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28/11/2023

'You've just got to be more positive!'

How many times have you heard or read that statement?

But what if you simply don't feel positive? What then? What if you actually feel so not positive that everything just seems too hard?

Can you really just be more positive?

‘You’ve just got to be more positive!’ How many times have you heard or read that statement? But what if you simply don’t feel positive? What then? What if you actually feel so not positive that everything just seems too hard? Can you really just be more positive? What does it mean to be mor...

28/11/2023

We often think of it as a negative thing we need to overcome, but what if I told you that you can actually use self-doubt to your advantage?

https://www.wewalkbarefoot.com/how-to-use-self-doubt-to-your-advantage/

Show me a person who claims never to suffer from self-doubt and I will show you a liar that will give Pinocchio a run for his money.  Everybody suffers from self-doubt in some way, shape or form at some time, and it is a double-edged sword which can both help and hinder us. Do I ...

21/11/2023

We are the dough and life is the baker. The baker (life) wants us to be the best we can be, so the baker throws in some ingredients (experiences), then gets to work on the development and production. This doesn't involve a gentle stirring of said ingredients, but an all-in, get-right-in-there kneading of them all. Some ingredients are subtle and barely there, others are overwhelmingly present. It all needs working at and balancing out. Less flour? More water? A tiny bit of sugar to help the yeast along?

And you know what else the dough needs that is vital to its health and growth? The thing that brings the best, hottest, most fantastic end product to the table?

Rest.

Before dough can rise it needs to rest.

TODAY I WILL BE DOUGH.

Does anyone else want to be dough with me today? What do you like doing on your dough days? Leave me a comment, come join our tribe on Facebook or drop me an email and let me know.

Let's dough it....

Dr B told me to do something nice for myself every day. He told me to do something that made me happy. He told me this. The problem is, I simply don’t feel happy. Nothing makes me happy right now. What even is ‘happy’ anyway? How can I make myself happy? Everything costs money and ...

20/11/2023

Wake up, drink coffee, shower, dress, go to work, go to the gym, smile at people, repeat the phrase, ‘I’m fine! How are you?’ several times throughout the day, go home, go to bed, feel broken, try to sleep and get ready to repeat it all the next day.

Work pressure, home pressure, personal pressure…. pressure, pressure, pressure…

And.

It.

Never.

Seems.

To.

End.

It’s the little things that push your mental health over the edge

https://www.wewalkbarefoot.com/the-silent-struggle-of-mental-health-im-not-okay/

I haven’t decided what this post is going to be called. Hell, I don’t even know what it’s going to be about yet. Something about mental health in some way, because the truth is, I’m struggling. My head is in a spin. Nothing makes sense. I’ve got thoughts and conversations and so much crap ...

18/11/2023

Today I feel vulnerable and sad. I debated going public because when you’re supposed to help others feel better you can’t admit you struggle yourself, right? No. That’s wrong. I help others better purely because I do admit when I struggle. I am human. Ordinary. I feel the pressures of life. I struggle. And it’s okay to admit that. It’s been a long, hard week and one I’ve found extremely difficult to get through. It’s been yet another one of those mornings where I didn’t want to leave the snug, comforting safety of my bed. What I wanted was to cry into my pillows yet again but I only changed the tear stained bedding yesterday and the thought of wrestling another king-size duvet set didn’t appeal. Instead I forced myself to get dressed, to put on my make-up, and to get my gym gear straight on with the intention of trying to work out my angst and emotions yet again. I’ve been inflicting this cycle of trying to exhaust myself so I can sleep, but sleep still evades me and I am becoming increasingly tired, anxious and battle-worn. This made a detour to my local and picked up a book that cried out to me today. - I did buy myself roses yesterday but I might go and get the fu***ng lilies too, because why not? Today and for now, I need to be gentle with myself, to rebuild and nurture myself. It’s starting with a coffee, a book, and at some point, another good ugly-cry. How do you deal with those soul-destroyingly difficult times in your life? Hugs, experiences and words of wisdom or comfort gratefully accepted right now

16/11/2023

Most of us just want to be happy, right? But what does being happy actually mean? Is it something we do, something we become or something we achieve? And how does smiling make you happy, even if the smile isn’t real?

https://www.wewalkbarefoot.com/how-does-smiling-make-you-happy-even-if-you-dont-mean-it/

Most of us just want to be happy, right? But what does being happy actually mean? Is it something we do, something we become or something we achieve? And how does smiling make you happy, even if the smile isn’t real? Whatever it is, there are those days we just feel downright, nothing-anyone-can-s...

16/11/2023

If somebody is making you question your own worth, they are the ones who are unworthy of you. You are already good enough. Don’t waste time with anyone who isn’t 100% and without-a-doubt certain they want to be with you. You deserved to be loved and cared for, for exactly who you are

14/11/2023

If you knew it would succeed, what would you do?

12/11/2023

When I was a child I looked forward to being a grown-up so I could stay up as late as I wanted. Now that I’m a grown-up I love being in bed by 9pm with a pot of herbal tea and a good book! What are your simple pleasures?

09/11/2023

We all allow our pasts to affect our future in some way. Right now, we are in the present and this is the time to change our own future. How? By letting go of the stories, the incidences, the words and actions by others and towards ourselves, that made us think we can’t and won’t and will never be what we desire. That’s all gone. It’s the past. It’s insignificant and it t can’t touch you now. Let go. The future is another story. Dream big and don’t be afraid to have high hopes. Then it’s time for action. Set goals and make a plan to reach them. Start small today. Make a goal for something, anything, that will prove you have the power to take back control over your life and your destiny. Make a goal to read five pages of a book you wanted to start but haven’t, to meditate for five minutes every day, to make your bed for the next week, to take a walk in nature at least once a day, to eat with your body’s nutrition in mind for today…. One single goal for today is all you need to begin. What will your goal be today? Need support? Visit We Walk Barefoot and join our tribe today

07/11/2023

Perhaps Epictetus was onto something when asked his opinion on the best revenge. Here's why self-improvement means revenge can be oh-so sweet - without being illegal!

https://www.wewalkbarefoot.com/why-self-development-is-the-best-revenge/

07/11/2023

The advice we hear when someone has wronged us covers both options. Option 1, we are told to forgive. That forgiving someone for doing is wrong is better for us. It stops us ruminating, preventing hatred from seeping into our very being and rotting our souls. Option 2 reassures is that revenge is sweet. As a Scorpio, I must admit that I veer towards this one more which, I hasten to add, is not the same as saying I put those words into action (not frequently, at least). These words from Epictetus are the ones I hold close to me when feelings arising from past events threaten to take over. My revenge might be what my abusive ex expects of me. Definitely, my tears, my pushback, my attempt to battle him, as I always had done, which only served to feed his sense of superiority and power, and strengthen his strangulating hold over me. Epictetus was so right; the one thing he simply cannot cope with is my acceptance. Not the forgiveness of what he did to me or of everything that happened, but of acceptance that it did. In accepting, the rope that bound me slackened, giving me that little gap I needed to to free myself and begin to rebuild. With every step I became a little stronger, a little more confidence, nurturing that tiny ember of power deep within my soul. And as I grew and my ex’s grip slipped, his resentment and disdain of me increased, because how DARE I no longer succumb to his control. Forgiveness is not the same as acceptance. Revenge is sweet, but revenge doesn’t need to be a direct detriment actioned upon others. The best revenge on those that wish us bad is loving ourselves even more

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