fully seen.

On the surface they all look different, but underneath they often come from the same place:

“I’m not enough.”
“I don't belong.”
“If I show who I really am will I still be accepted?”

So you protect yourself:

You overthink to avoid getting it wrong.
You people-please to stay liked.
You shrink so you don’t stand out.
You hold back so you don’t risk rejection.

Because, at some point, it felt safer.

That matters because, when you see these patterns for what they really are, you stop judging yourself so harshly. You can start to understand yourself. And from there, change becomes possible.

Not by forcing confidence or pretending fear isn’t there, but by gently building safety within yourself so you don’t have to keep hiding.

I'm still remembering so fondly the evening I had with Becky from - We shared a table with some amazing women

This is a summary of the talk I was so kindly asked to give on the importance of mindset on confidence 🫶🙌

My inner critic's called Judy! Judy pops up every now and again, but I recognise I don't connect with her in the same way as I used to. Giving her a name has definitely been part of what helped.

Naming your inner critic creates distance between you and that unkind voice that constantly doubts, judges, catastrophises, and keeps you playing small.

When you give it a name it creates detachment. And the wonderful benefit of detachment is, it allows for a different, more aware view point.

It helps you to know - this is a voice I experience, not the truth of who I am.

And once you have detachment and objective observation, you can start to challenge your inner critic. You don’t have to silence it completely (that's not fully possible). You just stop handing it the microphone, so it can become quieter and less powerful.

When Judy pops up I acknowledge her, often tell her she’s talking rubbish, and then ask Emma (me!) to replace the not very helpful thing Judy just said with something more inspiring....
I basically say something nice to myself!

✨Emma Brooks - Mindset Coach & NLP Practitioner - Online & Sheffield in person +lemonswomenshealthclinic