14/06/2023
The conversation goes a little like this…
Me - “How are you preparing for your birth”
Pregnant Mama - ‘“I’m just gonna go with the flow”
But whose ‘flow’ would that centre?
Going with the flow encourages women to not get too focused on their individual birth outcome, to be flexible and ‘open’ to changeable birth outcomes.
🤔 I mean we all know birth is sometimes unpredictable right? And more often very predictable!
Our ancestors could readily “go with the flow” because literally that’s all that was available to them. They’d have a vague idea of their due date, then on the day of labour would work with their body and give birth.
Modern Mamas have a very different experience. Testing, scans, measurements and numerous appointments prime women to almost feel like passengers in their own body!
Modern maternity focuses on timelines and due dates as if they are an absolute and when babies don’t behave and be born when predicted, there’s pressure to induce.
Whose flow is that?
I’ve witnessed countless families being steered into making choices ahead of birth, or on the day itself that serves the hospital protocol and not themselves.
Whose flow is that?
Where in life would one prepare and get into the mindset of a desired outcome by being totally open to it not happening?!
Do athletes do this? Did anyone recall Beyoncé on preparing for a mega world tour repeating the mantra of “er well I should be able to nail this, but something might go wrong” HELL NO!
Let’s change this narrative!
- Get super clear about how you intend to birth!
- Understand potential saboteurs that can derail your plan ahead of time (there are numerous!)
- Stay focused on your aim, understanding that birth is SOMETIMES unpredictable.
- Make sure your birth team are singing from YOUR hymn sheet.
Are you planning your birth? I’m running weekly meet-ups and my Birth prep workshops start July 8th at Lark Lane community hall. DM for all the details!
