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Janette D Miller Coaching & Wellbeing Identity & Self Worth Transformation Coach | Supporting high-achieving solo Mums to feel safe, seen and worthy again.

Today marks the start of a brand new chapter 🩷I’ve moved into my new home, but this move is about so much more than chan...
01/07/2026

Today marks the start of a brand new chapter 🩷

I’ve moved into my new home, but this move is about so much more than changing my address.

For the first time in my life, I’ll be living alone. Im officially an empty-nester at 53 😲 what the!

I’ve been a mum for 30 years, and after raising my youngest son as a single mum, this next chapter will take some getting used to. I’ll be honest, I’m feeling super excited and emotional all at the same time.

Over the coming months I’ll be sharing more of this journey. The reality of starting over in your 50s, creating a home that feels like me, exploring my new local area, discovering beautiful walks in nature and of course, continuing the conversations around self worth, confidence and identity that are at the heart of everything I do, with the occasional style advice thrown in because why not 😜

Thank you for being here. I’m looking forward to taking you with me.

Now… I’d better start unpacking these boxes! 💕📦

I swapped my walking shoes and leggings for heels and a skirt this morning, to attend SUCCESSFUL MUMS CAREER ACADEMY eve...
15/06/2026

I swapped my walking shoes and leggings for heels and a skirt this morning, to attend SUCCESSFUL MUMS CAREER ACADEMY event by Jane Knight, with Gemma from Gemma & Bertie and Donna from DonnaMayLondon . All 3 women shared their expertise and it was fun to be Gemma’s volunteer to show the women the difference to our outfits when we tuck our tops in!

Well done Jane for a great event! 👏🏽

Can I just give a moment to my skirt please! DO NOT sleep on Primark Edit! It could easily be from Zara or even Mint Velvet. I felt fabulous in it and received so many compliments 🫶🏽

I’ll share the link in my stories

Sunday mornings used to either be having a lie in after a night out, or making breakfast with one eye open for a demandi...
07/06/2026

Sunday mornings used to either be having a lie in after a night out, or making breakfast with one eye open for a demanding toddler and now for the past 18 months I lead a group of women for a walk in our local woods!

I spent decades worrying about what I was wearing…even as personal stylist, how I showed up and what everyone thought of me. Now getting outside for a wellness walk before I start my day, is my priority and it’s so lovely to see other women giving themselves permission to go out for a walk too.

This is your reminder to give yourself permission to make space in your day for yourself too 💕

To the woman who’s forgotten who she is, not because she’s weak, but because life has slowly eroded her sense of self th...
07/03/2026

To the woman who’s forgotten who she is, not because she’s weak, but because life has slowly eroded her sense of self through over-giving, people-pleasing, and years of trying to be everything to everyone else.

She’s lived in survival mode for so long that she no longer knows what safety or self-trust feel like in her body.

You’re not alone.
I see you. I’ve got you.

I’ve been talking a lot about confidence this week and how it’s not just a mental state, but a physiological one. The me...
06/03/2026

I’ve been talking a lot about confidence this week and how it’s not just a mental state, but a physiological one. The messages I’ve received tell me this has really resonated with many of you.

A few women have said that they don’t feel as confident as they used to, and others have said that confidence is a real struggle at the moment.

When your nervous system doesn’t feel safe to be seen, heard or take up space, confidence is naturally going to feel difficult.

And this is where self worth comes in.

If deep down you don’t feel good enough, your body will often keep you small, quiet, and second guessing yourself. Not because you’re weak, but because your nervous system is simply trying to protect you.

Real confidence grows when your body starts to feel safer being you. When that happens, you stop pushing yourself to appear confident and start trusting yourself a little more instead.

And that’s where things begin to change.

If you’re recognising yourself in this and wondering how to move forward, feel free to message me and we can have a chat about how I can support you 🩷

“Confidence isn’t worn.It’s felt.”When I worked as a Personal Stylist, my principles were based on helping my clients to...
05/03/2026

“Confidence isn’t worn.
It’s felt.”

When I worked as a Personal Stylist, my principles were based on helping my clients to feel confident by making the right style choices.

While it worked for the majority of my clients, I found myself wondering why it didn’t always work for me. I was preaching it and helping them, but I felt like a fraud because I didn’t achieve the same level of confidence as they did.

I began to realise that there was something deeper beyond the surface level styling advice to feel confident, but I didn’t know what it was.

It wasn’t until last year when I embarked on my journey to become a Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach and Leader that the penny dropped. Learning about the complexities of the human body was the missing piece that I was looking for.

I didn’t set out to learn about trauma, but you can’t understand how one person can feel more confident than someone else, without learning about the nervous system and you can’t understand the nervous system without understanding trauma.

It’s then when I discovered that confidence is felt. It isn’t just a mental state, it’s a physiological state that’s deeply linked to a nervous system that feels safe.

You can repeat affirmations all day until you’re blue in the face and buy a whole new wardrobe, but if your stomach clenches and your chest tightens at the thought of doing anything that you believe confidence is the solution, you’ll be stuck for a long time.

While I no longer work as a Personal Stylist, I do include wardrobe styling in my Transformation Coaching package just before we finish our time together. This way, you’ll not only feel confident to be seen, but you’ll have a wardrobe that works with your nervous system, not against it.

If this resonates with you, get in touch and we can explore the different ways that I can help you ☕️

Nothing to see here, just a Transformation Coach showing up for her clients the way she tells them to show up for themse...
04/03/2026

Nothing to see here, just a Transformation Coach showing up for her clients the way she tells them to show up for themselves.

I help my clients to feel seen, but I haven’t been modelling the same behaviour lately 🙈

I completely understand this because there was a time when I didn’t want to be seen online at all.

While all the online coaches were saying:
“You need to show up”
“You have to be visible”
“Just press record”
Ugh! It was less painful to pull out my eyelashes out one by one 😭

Your mind says “I’m going to start on Monday” and your nervous system says “I don’t think so!”

Having done the work myself, I soon found a beautiful place on the other side of the fear.

A me that no longer has a fear of being seen. An embodied truth that I am enough. Of course I can have a wobble sometimes, but I listen to my body and know that it’s just my nervous system doing its job and keeping me safe.

When we work together, we uncover the blocks that are holding you back by recognising the parts that are protecting you. You’ll see that there’s nothing wrong with you and that you just didn’t understand what was happening with your body and nervous system.

So instead of forcing confidence or pushing through the fear, we slow it down and work with your nervous system, not against it.

That hesitation, the camera fear, the pulling back? It is not a flaw. It is protection.

When your body feels safe, visibility stops feeling like a threat and starts feeling like a choice.

If this resonates, tell me where you feel it most.

Camera fear, speaking up, or being seen in your work?

You don’t need more confidence.You need to feel safe being seen.So many women tell themselves they just need to be brave...
04/03/2026

You don’t need more confidence.
You need to feel safe being seen.

So many women tell themselves they just need to be braver, louder, more confident, more polished. But if your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, no amount of mindset work or “just do it” advice will stick.

When you focus on safety first, confidence becomes a natural by-product. Showing up stops feeling like pressure and starts feeling like choice.

If being seen still feels uncomfortable for you, there is nothing wrong with you. Your body is doing its job.

03/03/2026

I don’t wear pink from head to toe anymore and here’s why ⬇️

I love pink, it’s my favourite colour to wear, but when I was asked recently why I don’t wear it as much, it got me thinking!🤔

While the fact that I got rid of most of my pink clothes and that there wasn’t as much pink in the shops during 2024/5 are true, the real reason is that I don’t need to be seen in it.

Wearing pink increased my confidence tenfold, but I no longer reach for my pink clothes to give me a boost in that way.

It opened doors that I didn’t believe I could walk through, I showed up in ways that my 13 year old self could ever imagine. It gave me validation, but I don’t need validating anymore.

I’m me with or without a signature colour.

If you’re struggling with visibility whether that’s in your business or in your social circles, find something that always gives you a confidence boost and stick to it. Rinse and repeat the hell out of it until you don’t rely on it anymore.

I wear pink because I love it, but I’m also confident now without it. 🩷

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