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Day 43 of 365…

I made pancakes for lunch… and yes, I know that pancake day is tomorrow, but why wait??!

How often do you find yourself postponing the thing you want to do because it’s not the right time, you’re waiting for something to happen or someone to “give you permission”?!

How often are we postponing joy because of some external reason filling our heads with shoulds, ought to’s and obligations?!!? It’s the perfect recipe to kill your creativity!!

So, stop waiting for the right time to do what you love. Get into the habit of acting on that inspiration and building up that creative power!!!

How this looks is up to you but give it a try this week and see what happens… I’m gonna do the same… I’ll let you know how it goes.

x o

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Day 40 of 365…

Thanks 🙌🏾

I needed to hear this today.

Time to kick it up a gear!! How about you???

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Day 38 of 365…

Do the thing!! Even if you…

…don’t have it all figured out / it’s not cool / you’re scared it won’t work out / you’re scared it will work out / you have to go alone / no one gets it / you’re tired / you’re broke / you feel broken…

DO THE THING!!

Results require action and that starts with you!

So, you ready??? I’m ready!!

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Day 37 of 365…

All of the above!!

Day 34 of 365…

Learning to stand up for my art taught me how to stand up for myself!!

Ngl, I’ve been a push over, someone who prides themselves on being “easy going” and “cool with it” as my philosophy has been very much about avoiding rocking the boat.

I’ve found myself saying “what’s the use in getting mad, it’s already happened” as a way to zen myself out of having to have an awkward conversation or a stern word.

But, all that did was keep the pain and discomfort inside of me and denied me the chance to have my needs met and my feeling honoured.

I felt trapped, depressed, divorced from self trust and found myself in unhappy places, relationships and situations.

That all started to shift when I reconnected with my creativity- my music.

I discovered my voice, I discovered my wants and needs, I remembered that my time is precious and not for wasting, I remembered that I know things and I can create things. I discovered that I am the most powerful force in my life and I discovered I wanted to explore this.

The values I brought to my art practice helped me create confidence in myself and my boundaries in my life.

So now, this girl won’t go back in the box!

If you’re finding yourself trapped in people pleasing mode, go do that thing you love, right now- for 10 minutes and rebuild that bridge to that fearless girl inside!!

Let me know if this resonates!

xo

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Day 29 of 365…

I’m learning to believe in myself…

Sharing this because I know that someone out there will need to hear this…

If you can dream it, you can do it!!
Don’t wait for it to be perfect, stop worrying about getting it wrong, stop obsessing thst someone else is better at it than you…

…the only way you can find your way is by taking those steps! And because it’s YOUR way, ain’t nobody out there that can tell you is should be any different!!

Art is evolution. Embrace knowing that what you make today will be superseded by what you will be able to make tomorrow.

You feeling me??




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Day 27 of 365…

If there was no wrong answer, no wrong choice… what would you choose to do next??

The answer that comes to you is exactly what you should do!!

X o

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Day 26 of 365…

I’m celebrating choosing ME!!

Not too long ago I felt trapped. I was working at a place that demanded a lot; bandwidth, energy, justification…
And gave very little in terms of pay, satisfaction, development, peace.

I found myself often racialised either in the forms of wild exoticism or being the easy target for harassment and bullying. I’m no thin skinned wall violet but eventually that s**t wears you down.

The gaslighting, the intimidation, the volatility of my day to day experience of this hellacious place gave me terrible anxiety, made me question my reality and I became accustomed to being treated poorly- tbf, this was common in many work environments for me as a black woman.

But this place took it to the next level. It got so bad, so painful, so isolating I did something I had never ever done before…

I chose me. I walked out.

I was told by my then boss; “it’s not going to be any better anywhere else!” - which I can see now was a projection of her own fears.

Pleased to say, I’ve never looked back!!

It took the last shards of strength and courage I had but took that leap and I chose me!! Everything beyond that was uncharted territory…

But I chose my happiness, I chose respect, I chose self love and I chose not to believe her when she tried to trap me with fear.

Now I get to do more of what I love, with incredible people, in beautiful places whist being respected. Game changed!!

When you let go of what is not for you, you make space for what truly is for you:- be it jobs, friends, family. Connecting with my creativity was a huge part of me understanding this process!!

If it doesn’t bring joy, let it go and go be happy elsewhere.

If this resonates, let me know in the comments. Ad if you’re stuck in a s**tty situation right now, know that it is not permanent. Try to find ways, each day, to choose you- even if it’s a small and simple action, it matters!!

x o



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Day 21 of 365…

Today I was thinking about boundaries… they are important!! Knowing where you need to draw the line when it comes to your availability, your energy, your attention is key!!
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Being endlessly available to everyone and everything isn’t sustainable!


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Day 20 of 365…

I’ve been doing a lot of reflection lately, thinking back in the year gone but also looking forward to see how what I know now can help me grow into the person I want to be tomorrow…

One thing thst has come to the fore is that feeling of contentment which is an odd feeling for someone who is recovering from self destructive people pleasing tendencies.

Contentment for me, now, in this moment, is the knowledge that I am enough. That external factors or prizes don’t define me. The knowledge that I can make my own happiness, rewards, success - I just need to show up as me, for me.

Contentment is no longer striving for the next thing in order to know happiness but rather taking a minute to recognise that everything I have right now, was once a hope, a dream…

When we yearn for tomorrow, we forget to celebrate today…

Day 17 of 365…

Remind yourself who TF you are!!

…more on this soon!! Stay tuned if you’re feeling like all the stuff you love about yourself is currently in past tense!!!

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Day 16…

Sometimes, you show up when you really don’t want to!

I didn’t know what to post - mainly because I was thinking about posting something that people would “like”. And then because I couldn’t think of anything to post, I then didn’t want to post…

But that got me thinking about when I feel blocked in my creative practice- and that’s usually because I’m creating for a feeling outside of myself- a feeling that what I’m making “has to be something!!”

But the fun of creativity is that we don’t know what it’s going to be until we do it, and we gotta do it for us!!