Breaking free from a toxic relationship - women only

The staircase of life you desire is waiting for you to climb it.
The question is,
Are you brave enough?

I've rebuilt myself in my 20s. Again in my
30s.Burned it all down in my 40s. And now my 50s?
This is my POWER
DECADE

𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐂𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐘 𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬 𝐋𝐢𝐤𝐞
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I’ll be honest — coming back felt scary. I caught myself feeling like an imposter, wondering if I’d been away too long, thinking “Who am I to show up again?”
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But the truth is… staying silent was never peace.
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My desire to inspire never let me rest. It kept tugging at me, waking me up at 3am, whispering “Your journey matters, your voice matters.” So Im battling the imposter that I feel I have become to reclaim my passion and desire to inspire.
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𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐚 𝐥𝐨𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲.
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Becoming a life coach forced me to look at the cracks in my marriage — the misalignment, the version of me glazing over the cracks to keep the peace. I couldnt contunue living for someone else. I had to reclaim myself back,
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So I stepped back. I stopped performing.
I chose to realign.
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𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐧… 𝐈 𝐃𝐈𝐃.
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I got divorced.
I healed.
I travelled.
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I met myself fully — no filters, no masks, no apologies and I fell in love with the woman I had become.... all over again.
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When I choose me? Life embraced me with radical alignment.
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Falling off the conveyor belt, an exceptional man. He came.
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The most unexpected man.
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A love I didn’t search for, didn’t force, didn’t chase, a love that choose me and chooses me everyday.
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A man who accepts me unconditionally, celebrates my power, and pushes me to follow my purpose. The day I walked down the aisle and became his wife, was like a fairy tale come true.
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𝐇𝐞 𝐢𝐬, 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞.
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My journey — every crack, every tear, every leap — would never have happened if I’d stayed in a life that didn’t fit me anymore.
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So here I am.
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Back.
Aligned.
Unapologetic.
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If you’re reading this… just know:
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𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐛𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠.

Stepping into my 50s? The best era of my life!

I stepped away for a while to rebuild myself from the inside out…..

Not because I was broken.

But because life demanded that I choose myself with a level of courage I had never known.

Divorce didn’t defeat me. It showed me exactly where I had outgrown my old life and my old limits.

I know what it feels like to stay in situations that drain your spirit because the unknown feels terrifying.

I know what it feels like to silence your needs because choosing yourself feels risky.

I know the fear of wondering if you will make it on your own.

I also know this truth with my whole heart.

The life you truly want will never meet you where you are settling.

The moment I chose me, everything changed.

My standards.
My peace.
My joy.
My power.

I walked into the unknown a fierce heart, and I came out the other side living a life that matches my worth, and in the process created a life for myself that makes me accountable to myself every day to ask

Are you living life to its full potential?

In every way the anser was yes. Except one. My desire to be here.

So I’m back. Facing the fear of the imposter but brimming with excitement to share the brilliance of my journey.

This message is for the woman who feels the pull for more but is scared to move.

The woman who knows she is settling.

The woman who feels her soul waking up.

The woman who keeps asking herself, “Is there more for me than this?”

Yes! There is! I am living proof!

The fear you feel is not a stop sign. It is an invitation.

An invitation to rise.

An invitation to choose yourself before you choose comfort.

An invitation to step into a life that reflects who you truly are.

Your courage will not fail you.
Your strength will not disappear.
You will make it, because the woman you are becoming?

Is already calling you forward.

I can’t wait to share my journey and inspire others to know.

You can do this. We can do this. We are doing this! ❤️

The complexity of a toxic relationship can only be understood by someone who has been through it. The good news is the cycle can be broken ❤️

Never minimise how far you have come on your journey.
Happy international Women’s Day 🔥

It does not matter if you have days when you fall, what matters is what you do to lift yourself back up again ❤️

Don’t hold on to a mistake ….
Because you spent a long time making it.
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When you recondition the way you approach a set back, and view it as a learning curve rather then a mistake. You give yourself permission to accept its a process.
Not a destination.

As we navigate through life's challenges, our internal dialogue can often become our worst enemy, limiting our potential and hindering our progress. However, you can learn to reframe negative self-talk and start to learn how to shut down that inner critic. Want to know how? Let’s dive in!

Negative self-talk is a common obstacle that can hold us back from achieving our goals and living our best lives. We all have an inner voice that speaks to us (mine is called Tina!) but when that voice is constantly negative, it can become a barrier to our happiness and success.

If you're struggling with negative self-talk, know that you're not alone.

I've seen first-hand how many if not all of the women I have worked with have suffered from negative self-talk. It can keep you stuck in toxic patterns and prevent you from reaching your full potential.

When you believe negative things about yourself, it's easy to fall into a cycle of self-sabotage and low self-esteem.

As a life coach, I strongly believe one of the most powerful ways to overcome negative self-talk is to focus on your strengths, too often, we allow our weaknesses to overshadow our strengths, leading to a negative and limiting self-perception.

By consciously shifting your attention to your strengths you are creating the capacity for building confidence and self-esteem.

Take some time to reflect on your strengths, keep a journal and write down the things you're good at, the things that bring you joy, and the things that make you unique.

Celebrate these strengths, and use them to counteract negative self-talk when it arises. Self-perception is the foundation to begin building the transformation!

Drop me a comment below or send me a DM, what do you do to silence that negative chatter? Will you be trying this technique?

Over the next few days I will share more tips on breaking the cycle of negative chatter so if this is a pattern you’re struggling to break? Your in the right space 💗🫶💗