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18/10/2026

💜 WORLD MENOPAUSE DAY | 18 OCTOBER 2026 💜

✨ AWARENESS IS IMPORTANT. BUT UNDERSTANDING CHANGES LIVES. ✨

💜 MENOPAUSE-INFORMED CONFERENCE 2027

📅 27–28 February 2027

📍 Arden Hotel, Birmingham

Hosted by UK Women in Hypnosis & NLP.

Two days, 10 expert guest speakers and a wealth of knowledge, insights and experiences to explore!

💜 WHAT’S ON THE PROGRAMME?

🧠 Brain health, memory and cognitive changes

🌙 Sleep, fatigue and recovery

💜 Trauma resurgence and nervous system regulation

🌸 Sexual wellbeing and intimacy

🔎 Unusual and often overlooked menopause symptoms

🧬 Hormonal health and hormone testing

🥗 Nutrition, weight changes and positive eating habits

🧘‍♀️ Yoga, relaxation and mindful movement

💪 Strength, exercise and physical wellbeing

💼 Menopause-informed approaches to supporting others

✨ AND THERE’S SO MUCH MORE TO ENJOY!

Your two-day conference experience includes:

🎤 10 expert guest speakers

💬 Interactive discussions, panels and Q&A sessions

🥗 Lunch and refreshments

🧘‍♀️ Yoga and relaxation

😂 Comedy and Saturday evening entertainment

🤝 Opportunities to connect, share experiences and make new connections

🏅 Certificate of completion

💜 WHO IS THE CONFERENCE FOR?

Women and men who want to deepen their understanding of menopause, whether for themselves, their relationships, their loved ones or the people they support professionally.

Whether you’re navigating menopause yourself, seeking to better understand someone who is, or working in healthcare, coaching, therapy or wellbeing, this conference offers an opportunity to gain knowledge, explore different perspectives and become a more informed advocate for yourself and others.

💜 This special conference is also being held in loving memory of Leigh Campbell.

✨ READY TO JOIN US?

Places are limited to just 80 delegates, with flexible payment options available.

Discover the full programme, explore the speakers and their subjects, find out what’s included and BOOK YOUR PLACE!

🔗 https://uk-women-in-hypnosis-conference.co.uk/events/

THE WHOLE WOMAN. NOT JUST HER HORMONES. 💜

16/10/2026

💜 WORLD MENOPAUSE DAY | PART 5 💜

✨ FROM SURVIVING TO THRIVING ✨

Knowledge. Support. Choices. A brighter future.

Over the past four days, we’ve explored the symptoms nobody warned us about, the unseen struggles, the enormous pressures and the sometimes devastating impact of past trauma.

But awareness alone isn’t enough.

Because once we understand what might be happening, the next question is:

WHAT CAN WE ACTUALLY DO ABOUT IT?

The answer isn’t another exhausting list of things women SHOULD be doing.

It’s about practical choices, appropriate support and changes that work in real life.

💜 SLEEP | REST TO RESTORE

Get outside into natural daylight early in the morning and again in the afternoon.

As evening approaches, switch to softer, low-level lighting and avoid bright overhead lights.

Keep your bedroom cool and dark, with consistent sleep and waking times. Reduce caffeine later in the day.

Magnesium glycinate may be worth discussing with a healthcare professional, although evidence for improving sleep remains limited.

And if disrupted sleep is becoming your normal, seek support. Exhaustion shouldn’t be something you simply have to endure.

💜 FOOD | NOURISH TO SUPPORT

Prioritise adequate protein, colourful vegetables, fibre, calcium and vitamin D, adapted to your individual health needs.

Stay hydrated and forget punishing diets.

Think nourishment, not restriction.

💜 MOVE | STRONGER FOR LONGER

You might be managing perfectly well today. But where do you want to be in 10, 20 or 30 years?

Still strong enough to manage your home, carry your shopping, climb the stairs and enjoy life on YOUR terms?

Or increasingly dependent on others for the things you once did without thinking?

For some, losing their independence can eventually mean leaving the home they’ve worked a lifetime to build, and even having to sell it to help pay for residential care.

Movement isn’t just about looking good or feeling fitter. It’s about protecting your ability to live independently for as long as possible.

Strength training, walking, mobility and balance exercises can help preserve the physical capability that makes everyday independence possible.

The strength you build and maintain today is an investment in the freedom you want tomorrow.

Keep It Simple. Keep It Fun. Keep Doing It!

💜 CALM | SUPPORT YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM

Gentle breathing, grounding techniques, time outdoors and genuine rest can all help calm an overwhelmed nervous system.

And breathing doesn’t need to be complicated!

No counting. No complicated patterns to remember.

Just remember: BREATHE OUT LONGER THAN YOU BREATHE IN.

A gentle, comfortable, longer exhale can help encourage your body’s relaxation response.

No forcing. No struggling. Just slow, comfortable breathing.

Small moments of calm can make a difference, but trauma-related distress may also need specialist support.

💜 MIND | UNDERSTAND, HEAL AND GROW

Recognise unhelpful patterns. Establish healthier boundaries. Reconnect with your own needs.

And where appropriate, seek support from a suitably qualified, trauma-informed professional.

You don’t have to carry everything alone.

💜 MEDICAL | GET THE RIGHT SUPPORT

Discuss persistent symptoms, HRT and non-hormonal options with a menopause-informed healthcare professional.

Consider other possible causes, including thyroid disorders, nutritional deficiencies and autoimmune conditions.

Ask about bone health, cardiovascular risk and appropriate screening.

Not every symptom is menopause. Not every symptom is simply ageing.

💜 RELATIONSHIPS | RECLAIM YOUR SPACE

Consider what supports your wellbeing, what drains it and what boundaries you may need.

Midlife can be an opportunity to decide what you want the years ahead to look and feel like.

✨ AND HERE’S THE MOST IMPORTANT PART.

You don’t need to change everything overnight.

You don’t need the perfect diet, exercise programme or morning routine.

You need knowledge, support and realistic changes that fit YOUR life.

Changes that gradually become part of who you are, rather than another list of responsibilities.

Because the goal isn’t simply to get through menopause.

It’s to protect your health, rebuild confidence, maintain independence and create a future you genuinely want to live.

💜 You don’t have to do everything.

💜 You don’t have to do it alone.

💜 Start with what works for YOU.

THE WHOLE WOMAN. NOT JUST HER HORMONES.

MIND • MOVE • THRIVE 💜

15/10/2026

💜 WORLD MENOPAUSE DAY | PART 4 💜

✨ WHEN THE PAST MEETS PERIMENOPAUSE ✨

And imagine being told you’re simply stressed, emotional or going through the change.

But what if there’s something far deeper happening?

💜 BECAUSE A WOMAN DOESN’T ARRIVE AT PERIMENOPAUSE AS A BLANK PAGE.

She arrives carrying her entire life.

The childhood abuse nobody knew about.

The neglect nobody recognised.

The abandonment, rejection and grief she learnt to bury.

The betrayal, humiliation and fear she swallowed.

The relationships that taught her love came with conditions.

And the experiences she was never old enough, or safe enough, to understand.

So she adapted.

She learnt to be quiet. To please others. To anticipate danger. To hide her feelings.

To survive.

And survive she did.

She built a life. Raised children. Worked. Loved. Laughed.

Became the woman everybody relied upon.

But surviving something doesn’t necessarily mean its emotional impact has been resolved.

💜 AND THEN COMES PERIMENOPAUSE.

Hormones fluctuate. Sleep deteriorates. Anxiety increases. Emotional resilience can feel stretched to breaking point.

And for some women with histories of trauma, something deeply unsettling can happen.

The past begins bubbling back to the surface.

The fear she thought she’d conquered.

The grief she believed she’d buried.

The shame, rejection and abandonment she spent decades trying to escape.

Memories, emotions and trauma-related reactions she thought were behind her can suddenly feel frighteningly present.

It’s as though somebody has opened Pandora’s box.

Nightmares. Intrusive memories. Panic. Overwhelming emotions.

A heightened sensitivity to conflict, criticism or rejection.

The survival strategies that once kept her functioning may no longer feel enough.

And she may have absolutely NO idea why.

💜 THIS ISN’T JUST AN ANECDOTAL EXPERIENCE. THERE IS RESEARCH BEHIND IT.

A 2024 systematic review examining 21 studies identified the perimenopausal and postmenopausal years as potentially vulnerable periods for women with trauma histories.

Researchers highlighted the possible reemergence or worsening of PTSD symptoms, depression and other trauma-related difficulties during reproductive ageing.

Other studies have found associations between adverse childhood experiences and greater menopause symptom severity.

The precise biological mechanisms are still being investigated, and this doesn’t mean menopause inevitably releases suppressed memories.

But it does mean that trauma-related distress resurfacing or intensifying during this transition is a recognised concern, not something women should simply be expected to dismiss.

💜 SO HOW MANY WOMEN HAVE BEEN LEFT BELIEVING THEY WERE LOSING THEIR MINDS?

How many have been told they’re overemotional?

How many have received treatment for individual symptoms without anyone exploring their wider history?

How many have simply continued surviving, just as they learnt to do decades earlier?

Because menopause doesn’t happen in isolation from the life a woman has lived.

💜 THIS IS WHY MENOPAUSE-INFORMED CARE MUST ALSO BE TRAUMA-AWARE.

We need professionals who listen.

Who recognise that the effects of trauma can remain long after the original experiences.

Who understand how hormonal fluctuations, disrupted sleep, stress responses and psychological wellbeing may interact.

And who don’t dismiss physical symptoms as psychological, or psychological distress as simply hormonal.

Because sometimes the question isn’t just:

“What’s wrong with her?”

It’s also:

“What happened to her?”

What did she survive?

What losses has she carried?

What has she never felt safe enough to speak about?

And what support has she ever truly received?

Not every woman has experienced trauma. Not every woman with trauma will experience worsening symptoms.

But when trauma is part of her history, it deserves recognition, compassion and, where needed, appropriate specialist support.

This isn’t weakness. It isn’t failure. And it isn’t something she should simply have to endure.

💜 Her history matters.

💜 Her experiences matter.

💜 Her physical and psychological wellbeing matter.

THE WHOLE WOMAN. NOT JUST HER HORMONES.

Because sometimes the most devastating struggles are connected to wounds nobody ever knew existed.

And no woman should have to navigate that experience without understanding, compassion and appropriate support.

💜 Tomorrow, we turn towards hope and action.

What women CAN do, what support is available, and how informed choices can help them move from simply surviving towards genuinely thriving.

MIND • MOVE • THRIVE 💜

14/10/2026

💜 WORLD MENOPAUSE DAY | PART 3 💜

✨ HOW CAN YOU RECOGNISE WHAT NOBODY EVER TAUGHT YOU? ✨

Imagine your body changing in ways you cannot explain, whilst nobody can tell you why.

Imagine being exhausted beyond belief, unable to sleep, struggling to think clearly and wondering where the woman you once knew has gone.

Imagine your joints aching, your heart racing, your confidence disappearing and your skin feeling as though insects are crawling beneath it.

And imagine having absolutely NO idea that perimenopause might be involved.

Because for generations, menopause meant three things.

Your childbearing years were ending.

You’d have hot flushes.

And you’d probably become a little moody!

And that was pretty much the extent of our education.

Nobody explained that perimenopause could begin years before periods stopped.

Nobody prepared us for the sheer range of symptoms, or how debilitating some could become.

💜 THE PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS

Crushing fatigue. Insomnia. Night sweats. Palpitations. Migraines. Joint and muscle pain. Stiffness. Dizziness. Skin changes. Hair loss. Changes in weight and body composition.

Burning, tingling, prickling and electric-shock-like sensations.

And formication, that deeply unsettling feeling of insects crawling across or beneath your skin.

I’ve experienced many of these symptoms myself, although certainly not all of them.

And I know how frightening it can be when your body begins changing in ways you cannot explain, particularly when nobody has prepared you for what perimenopause might involve.

💜 THE COGNITIVE AND EMOTIONAL SYMPTOMS

Brain fog. Memory problems. Difficulty finding words. Anxiety. Panic attacks. Low mood. Irritability. Loss of confidence.

Sometimes a frightening feeling that you no longer recognise yourself.

💜 THE INTIMATE AND LONG-TERM HEALTH CHANGES

Vaginal and vulval dryness. Burning. Painful intimacy. Urinary urgency and recurrent urinary symptoms.

Changes in sexual desire, muscle mass, bone density and longer-term cardiovascular and metabolic health.

And even that isn’t the whole picture.

💜 THEN THERE’S INFLAMMATION, HORMONES AND AUTOIMMUNE DISEASE.

And this is a conversation we desperately need to have.

Because reproductive hormones don’t just influence fertility. They also interact with our immune system.

Research has identified important links between hormonal transitions, including pregnancy and menopause, and the development or progression of certain autoimmune diseases.

For some women, these hormonal changes may influence inflammatory activity or coincide with the onset or worsening of autoimmune conditions.

Conditions such as Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, Sjögren’s syndrome, lupus-related disorders, inflammatory arthritis and vitiligo.

And this is something that resonates profoundly with my own experience.

My history of autoimmune illness began during my reproductive years, when I developed antiphospholipid antibodies associated with devastating pregnancy losses.

Then, during perimenopause, my health deteriorated dramatically.

It felt as though something had been triggered all over again.

One autoimmune diagnosis seemed to follow another, until I was living with eight.

And nobody had explained that hormonal changes and immune function could be connected.

Research doesn’t establish that menopause directly causes every autoimmune disease.

But it does show that hormonal transitions can influence immune regulation and that the relationship deserves far greater attention.

Imagine living through that, without even knowing there might be a connection worth investigating.

And imagine how different the experience might be if women and their healthcare professionals understood these possibilities from the outset.

💜 AND THERE’S ONE CONDITION I PARTICULARLY WANT WOMEN TO KNOW ABOUT.

LICHEN SCLEROSUS.

Imagine relentless vulval itching, burning, painful splitting of the skin and, sometimes, scarring and changes to the vulval anatomy.

Imagine the impact on your comfort, sleep, confidence, intimacy and everyday life.

And imagine being told it’s simply part of getting older.

Lichen sclerosus is a chronic inflammatory skin condition, not simply menopausal dryness.

It can occur at any age, although it’s more commonly diagnosed after menopause, and requires proper diagnosis, treatment and ongoing monitoring.

So how does a woman know what to question when she’s never been told what might happen?

How does she know whether she’s experiencing perimenopause, an autoimmune flare, a neurological problem or something else entirely?

How does she know when symptoms need investigation rather than reassurance that it’s just ageing?

She cannot be expected to know what nobody has ever explained.

Some women experience relatively few symptoms.

Others find their health, relationships, careers and everyday lives profoundly affected.

This isn’t about frightening women.

It’s about refusing to leave them frightened by symptoms they don’t understand.

Because genuine menopause education isn’t simply knowing the word.

It’s understanding the possibilities, recognising when something isn’t right and knowing that symptoms deserve to be taken seriously.

THE WHOLE WOMAN. NOT JUST HER HORMONES.

💜 Tomorrow, we’re going somewhere even deeper.

Because sometimes the most devastating challenges of perimenopause aren’t only about what’s happening to a woman’s body.

They’re about what happened to her long before perimenopause began.

The trauma. The losses. The childhood wounds. The experiences buried for decades.

And what can happen when the past begins to feel painfully present again.

MIND • MOVE • THRIVE

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13/10/2026

💜 WORLD MENOPAUSE DAY | PART 2 💜

✨ SHE DIDN’T HAVE THE LUXURY OF FALLING APART. ✨

Imagine your whole world falling apart whilst everyone around you thinks you’re coping.

Imagine escaping a traumatic relationship, becoming a single mother to two young children and having to rebuild your entire life.

Imagine changing careers, studying, working and desperately trying to create financial security.

Because if you don’t provide, nobody else will.

Imagine discovering that the friendships you thought you had only existed because YOU were the one making all the effort.

And when you stopped organising the laughter, the evenings out and the get-togethers, the invitations and phone calls simply disappeared.

Imagine carrying all of this with nobody to catch you when you fall.

Now imagine that, at the very same time, your body begins to change.

Your energy disappears.

Your sleep deteriorates.

Your emotional resilience crumbles.

Your physical health begins to suffer.

And you have absolutely no idea that perimenopause might be contributing to what you’re experiencing.

Because nobody told you.

Nobody explained the physical, psychological and emotional changes that could accompany it.

Nobody warned you how those changes might collide with the enormous pressures already consuming your life.

And here’s the cruelest part.

You don’t have the luxury of falling apart.

There are children to feed. Bills to pay. Responsibilities to meet. A life to rebuild.

So you keep going.

Not because you’re coping.

Not because you’re superhuman.

But because stopping simply isn’t an option.

I know this because I lived it.

Much of my own perimenopause unfolded whilst I was raising two young children alone, navigating significant trauma, rebuilding my career and trying to keep our lives together.

During those years, my health also began to change profoundly.

And nobody told me anything about menopause.

Not one meaningful conversation.

Not one explanation that might have helped me understand what was happening.

I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

And I still wonder how different those years might have been with the knowledge and support I deserved.

💜 Menopause doesn’t happen in isolation.

It happens in the middle of real lives. Sometimes extraordinarily difficult ones.

And we cannot understand a woman’s experience without understanding the circumstances in which she’s living it.

Her health. Her history. Her relationships. Her responsibilities. Her losses. Her fears.

THE WHOLE WOMAN. NOT JUST HER HORMONES.

Because no woman should have to look back on some of the hardest years of her life and say:

“Nobody told me.” 💜

MIND • MOVE • THRIVE



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💜 WORLD MENOPAUSE DAY | PART 2 💜

✨ SHE DIDN’T HAVE THE LUXURY OF FALLING APART. ✨

Imagine your whole world falling apart whilst everyone thinks you’re coping.

Imagine escaping trauma, raising two young children alone, rebuilding your career and fighting for financial security.

Imagine discovering that when you stop making all the effort, even the friendships disappear.

Now imagine your body begins to change too.

Your energy disappears. Your sleep deteriorates. Your emotional resilience crumbles. Your health begins to suffer.

And you have absolutely NO idea that perimenopause might be contributing.

Because nobody told you.

But there are children to feed. Bills to pay. A life to rebuild.

So you keep going.

Not because you’re coping.

Not because you’re superhuman.

But because stopping simply isn’t an option.

I know. Because I lived it.

And I still wonder how different those years might have been if I’d understood what was happening to me.

💜 Menopause doesn’t happen in isolation.

It happens in the middle of real lives. Sometimes extraordinarily difficult ones.

THE WHOLE WOMAN. NOT JUST HER HORMONES.

Because no woman should have to look back on some of the hardest years of her life and say:

“Nobody told me.” 💜

MIND • MOVE • THRIVE

12/10/2026

💜 WORLD MENOPAUSE DAY | 18 OCTOBER 2026 💜

✨ Different Experiences. Same Strength. ✨

We’ve all seen the hilarious videos, memes and self-deprecating posts about menopause. And sometimes, being able to laugh at ourselves and share those experiences is exactly what we need.

Because humour matters. Connection matters. And feeling understood matters.

But here’s something worth thinking about…

Not every woman experiences menopause in the same way. And not every woman has the same support, circumstances or security around her.

For some, there’s laughter, love, understanding and people to lean on.

For others, life looks very different.

And sometimes, behind the biggest smile is a woman carrying far more than anyone realises.

💜 This World Menopause Day, let’s celebrate the laughter, the friendships and the strength of women, whilst remembering that every woman’s journey is uniquely her own.

Over the coming days, I’ll be sharing a little more about the realities of menopause, the challenges we don’t always see, and why understanding the whole woman matters so much.

Because menopause is about so much more than hormones.

MIND • MOVE • THRIVE

10/10/2026

21/07/2026

🌿 THIS TIME STARTS NOW

Week 2 • Day 7 of 10

Borrowed Beliefs

Have you ever noticed…

How often we introduce ourselves…

By the very things we wish weren’t true?

“I’m shy.”

“I’m hopeless with money.”

“I’m useless with technology.”

“I’m too old.”

“I’m not disciplined.”

“I’m one of life’s worriers.”

We don’t just think them…

We say them.

Out loud.

Again.

And again.

Until one day…

We stop describing ourselves…

And start defining ourselves.

“That’s just who I am.”

We wear it almost like a badge of honour.

A reason not to try.

A reason not to change.

A reason to avoid anything that feels uncomfortable.

Because…

“That’s just who I am.”

But…

Who decided?

Because here’s something worth remembering…

You weren’t born believing any of those things.

You learnt them.

You borrowed them.

Perhaps from…

A parent.

A teacher.

A bully.

A partner.

One painful experience.

One careless comment.

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🌿 Today’s Frankie Nugget

You may not have installed the belief…

But every time you repeat it…

You strengthen it.

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Every time you repeat it…

You rehearse it.

You strengthen it.

Eventually…

You stop questioning it.

And when you stop questioning it…

You start living it.

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🧭 Today’s Tool

The next time you hear yourself saying…

“That’s just who I am.”

Pause.

Then ask yourself…

“Who decided?”

Is this really who I am…

Or is this simply a borrowed belief…

I’ve repeated for so long…

It now feels like the truth?

Because if you didn’t create it…

You don’t have to keep carrying it.

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🐻 A Little Bear Pause

What’s one thing you’ve been calling yourself…

That you’d never dream of calling someone you love?

Maybe…

It’s time to stop calling yourself that too.

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💬 Join the Conversation

Have you ever caught yourself saying…

“That’s just who I am…”

Only to realise…

It might not actually be true?

I’d genuinely love to hear your thoughts.

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💛 Your Next Step

Changing your life doesn’t always begin with changing your circumstances.

Sometimes…

It begins by questioning the stories you’ve been repeating for years.

Whether your goal is better health…

More confidence…

Greater strength…

A new career…

A thriving business…

Or simply becoming more of the person you’ve always wanted to be…

It all starts with the beliefs you choose to strengthen.

When I work with people…

We don’t simply talk about tools.

We learn how to spot the old patterns.

Question them.

Challenge them.

Replace them.

And gradually strengthen beliefs that move life forwards instead of keeping it stuck.

Because reading about a tool is one thing…

Learning how to make it work in your own life…

Is something else entirely.

That’s where The Activ8 Code™ comes to life.

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🌿 The Activ8 Code™

The Activ8 Code™ isn’t about fixing you.

It’s about realising the influence you’ve had all along…

And learning how to put that influence to work for you.

Real Tools • Deep Shifts • True Change™

🌿 You may not have installed the belief…

But every time you repeat it…

You strengthen it.

This Time Starts Now. ❤️

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🌿 These daily steps are inspired by The Activ8 Code™, a practical framework built around one simple belief…

When we change the things that create our outcomes…

…our outcomes begin to change too.

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📖 Your Journey Continues…

This is Step 7 of our 10-step journey.

Tomorrow…

We’ll discover what to do with the beliefs that no longer deserve space in your life.

🗑️ Bin It!™

Missed a step?

Simply scroll back and start at Day 1.

Each step builds on the last.

Until then…

Keep Moving. 🌿🐻

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Frances Carter Coaching
Activ8Change

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