Studio Fertility

Have you ever seen the documentary about Phillipe Petit in 1974 walking a tightrope between the twin towers?

It is truly terrifying. Except that you know that he makes it.

Infertility is worse, because you don't know whether you will make it or not, physically, emotionally or mentally.

And no one can guarantee whether or now you will get your baby.

But I can guarantee that mentally and emotionally there is a safety net with me.

If you need support you really need to check out how I can help you.

I have a lot of free resources: podcast, freebie pdfs, youtube. And I also offer 1:1 coaching and a group program.

You can check out the links in my bio.

Or send me a DM! There is no need to do this alone.

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Yeah, I think we have all been here.

And it's pretty common and normal when you are struggling so hard. And it is usually because you just want your own pain and struggle to end. Not because you hate the person announcing and are truly jealous of their baby.

Because you don't want THEIR baby, you want YOUR baby.

Fertility can throw up a lot of emotions, and that's okay. Take your time out to work through it, you are not a bad person.

PS. If this hit home, my free guide ‘Letting Go (Without Giving Up Hope)’ is exactly what you need next. Link’s in the bio.

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If we were to legitimately think about our fertility 24/7 it would send us loopy and perhaps you feel loopy anyway.

Distraction is a legitimate coping technique that actually helps us to have a breather from our brain if we JUST CAN'T SWITCH IT OFF.

A good movie or tv show, A nap, Yoga.

Whatever is your distraction, they help us to also find some balance in life so our whole life isn't just our fertility.

What distractions do you use to help you cope?

PS. And if you think you need more than just distractions ‘Letting Go (Without Giving Up Hope)’ my free guide is exactly what you need next. Link’s in the bio.

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Maybe it was just a few days of feeling good.

Maybe you had decided that you were going to start to try to be more positive but then BAM, you hit between the eyes with a pregnancy announcement that just threw you.

Maybe it was from someone who said they never wanted kids, or someone who got married way after you. Someone who only said they had started trying that month or a close family member that just made it feel more difficult because it was so close to home. Maybe it was someone who doesn't take care of themselves or has no sense of responsibility.

Whomever it was, or however it happened. I think we can all relate.

If this has happened to you, write "ME" in the comments.

P.S. If you want more calm (and less chaos), I'm here to support you. My free guide might be the reset you need. Link in bio.

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Unfortunately, there is no prize for second place. No job. No money.

Just like getting pregnant and miscarrying doesn't give you the baby.

Or being able to afford IVF, if it doesn't work.

Or any of the other wonderful ways you can describe this.

It just sucks.

And we aren't equipped to deal with that kind of mental torture. That's why I help women through the mental and emotional jungle of fertility, so they can take their life off hold, feel emotionally balanced again, understand how to navigate through decisions, through relationships at this time and shorten their time to getting pregnant.

Are you sick of feeling like you are second best?

P.S. If you are just over this sh*tshow. My free guide might be the reset you need. Link in bio.

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The mental health crisis that happens through infertility is unsurprising to me.

It impacts every facet of your life and challenges your own perceptions of your identity.

It provides no certainty, no guarantees, and totally upends the picture you had painted of how your life would go.

And the timeframe can be completely open-ended. Some go on for months, others for years. Mine was 10 years from when I first started trying.

So yes of course, clinical depression, anxiety and the whole works are very high amongst this group of people.

It's been studied, it is a real crisis.

So let's stop trying to stick a band-aid of "just relax" on people.

Please and thank you.

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Infertility is A LOT!

What else would you add to this?

P.S. If you want more calm (and less chaos), I'm here to support you. My free guide might be the reset you need. Link in bio.

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You may want to eat healthier and really support your body whilst trying to conceive.

I get it. We want to do all we can to support our health and to conceive.

But not one single one of my clients was ever perfect when they got pregnant. They were all eating very different things, all taking very different supplements and amounts, some would have alcohol and others wouldn't.

If you are putting in the hard yards to increase your fertility, that's amazing. And I see you working so hard.

But that coffee, that cheese, that champagne, that forgetting your supplements is not the reason it didn't work out this month. Your brain is just trying to find a reason and that's what it came up with.

You didn't do anything wrong, this is just really hard.

PS. If this hit home, my free guide ‘Letting Go (Without Giving Up Hope)’ is exactly what you need next. Link’s in the bio.

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That little bit of bloating I would get a few days after ovulation, I always hoped was things starting to grow.

That little bit of spotting before my period started I always hoped was implantation bleeding.

That "need" to eat a lot before my period started because I was hungrier I always hoped was because my body was eating for two.

What do you always hope is a sign that is just not?

P.S. If you want more calm (and less chaos), I'm here to support you. My free guide might be the reset you need. Link in bio.

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Everyone has an opinion!

What's the worst "opinion" you ever heard?

P.S. If you want support through this journey, including how to deal with others "opinions" then I'm here to support you. My free guide is a great starting point. Link in bio.

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Ever heard that helpful advice - "just stop thinking about it so much?"

Yeah, thanks for that Bob!

The only possible response one should ever have when told that is:

"Sure, How?" And if they don't know, tell them they probably need to "think about things MORE" before they speak.

It's not possible to completely stop thinking about your fertility and it's not even the right course of action.

But it is about balance. Learning to balance your time spent on it, learning to balance how you think about it and getting the support you need to help yourself through one of the most difficult times of your life.

Fertility journeys that are going badly are a lot. Let's not downplay them.

PS. If this hit home, my free guide ‘Letting Go (Without Giving Up Hope)’ is exactly what you need next. Link’s in the bio. (Or you can go to my website and sign up for my course The Fertility Shift which gives you all the support you need right now).

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Fertility limbo. Putting your life on hold. All the sacrifices you feel that you have to make.

The way your friendships have changed and the impact it has had on your relationship, career and whatever else.

You've put holidays and fun on hold, waiting for that special day.

None of this will last forever. I know it is a lot, but I promise it will not be forever.

And if you are interested in doing your journey up to that time differently, then I help women to take their lives OFF hold, NOW.

Because sacrificing your whole life, emotional well-being and joy is not the way to get pregnant sooner.

PS. If this hit home, my free guide ‘Letting Go (Without Giving Up Hope)’ is exactly what you need next. Link’s in the bio.

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