20/08/2026
The Lone Wolf Lie (+ more)đ
Surface level change never lasts
If you really want to change for good, you have to get to the ROOTS
Most of the time we tell ourselves stories that are half true
Or even completely untrue
And as long as we allow those narratives to go on in our minds unchecked
They manifest into patterns of pain and suffering
Take for example, The Lone Wolf
The one that says âpeople donât understand meâ
Who says âIâm an outsiderâ
Most of the time the real story is something that sounds more like ârelationships are so painful and stressful that I would rather not deal with the consequences of human Connectionâ
Now every story we tell ourselves has a benefit and a function that serves some positive purpose
But like Allah says in the Quran â â the harm outweighs the goodâ â [2:219]
Yes, this verse is about gambling and intoxication, but it can also apply to coping strategies that are completely halal
The avoidance of human Connection does provide an element of simplicity in oneâs life
But it also sacrifices some of the most beautiful things life has to offer
And eventually, the loneliness and isolation lead to addiction, escapism, uneven more suffering than that which was experienced in relationship
The avoidance of pain ultimately leads to even greater pain
And that is why the truth matters
And the example of the Lone Wolf â it might seem righteous or cool from the outside
But most often it is just the avoidance of pain
Not to say chapters of solitude arenât important
There is a season for everything
But when it becomes an identity, this is where things start to turn putrid
I say this as I notice my nafs telling me to F everyone and run away
All the while, I know this is being generated by pain, grief and disappointment
And if I allow that pain to lead me, I know it wonât end well
For actions are but by intentions
Comment âWOLFâ if you want to hear how I went from addicted, depressed and lonely â to running a successful life coaching business, transforming lives every day
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