11/04/2024
I took a paper and pen and start writing the feelings and body sensations I had at that moment.📝
Then I asked myself: which are the needs unsatisfied by this situation?🤔
As thoughts came up to my mind I wrote them and transform them to objective observations without blame or criticism.
When I felt my body sensations go from tightness and tension, to relief and ease I realised that my feelings and needs were acknowledged and I was ready for a conversation.
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When someone says or does something that triggers unpleasant feelings in us, the solution does not lie in being right and wanting to change the situation.
It is more likely that we can do something about it, either seeking a solution or simply acknowledging that everything is ok, by taking a look inside ourselves.
When we recognise that,what we value is not happening at the moment, we can find a way to satisfy that value assertively, without blaming the other person’s actions.
From then on, conversations are more likely to flow with more clarity and compassion. 💞
If you want to know more about how to conduct peaceful and mutually understanding relationships and conversations follow me for more tips in sha Allah.
