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Umm Khaleel’s Class I Empower Families through Psychology and Faith. Author | Parent Educator | Child Educator
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23/09/2026

Open to learning !
Please share your thoughts.

22/09/2026

Let me tell you what is real. Peer pressure, FOMO, the desire to belong. These are real phenomena and these could easily suck children in if they do not know who they are and the values they stand for.

In creating some of my posts, I do not bring ideas from myself alone, I ask my children who are my biggest inspirations behind my work. So last night I randomly asked my daughter what she would do if her friend offered her a v**e! (I wish her recorded her shock at the question. Girl was like what ??!😂, so I had to clarify that I needed a child’s POV).

With her response plus from my experience, I have curated a few things your child should say or do if offered something haram.

- Say no. Simple. And let your no be no. Don’t dilly dally. Be firm.
- My daughter said if it was her friend, she would try to talk her out of it. If she insists, however, she will withdraw from her. As their friendship can never be the same again.
- Walk away from that environment
- Re-evaluate your relationship with that person.
- Always remember who you are and the values you uphold.
- Remember that what is haram is haram, no matter how popular it is.
- Remember that majority participation in a vice does not make it a virtue.
- Be okay with being excluded.
- Tell someone.

What would you add?

Don’t forget to share with your child and with a parent who would benefit from this post.

Feels just like yesterday when we started, and tomorrow bi iznillah, we will be having our fourth candid conversation. T...
21/09/2026

Feels just like yesterday when we started, and tomorrow bi iznillah, we will be having our fourth candid conversation.

This topic was one borne out of contemporary societal issues. How distinct have we made ourselves as Muslims ? How much are we bending ? How much are we participating in things just because they are popular ?

In sha Allah, make it a date with Samira Abdulrahman and I tomorrow at 7 pm where we dissect this topic.

Let’s have candid conversations shall we?

21/09/2026

I caught the children as they headed out to madrasah to give me things they are grateful for today.

Initially, I was writing them down and then decided to do a quick video hehe. Enjoy. Tiny baby took too long to get ready and they had to leave. I’ll add hers in the comment section later. In sha Allah

Jollof gan gan is what Khaleel is most grateful for today😂.

What are your children grateful for today?

21/09/2026

I’ll share responses from my children in the evening in sha Allah

Share yours and tag me too!

21/09/2026

Most people preach being friends with your kids but you need to know where to draw the line between friendship and parenting.

Immediately your child can move around, parents need to shift from mere caregiving and comforting to a hierarchy of protective dominance where you are the authority. Parents can foresee dangers that children cannot, but the desire to explore is what creates the conflict between safety and exploration.

To manage this, parents need to learn effective communication and negotiation skills. See, your kids are not your mate, Don’t expect them to up and understand. You have to communicate. Though as a toddler, their verbal skills may be limited so use non verbal negotiations to disarm them.

For much older children, You need to let your children know that while you are keen on sharing fun memories and experiences together, it is upon your shoulders that Allah has placed parental responsibility and that you may make decisions that will not align with their preferences.

To effectively achieve this, you need to respect your children enough so they could trust you, listen to them and don’t dismiss their feelings. Also spend quality time with them to foster this relationship. Guide them and explain rationally some of the decisions you make concerning them. This will help them understand your perspective too and not be rebellious.

When my daughter asked me to attend one school activity, I didn’t just tell her no, I explained that I had already committed to a school tour for her brother around the same time and taken time off work for that. And then I told her to remember all the times when I never missed any of their school activities. I ended with a promise that I may not be able to attend all their activities but we would together choose the very important ones I should attend. What I did here was respect her enough to offer an explanation, comfort her with a promise, reassure her with history and communicate with her to foster trust and connection.

How do you manage being friends with your children and also parenting them?

Over to you parents, you could also ask your children what they would do in this scenario and what their assessment woul...
15/09/2026

Over to you parents, you could also ask your children what they would do in this scenario and what their assessment would be.

When you hear tawakkul and ihsan, what comes to mind?And when you pause to reflect on how we, as a people, actually put ...
14/09/2026

When you hear tawakkul and ihsan, what comes to mind?

And when you pause to reflect on how we, as a people, actually put these concepts into practice, what do you notice?

It’s another week and another opportunity for a candid conversation!

Join Samira and I tomorrow, Tuesday 15th September, for another thought-provoking conversation as we explore these ideas and what they look like in our everyday lives.

We are looking forward to seeing you there and having a meaningful conversation together.

Set your reminder, mark your diary, and call a friend to call a friend. We’ll see you tomorrow, in sha Allah!

14/09/2026

Show up for your children in the way they want to receive it.

May Allah bless all children and protect them. Amin.

14/09/2026

Allahuma Ameen.

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