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You may see things that you completely disagree with

You may see things you think are stupid

You may see things that you simply cannot believe left the brain of a human as they are so wrong

However,

These are often the explorers who have the courage to do the following –

Question who they are
Reflect on their emotions
Detach from their thoughts
Dig deep into their conditioning and biases
Analyse their cultural influence
Challenge their education
Spend time understanding their habits and reactions

These people have decided to stand up and move

They may move into a dead end and tomorrow discard what today they hold as a truth

They may move into something that completely challenges all that they know and are and reluctantly, in time, they add this update to their map of existence

There is nothing wrong here

There is only learning

Some will explore the whole maze before finding the exit
The willingness to challenge the current version of you is an incredible journey where you have nothing to lose but the sense of self you have been handed and believed to be true

Not many people can face that as at the level of identity it is too painful to let go of what you currently call home and that one element of comfort in a world of chaos

Some will embark upon this path as they know the pain and suffering of change will always be much less than the pain of regret and never knowing what might have been

The Hidden Cost of Being Nice: Why Good is Better Than Nice

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Being nice seems like a virtue, but it's often a shield that protects us from confrontation while slowly eroding our self-worth. Let's explore why being good is far more valuable than being nice.

The Nice Person's Burden: Nice people are pleasers. They're the ones who: • Say yes when they want to say no • Avoid conflict at all costs • Put everyone else's needs first • Suffer in silence to keep the peace • Feel guilty about having needs • Struggle with setting boundaries

As Dr. Robert Glover states in "No More Mr. Nice Guy": "Nice guys believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, they will in return be happy, loved, and fulfilled. However, the opposite is often true."

The Introvert Connection: Introverts often fall into the "nice trap" because: • They prefer harmony over conflict • They process deeply and consider others' feelings • They can be overwhelmed by confrontation • They value peace and quiet • They tend to internalize their struggles

But here's the truth: Being nice isn't kindness - it's worry and doubt wearing a smile.

The Difference Between Nice and Good: Nice Person: • Agrees to avoid conflict • Seeks approval • Hides true feelings • Sacrifices self for others • Lives by others' rules • Fears rejection

Good Person: • Speaks truth with compassion • Lives by values • Expresses authentic feelings • Maintains healthy boundaries • Lives by personal principles • Accepts not everyone will like them

Breaking Free from "Nice":

Recognise that being nice is often self-protective behaviour
Start small with boundary-setting
Accept that discomfort is part of growth
Learn to sit with others' disappointment
Practice saying no without explanations
Trust that authenticity attracts authentic relationships

As Glover notes: "Integration is about accepting all of who we are - the good, the bad, and the ugly."

The goal isn't to become unkind or selfish. It's about developing: • Strong personal boundaries • Emotional intelligence • Self-respect • Authentic expression • Healthy relationships • Clear communication

Remember: Good people can be kind without being nice. They can: • Help others without sacrificing themselves • Say no with compassion • Stand firm in their values • Support without enabling • Love without losing themselves

Your Challenge: Next time you feel the urge to be "nice," ask yourself: "Am I doing this from a place of authenticity or fear?" "What would a good person do in this situation?" "What do my values tell me is right?"

Being good means having the courage to be disliked sometimes. It means standing in your truth, even when it's uncomfortable. It means choosing what's right over what's easy.

The world doesn't need more nice people. It needs more good people - people who are authentic, bounded, and brave enough to choose integrity over approval.

If you have ever felt like a proverbial doormat then this is for you as you can change and break the patterns

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A lot of our suffering comes from a failure to realise the profound difference between opinion and fact

Many people have opinions on things and these are largely based on personal preference - phones, cars, food, clothes, movies, books and everything else

These opinions are true in their world, but do not have to be accepted by you, adopted by you or lead you to conclude you are wrong if you do not agree

You would not change your opinion on a movie you enjoyed because someone said they could not stand it

You would probably still go to one of your favourite restaurants even if a friend said they hated the food

What is true for one, does not need to be true for another until we arrive at the world of fact

Drinking poison because you don't believe my advice not to would be stupid

Believing you can fly and finding out you cannot would also be stupid

When people are talking about opinion, experience and belief leave them to it as they are right in their world and very little will change big stuff at the level of identity from a stranger they are now defensive against

I always come back to a common truth when looking at our differences and how the journey shapes us

We are all the same - we just have different cases and operating systems :)

The ability to deeply connect with a person, hear their story, allow them to realise their worth and potential and be there for them is how you change their life

Very few people need a 12-month course, 300 videos and 17 books. I have seen powerful change in less than a day many times and deep connection is more important than any certificate and course you have done

As in many areas of life, less is truly more when coaching someone who has forgotten who they are and who they can become with the right support

A rocking horse moves constantly and gets nowhere

Know the difference between busy and progress

Why is it so difficult!

I should be good at this!

I can't believe I can't do this!

Let me help you out if you have wandered these streets recently

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I was training someone in the gym and we were doing some progressive stability exercises -

Hop and stick
Hop and stick with a command to hold, or go again
Hope and stick with a ball to challenge balance

They asked why this was so difficult and I explained it to them

In many areas of life you have decades of experience and expertise

You have never done this before and are therefore a toddler in this realm

Get rid of expectations and enjoy the adventure of learning

Use as applicable

There is war, disease, death, hatred and anger

There is also love, compassion, kindness, peace and beauty

You will magnify what you choose to focus on and find more of it

Spend no time in worry and move along your way

It cannot change tomorrow and only steals today ❤

I remember when fasted cardio used to be getting rid of a mosquito in your bedroom at 3am and burning 600 calories doing so 🤣

This was fantastic and what sport is all about :)

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