18/09/2026
🚫 FEAR MYTH FRIDAY
MYTH: “Everyone else seems fine with spiders. What’s wrong with me?”
REALITY: A lot more people are afraid of spiders than you might think.
When everyone around you appears completely unfazed, an intense fear of spiders can feel strangely isolating.
But spider fear is remarkably common. In one UK survey, 21% of Britons said they experienced arachnophobia, and even more reported some degree of fear around spiders.
So why can it feel as though you're the only one?
Because fear often happens privately.
Other people don't necessarily see the bedroom you won't sleep in, the window you won't open, the shed you avoid, or the evenings spent checking walls and ceilings.
And when people respond with “It's tiny!” or “Just get over it!”, embarrassment can become part of the fear itself.
That matters.
Shame can encourage secrecy.
Secrecy can encourage avoidance.
And avoidance can keep fear going.
So try changing the question.
Instead of:
“Why can't I be normal?”
Try:
“My nervous system has learned to treat spiders as a threat — and learned responses can change.”
Having a phobia doesn't tell us anything about how brave, capable or rational you are in the rest of your life.
It tells us that your brain has learned a very powerful association.
And what has been learned can be challenged with new experiences.
If spider fear affects your choices, your home or your peace of mind, what's one seemingly small thing it causes you to avoid?
Share below if you feel comfortable. ❤️