Living After Loss with Sarah

Living After Loss with Sarah Helping people recover from loss using tried and tested tools which you can use for any type of loss again and again.

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https://subscribepage.io/5S5dGv Hi there, and thank you for checking out my Bio. I'm Sarah, a mum and a gran, originally from Belfast but been living near Glasgow for over 20 years. In 2023 I lost my husband very suddenly and then a year later my mum died. I was left with the usual feelings of grief - numb, exhausted,

stunned, weepy, angry etc and that lasted for such a long time. I think when mum died I hadn't even started to get over the death of my husband so I had to do something. A friend put me in touch with her friend who was a Grief Recovery Specialist. By week 3 I knew that this was what I needed and wanted to do. Not only has it helped me but it has given me a new direction that feeds the part of me that wants to help others. Please get in touch if you have any questions, I'm happy to have a chat at any time.

Well... I asked and you bloody well answered. 😂❤️Yesterday I asked whether you'd be interested in things like an online ...
24/08/2026

Well... I asked and you bloody well answered. 😂❤️

Yesterday I asked whether you'd be interested in things like an online grief café, day retreats, a membership community or residential retreats, and I've been reading through your comments. One thing has come through loud and clear.

You want connection. Not necessarily another course. Not someone lecturing you about the “stages of grief”. Not somebody telling you what you should be doing by now. Just somewhere you can be with people who get it, and I've noticed how many of you mentioned online.

Some of you live too far away. Some are in other countries. Some don't drive, and for some, particularly in the earlier days of grief, the thought of walking into a room full of strangers might just feel like too bloody much.

I get that.

One of you wrote something yesterday that really stayed with me:

“There is great comfort in others.”

There really bloody is, because sometimes the thing you need most isn't advice, it's sitting with someone and saying:

“Is this normal?”

And hearing:

“Yep. Me too.”

That can be incredibly powerful, so thank you for all your comments. I'm not going to rush off and create seventeen different things at once, because knowing me, that's exactly the sort of ridiculous idea I'd have. 😂

But I AM listening.

And I think there might be something really lovely we can create here.

Something safe, something uncomplicated., something where you don't have to explain why you're fine one minute and crying because you saw his favourite biscuits in Tesco the next. A place where people just get it.

I'll keep you posted. ❤️

Sarah x

Well... there are rather a lot of new faces around here this week. 👋💜One little post about the ridiculous things people ...
21/08/2026

Well... there are rather a lot of new faces around here this week. 👋💜

One little post about the ridiculous things people say to widows has now been seen more than 60,000 times.

Which is slightly bloody bonkers. So if Facebook has thrown me onto your feed this week and you're wondering:

“Who the hell is this woman?”

I'm Sarah, and unfortunately, I know rather more about grief than I ever wanted to.

I'm widowed myself. I'm also an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist and the founder of Living After Loss, but I'm not here to tell you how you should grieve.

I'm not going to tell you to move on. I'm not going to tell you everything happens for a reason, and I'm definitely not going to tell you that time magically heals everything if you just wait long enough.

Bo****ks to that.

What I WILL talk about is the stuff that comes with losing your person that nobody really prepares you for, and how different losing your person is from every other type of grief.

The silence, the loneliness, losing your best friend, other people's awkwardness, the anniversaries and bloody triggers that appear from nowhere, the guilt when you find yourself laughing again, the strange experience of trying to work out who YOU are when the life you thought you were going to have has disappeared.

And eventually...

how you begin living again without feeling as though you're leaving them behind.

Sometimes we'll talk about the really hard stuff, sometimes we'll laugh at the absolute absurdity of it all, and sometimes we'll probably swear, because that's real life, and that's what I want this page to be.

A place where you don't have to pretend you're fine when you're bloody well not.

So if you're new here — hello. 💜

I'm sorry for the reason you may have found me, but I'm very glad you're here.

And if you've been here for ages...

thank you for being part of this little corner of the internet.

Sarah x

This Week, I Learned Something...Last week I asked one simple question:"What's been the hardest part of widowhood for yo...
14/08/2026

This Week, I Learned Something...

Last week I asked one simple question:
"What's been the hardest part of widowhood for you?"

The replies have touched me deeply. Many of you spoke about loneliness. Others wrote about silence. Some shared the guilt they carry. Others described missing the future they thought they'd have, but one thing united every single reply...

You wanted someone to understand.

Thank you for trusting me with your stories. Every answer reminded me why this community matters so much. If today is a difficult day, I hope you'll remember this:

You don't have to explain your grief here.

You are seen.

You are heard.

And you're not walking this path alone.

You Don't Miss "A Husband"...You miss.....your best friend.The one person who knew how your day had been without you hav...
12/08/2026

You Don't Miss "A Husband"...

You miss...
..your best friend.

The one person who knew how your day had been without you having to explain, the one who understood the look on your face, the one who remembered the stories nobody else knew, the one who was simply...

there.

That isn't something you replace, and it certainly isn't something you "get over."

It's something you learn to carry with you. You build your new normal around it, but it will always be there.

If this resonates with you, please know you're not alone.

❤️ Sending love to everyone missing their person today.

Nobody Warns You About This...People often think the hardest part of widowhood is the funeral, or the paperwork, or the ...
10/08/2026

Nobody Warns You About This...
People often think the hardest part of widowhood is the funeral, or the paperwork, or the anniversaries, but over the last week, I've been reading emails from widows, and do you know what keeps coming up?

It's the ordinary moments.

☕ The empty chair at breakfast.
🚪 Walking into a quiet house.
📞 Wanting to tell him something and remembering you can't.
💔 Waking up for a split second thinking he's still here.

Those are the moments that seem to catch us when we least expect it.

If you're reading this today, I want you to know something...

If you've cried over something that seems "small" to everyone else, you're not grieving the object.

You're grieving the life it represents.

❤️ Be gentle with yourself today.

💔 "You seem to be doing so well..."Have you ever had someone say this to you?Maybe you've gone back to work. You've star...
07/08/2026

💔 "You seem to be doing so well..."

Have you ever had someone say this to you?
Maybe you've gone back to work. You've started going out again. You laugh occasionally. You get dressed, answer messages and do all the things you're supposed to do.

From the outside, it can look as though you're "doing well", but what people don't always see is what happens when you close the front door.

The silence. The exhaustion. The decisions you now make alone. The moments when something happens and he's still the first person you want to tell.

You can be functioning and still be grieving.
You can laugh and still miss him desperately.
You can have a good day and still wish he was here to share it with you.

Grief isn't always visible.

❤️ Sarah

What's one thing you wish other people understood about being widowed

One of the questions I was asked during my masterclass last week was..."When will the guilt stop?"It's a question I hear...
29/07/2026

One of the questions I was asked during my masterclass last week was...

"When will the guilt stop?"

It's a question I hear a lot.

Can I share something that completely changed the way I looked at it?

We often use the word guilt to describe all sorts of painful feelings after someone dies, but guilt has a very specific meaning. Guilt is about doing something we knew was wrong. Many widows and widowers aren't carrying guilt at all.

They're carrying regret. They're carrying sadness. They're carrying the unbearable weight of wishing things had been different. They replay conversations, medical decisions, he last few days, the "if onlys", the "what ifs."

And because the outcome was so heartbreaking, they conclude...

"It must be my fault."

Most of the time, it isn't. Most of the time, they made the best decisions they could with the information they had at the time.

If that's you, perhaps today is the day to ask yourself...

Am I really carrying guilt... or am I carrying something else?

Sometimes simply giving our feelings the right name is the first step towards finding some peace. ❤️

One of the questions I was asked during the masterclass last weekt was..."When will the guilt stop?"My heart broke a lit...
27/07/2026

One of the questions I was asked during the masterclass last weekt was...

"When will the guilt stop?"

My heart broke a little when I heard it, because I remember carrying guilt too.

Guilt for laughing. Guilt for enjoying a day out. Guilt for making plans. Guilt for feeling okay. Guilt for not feeling okay. Guilt for things I'd said. Guilt for things I hadn't said.

Grief has a horrible way of convincing us that somehow we could have done more. Loved them better. Saved them. Been different.

The truth is...

The guilt we carry isn't because we've done something wrong. It's because we're trying to make sense of something that makes no sense at all. I can't tell you the exact day the guilt eases, but I can tell you this...

You don't deserve to spend the rest of your life carrying it, because your love for them was never measured by how guilty you feel.

If you're carrying guilt today, please know you're not alone. ❤️

Last night I spent an hour with 44 widows and widowers.And can I just say...Thank you. Thank you for showing up. Thank y...
24/07/2026

Last night I spent an hour with 44 widows and widowers.

And can I just say...

Thank you. Thank you for showing up. Thank you for trusting me. Thank you for sharing your stories so openly.

One of the things that struck me most was this...

None of us wants to "move on."

We want to find a way to carry the love without being crushed by the grief. There's a world of difference. For so long I believed surviving was all I could hope for. Last night reminded me why I do what I do, because I know there are so many people quietly living in survival mode, thinking this is just how life has to be now.

It doesn't. If you couldn't make it, don't worry.

If you signed up but life got in the way, you'll get a link to the replay.

I'll be sharing more over the coming days because this conversation is far too important to end after one evening.

To everyone who joined me...

Thank you for reminding me why I started talking about widowhood in the first place. ❤️

Can I tell you who this masterclass is for?It's for the person who looks like they're coping.....but cries the minute th...
23/07/2026

Can I tell you who this masterclass is for?

It's for the person who looks like they're coping...
..but cries the minute they get home.

It's for the person who can hold everyone else together but feels like they're falling apart inside. It's for the person who's exhausted from pretending they're okay.
It's for the person who's wondering...

"Is this really what the rest of my life is going to feel like?"

It is not about moving on. It is not about forgetting the person you love, and I'm certainly not going to tell you that "time heals."

I'm going to share what I wish someone had told me after Alan died. The difference between surviving... and healing.

If you've been reading my posts and quietly thinking, "She's describing me," then I'd love you to join me tomorrow evening. Even if you just come to listen. Even if you're not sure you're ready. You don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to take one small step.

The link to register is in the first comment.

I'd love to see you there. ❤️

If youre already registered, just comment "I'm in!" I'd love to know who's joining us tomorrow. ❤️

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