Coaching With Biran

A moment to remember and be appreciative of 🙏🏼🧡🥰

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘄𝗲 𝗿𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗰𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲: 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘁.

Not jumping in with the clever reframe.
Not needing to name every insight.
Not rushing to close the session with a perfect takeaway.

Restraint isn’t passive. It’s powerful.
It lets the client’s voice take the lead.

As July comes to a close, I’m asking:
What have I not said this month that created more space for my clients?

What about you? When has holding back been the boldest move in your coaching?

One powerful theme emerged in our recent Coach Café circle:

"𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘥 𝘷𝘴. 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴."

Coaches often do both, but when we lean too much into ‘responding,’ we start leading instead of following.

What helps you stay in the witness seat?

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By the way, if you're wondering what Coach Café is, you can check my website or just DM me and I can send you the information.

𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘴 𝘥𝘰 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵 10 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯:

1. They slow down, not rush to wrap up.
2. They focus on what the client is learning about themselves, not just what they are going to do.
3. They name shifts they’ve witnessed.

The closing of a session is sacred ground.

What’s one thing you do with intention at the end of a coaching conversation?

𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘀𝗮𝘆… 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴?

“Hold the agenda lightly.”
“Trust the emergence.”
“Be in the not-knowing.”
“Co-create the field.”

Sounds spiritual and wise.
Feels confusing.
Means what, exactly?

Sometimes I read coaching posts and think: Would any actual client understand this?

Sometimes I don’t even understand it, and I train coaches.

Language should open doors, not create echo chambers.

We say we want coaching to be more accessible, but then wrap it in words only coaches understand.

What’s one coaching phrase you’ve used… and then cringed at later?

Let’s name the fluff.

(...and yes, I'm a very pragmatic coach who brings a transpersonal approach to coaching - aha! another one "transpersonal")

“We coach the human, not the problem.”

When I heard this for the first time, it shifted something in me.

It's a reminder that our clients bring more than goals—they bring their stories, fears, identities, and longings.

Good coaching isn't about ‘solving problems.’ It's about "seeing".

💬 What does this quote / visual stir up for you?

𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗗𝗶𝗹𝗲𝗺𝗺𝗮: Your client suddenly goes quiet and seems dissociated. What’s your move?

This comes up in supervision quite often.

Do you stay silent, name it, or gently redirect?

Drop your thoughts in the comments ⬇️