23/09/2026
I recently talked to my old friend Don Parker for his podcast, The Space Between Conversations, and the conversation went much further than alcohol.
Looking back across more than forty years, I found myself thinking about how different behaviours can serve a function even when their consequences are destructive.
Punk gave me identity. Looking aggressive could feel like protection. Belonging offered certainty. Alcohol eventually became embedded in how I lived.
None of that excuses what happened. But understanding what a behaviour was doing can give you a more useful place to start changing it.
The question isn't always simply: “How do I stop this?”
Sometimes it is: “What has this behaviour been doing for me — and what could replace that function without destroying the rest of my life?”
I've written the full story for Backstage, including the route from addiction and recovery to the unexpected beginnings of EnTrance: https://www.entrance.org.uk/blogs/backstage-1/when-the-behaviour-becomes-the-armour
Or watch the full podcast here: https://youtu.be/aj7sG-_X85o?si=qF02BUc9f4zIP9pn
Stu and I met at Eastbrook School in Dagenham in 1980. Forty-six ye...