Jemma Blythe Living Imperfectly Perfect

No one talks about the part for healing where you just have to accept…

It’s like you’ve reached a crossroads in your life with the cards you have been dealt and you have no option but to try each direction, until one feels right.

The hardest part is, is that too many women are taught that anger is a bad thing, that you will be seen as more masculine if you use your anger.

But, I ask you this. Do you not have the right to be angry?

If you use that anger as your driving force to find your purpose, something happens, something shifts inside of you and you are able to push past those crossroads finally.

To be free…

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You are a seen, loved and respected #internationalwomensday Jemma Blythe with a special video message for imperfectionists out there who are going through something right now.

As International Women’s Day Rolls Around Again…

Remember the women who have been silenced for so long, whether that’s because they are in danger if they speak out or whether is because they have carried or are still carrying huge amounts of shame.

Another point here I shall make is that le***an abuse survivors do exist because domestic violence exists in ALL relationships, just because people aren’t trained to recognise it or the law doesn’t recognise it properly in the UK doesn’t mean to say it doesn’t exist.

I was silenced, not even realising properly what I had gone through, until I discovered how to put words to what I had been through and gave me space and Catharsis poetry competition gave space to survivors.

I wrote and started to raise awareness… the only way I know how… creatively!

The right people will listen… you deserve to be heard.

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Hey Imperfectionists,

2026 has arrived with powerful transformational energy — the Year of the Fire Horse combined with a New Moon Eclipse. This is not just symbolism; energetically, it represents shedding old identities and galloping into growth, expansion, and radical self-trust.

Many people feel like the “black sheep” of society. They don’t fit traditional timelines, expectations, or definitions of success. But what if that isn’t failure… what if it’s alignment?

Society often pushes us into boxes — career paths, relationship timelines, income milestones, or unrealistic standards of achievement. Yet real growth happens when we step outside those expectations and build our own definition of success.

This year invites you to create a life that fits YOU instead of squeezing yourself into roles designed by others.

2026 is not about perfection.
It’s about becoming unapologetically yourself.

Normalise the different relationships…

Valentine’s Day shouldn’t just be about the love between partners, Valentines is all about love full stop.

Whether that’s love between two friends, a mother and her children or simply holding gratitude for the family members you have around you and hold dear.

Celebrate Valentines Day YOUR way!

However you’re celebrating, drop a comment 👇

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Freezing, Fawning and Silence
What do you know about these?

So many people judge survivors when they start to recount their experience.

“Why didn’t you fight back?”
“Why didn’t you say no louder?”
“It happened in a same s*x relationship, where’s the harm?”
“Why didn’t you leave?”

Trauma doesn’t always look like any of the things above like resistance, it can look like:
💜 Freezing
💜 Appeasing
💜 Staying quiet
💜 Dissociating
💜 Trying to stay safe

These are all responses linked to our nervous system, not character flaws.

You didn’t fail.
Your body tried to protect you.

Journaling prompt:
“What did your body do to keep you safe during difficult moments?”

Most Abusers Are Known To Survivors Already!

Victim blaming encourages people to think of abusers as strangers in the dark.

In reality most survivors are harmed by someone they already know.
A partner. A friend. A relative. A colleague.

Which is why these questions are so damaging:
❌ “why didn’t you leave?”
❌ “why did you trust them?”

Trust is never a mistake.
Abuse of trust is a mistake.

💬 What myth about abuse do you want society to unlearn?

You Don’t Need A Better Story To Be Believed

As a survivor you may feel pressure to tell your story perfectly to be believed- this is a lie.

Not too emotional.
Not too calm.
Not too messy.
Not too detailed.

Healing isn’t about crafting a story to convince others.
Healing is about focusing in on building up trust within yourself.

Your experience is valid, even if you:

💜 Froze
💜 Stayed
💜 Returned
💜 Didn’t report
💜 Are still processing

There is no “right way” to recover from trauma.

Journaling Prompt:

Where in your life are you ready to trust your own truth again.

Shame Belongs At The Door Of The Perpetrator

Survivors carry a shame that was never theres to own.

Shame for what they wore.
Shame for where they were.
Shame for trusting someone who harmed them.
Shame for not fighting back.

But here’s the truth:
The only person who should own that shame is the one who caused harm.

Healing begins when you move that shame back to where it belongs.

If you needed to hear this drop a “❤️”

“Unlearning the Shame That Was Never Yours”

Healing doesn’t always start with forgiveness.
Healing starts with unlearning the lies you were taught by society.

If you’ve ever had these thoughts:
“Maybe it was all my fault”
“I should’ve done more”
“If I hadn’t have been there”

That voice isn’t truth.
That voice is societal conditioning.

Victim Blaming teaches survivors to carry the responsibility of the blame that was never theirs to carry.

Healing can only begin when you gently say:
“I was harmed. I am not to blame.”

Journaling Prompt:
What is one thought of self blame you are willing to release?

Why Is Victim Blaming Still Normalised?

People asking:

“What were you wearing?”
“Why didn’t you leave?”
“Were you drinking?”

These aren’t questions.
They are forms of violence commonly disguised as curiosity.

Victim blaming teaches survivors and victims to stay silent, not because they are weak from what they’ve been through but because they fear being judged.

SILENCE PROTECTS PERPETRATORS

We need to change the harmful narrative:
💜 Believe survivors
💚 Support without interrogation
💜 Hold perpetrators accountable

💬 Say: “I believe survivors” down below if you agree!

🌿 The 5 Stages of Grief — Not Just for Loss, But for Life Itself

Sometimes, we grieve the life we thought we’d have.
The person we used to be.
The expectations we didn’t meet.
And that’s okay — it’s all part of living imperfectly perfect. 💔✨

1️⃣ Denial:
“This can’t be my life.”
You keep moving, pretending everything’s fine. But inside, your soul whispers for change.

2️⃣ Anger:
“Why me?”
You get frustrated with yourself, with others, with the world — because it feels unfair.

3️⃣ Bargaining:
“If I just try harder… maybe things will go back to how they were.”
You cling to control, when what you really need is surrender.

4️⃣ Depression:
You stop fighting.
The weight of what’s gone, what’s changed, what didn’t happen — it hits you.
And you finally feel.

5️⃣ Acceptance:
You breathe again.
You realize healing doesn’t mean forgetting — it means learning to love yourself through it all. 🌱

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
Every stage is a step closer to peace, and every version of you is worthy of love. 💫

👉 If you’re grieving change, healing from loss, or learning to love your imperfect self — you’re not alone.
Keep going. You’re exactly where you need to be. 💖



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