She Can Shine

If the word midlife resonates with you at all, whether you’re at the soft edges, in the messy middle or emerging with uncertainty for what’s next, I’ve got a gift 🎁 your going to love ❤️

It a 7 day midlife rest - comment midlife and I’ll send it over to you. I think 🤔 you’ll be glad you did ❤️‍🩹

Unlearning ‘good girl’ conditioning is a hard and liberating path.

Once you shift your awareness to all the conditioned-ness - the responses, behaviours, dynamics of friendships and loved ones, you can’t unsee them.

They’re all interwoven with who we believe we should be.

It means disappointing people. Setting boundaries.

Saying no and putting you first.

Loving yourself. Healing ❤️‍🩹

If you’re curious to know more about unlearning, comment midlife to begin✨

When you’re overwhelmed, your nervous system is dysregulated. Here are 3 tools I use:

1. Box breathing: Inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 4, hold 4. Repeat.

2. Grounding: Name 5 things you can see, 4 you can touch, 3 you can hear, 2 you can smell, 1 you can taste.

3. EFT tapping: Tap the side of your hand and the top of your head and say, ‘Even though I feel overwhelmed, I deeply accept myself.’

These three tools have saved me on my hardest days.

Your nervous system is trying to keep you safe.

When you give it what it needs (safety, regulation, grounding, presence), everything shifts.

Try one today and let me know how it feels. 💫

You just do. You’re here, living, and you’re not too much. You’re delightfully more than enough (that ‘not enough’ sentiment never made sense to me anyway (who says, what is enough…!!) 🤔

You’re beautiful. You matter. You’re allowed to not have it all figured out. To fall apart and realign. To change and let go. To make mistakes. To smile, to laugh, to gain weight, loose weight, get wrinkles, cry, rest, scream into a pillow when it all feels too much. 😱

You’re human and you are loved. Allow it all my love, even the messiest parts of you. 🥰

📱Choosing more sleep over more scrolling.

😔 Not saying sorry for sharing your opinion or taking up space.

📧 Do the small task you’ve been putting off if it’ll take you less than 10 minutes.

🍽️ Eat each meal mindfully and properly. Set the table with a glass of water.

💭 Clarify your own thoughts before asking for others’ opinions.

📔 Pause, check your diary and respond when you’re ready. Don’t react with a yes in the moment.

✋ No is a complete sentence, and you don’t need to justify your no.

📱 Build a better relationship with your phone. Be intentional with it. Pick it up for a purpose, not a domapine hit.